Personal Development
Do We Really Have Free Will?
Do humans truly truly have free will? Don’t be an April fool.
Energy Polarity: How to Balance Feminine and Masculine Energies
Question from a reader: “How do you balance masculine and feminine energies?”
How Some Spiritual Beliefs Breed Codependency
The flip side of spiritual narcissism is spiritual codependency. Do you think you’re responsible for manifesting all of the shit people and situations that have come into your life? It might be time to reexamine that frame of mind.
Fear Is Not A Dirty Word
Fear gets a bad rap in New Age spirituality. I’m here to argue that certain, very obvious kinds of fear need to fuck off, but other kinds of fear are actually quite helpful in helping you determine where your edges are.
Narcissistic Empaths and the Narcissist / Empath Relationship
You’ll find a lot of wildly popular information on the internet talking about thee relationship between narcissists and empaths, and how these two polar opposites ends up attracting each other. Surprise! They don’t. Here’s why.
The Fine Line Between Boundaries and Bypassing
Are you actually setting boundaries? Or are you using spiritual concepts to avoid being triggered? Let’s discuss.
On Cancelling Cancel Culture
Digging into cancel culture, racism, sexism, bias, and bigotry today. Oh my! As well as what these all have to do with spirituality.
Spirituality’s Relationship With Mental Illness
Spirituality and mental illness have a complex relationship. My goal today is to talk about mental illness within the spiritual community in a way that can help those of you reading this recognize just how pervasive it is in the spiritual community and help you identify spiritual people–psychics, channels, influencers, whomever–suffering from mental illness, all the while without stigmatizing it.
Why QAnon Infected The Spiritual and Wellness Communities
I’ve been receiving a lot of comments on my posts lately from people within the spiritual community and outside of it all saying the same thing: “I don’t understand how people got from spirituality to QAnon.” Hold my beer, I’m gonna draw you a diagram…
Have You Been the Victim of Spiritual Abuse?
I’ve seen (and been subjected to) spiritual abuse many times throughout my spiritual journey. I’ve compiled all the signs and symptoms of spiritual abuse that I’ve observed so that you can spot it.
How Separation Consciousness Masks Itself In Spiritual Unity
One of the main goals of spirituality is to move away from separation consciousness and ascend by achieving unity consciousness, but separation consciousness has infiltrated spirituality (!). Are you unknowingly embodying separation consciousness in the name of spirituality?
The Shadow of Spirituality
The time has come for the spiritual community to confront its own shadow.
How to Spot a Spiritually Immature Wellness Influencer
Learn how to identify people who’ve placed themselves in positions of power and authority who perhaps have no business being there.
Spirit, Science, and Metaphysics
You can’t be anti-science AND be spiritual. Here’s why.
Abuse and The Law of Attraction
For a community that is supposed to be focused on love, light, and healing, New Agers have invented and contributed to some of the most toxic, harmful, bullshit ideologies on the planet, and nine times out of ten, the Law of Attraction is behind it. Here’s what everybody gets wrong about LOA.
The Shadow Self and Shadow Work’s Role In Spirituality
I talk about shadow work all the time on social media. I’ve had a few people ask me questions about what the shadow is, what shadow work involves, and express an interest in learning more, so I’ve revamped an old post to provide a better explanation, as well as make a connection between spirituality and psychology that I think is often overlooked or misunderstood in the spiritual community.
5 Toxic People To Avoid On Your Spiritual Journey
There’s five people we all meet on our spiritual journey that we wish we hadn’t. Here’s who they are, how to spot them, why you should avoid them.
11 Phases of Spiritual Growth
There are common phases we all experience on our spiritual journey, as well as common pitfalls. This post outlines a few that I’ve noticed and experienced, as well as some advice and warnings about the dangers you may face.
Recognizing And Understanding Synchronicity
One thing we all look for on our spiritual path is signs. Signs help guide us, give us validation, and simply give us hints that there’s more to reality than meets the eye. We call those signs “synchronicities.” But is it really synchronicity? Or is it something else?
Speak Your Truth, But Be Forewarned…
I originally wrote the first half of this post in 2015, but I came across something on Facebook last night that reminded me of it and I had some additional thoughts to add. The phrase “Speak your truth” comes with a couple of important caveats. I’m diving into a new one in the second half of this post.
Materialistic Spirituality
I don’t talk about manifesting a lot, even though it’s all the rage. Here’s why.
Are You Awake or Just Woke?
One of, if not the most common misconceptions I see the “wake up sheeple” crowd make is believing that being awake means that you are “woke” to the ills of the world. That’s not what being awake means at all. Not even close. It also doesn’t (only) mean that you are aware that there is more to the universe than what is physically in front of it. It’s deeper than all of these things.
Is There A Correct Spiritual Path?
It’s been ages since I’ve done a Q&A post, but this was submitted as a comment on my post about spiritual teacher credibility and I thought it was worth addressing for a broader audience.
How To Know If A Spiritual Teacher Is Credible
The concept of credibility came up in my post on critical thinking and spirituality yesterday. I think part of our issue today with all of the misinformation floating around is that a lot of people don’t really understand what credibility means. Today I’m going to give you a rundown of what makes someone credible in the realms of science and journalism, and how to apply that to spirituality.
Are You A Critical Thinker?
I posted a poll in my Facebook group a couple of weeks ago asking which topics people would be most interested in having me write about, and critical thinking within the context of spirituality came out on top by far. I think it’s an especially important topic in this day and age when there’s so much misinformation swirling about on the internet. Consider this your crash course in the foundations of critical thinking.
Do We Manifest Abusive Experiences?
It’s time to talk about toxic spiritual concepts and its contribution to victim shaming and the enabling of abusive dynamics.
The Divine Feminist
All of the world’s problems (and yours) come down to this.
Do Not Look Away
This post might make you uncomfortable. Can you sit with that discomfort long enough to figure out where it’s coming from? Let’s find out.
The Great Awakening
You think you understand awakening…but do you?
I Challenge You
Want to know what kind of energy you’re embodying right now? Answer these questions to find out.
Spiritual Politics
Are your spiritual leaders telling you who to vote for? If so, you might want to reconsider who you’re listening to. Here’s a tip on how to evaluate the people you put on a pedestal.
What Price Freedom?
Reposting an old article from 2017 that seems relevant right now: Donald Trump showed up in my dream last night and taught me an important lesson. Here’s what happened.
Four Ways to Stay Sane Over the Next Two Months
I know things have been intense these last two weeks, especially here in the greater New York City area, and they are only going to get more intense in the next few weeks as cases continue to rise. Here’s four strategies that can help your mental health survive the next few weeks.
I Quit
The day I thought would never come has arrived. This the end of In My Sacred Space.
The Day I Threw My Career In The Trash
Eighteen months ago, I abruptly shuttered my business as a marketing, business, and branding consultant for tech startups. Here’s why.
Confessions of Avoidant Attachment Personality
Reflections and ruminations about self-destructive behavioral patterns and how they affect interpersonal relationships, particularly those of a romantic nature.
An Open Letter To All The Men Who Have Failed Me
A cathartic personal expression of my own abandonment wound.
Recognizing and Breaking Negative Relationship Patterns
Have you ever met another person that you felt inexplicably drawn to, thought they were “the one” and then ended up having your heart broken? Do you have this nagging feeling that you keep dating the same person, over and over? If you can’t understand why your relationships seem to always end up going the same way, no matter who you’re dating or how much chemistry you have, this post is for you.
A Year Without Sex
One year ago, I stopped having sex. Here’s why.
Collective Feminine Rage
A larger collective theme that has been going on since this time last year when #MeToo first broke the silence is the core wounding of women and the feminine. Globally, for centuries, women have been violently raped, murdered, suppressed, controlled, burned as witches and enslaved as sex servants. We’ve never been truly safe, and we’re really pissed off about it.
The Success Trap
I realized a while ago that material success is an ego trap. A shiny distraction from what really matters.
A Bystander’s Guide to Suicide
Advice from a reluctant pro on being someone else’s lifeline.
Astrological Shit Storm On Approach
Friday, July 27th, is a full moon in Aquarius that also happens to be a total lunar eclipse. This phenomena is known as a “blood moon” and it’s coming in strong. Here’s a breakdown.
The Oxygen Mask Analogy
God knows I love a good fixer upper project. I’m the queen of the come up, and I’ll turn another man’s trash into treasure all day err’ day. This excellent, innovative ability to see untapped potential, revitalize and make use out of broken or unwanted things takes a turn for the worst in other parts of my personality, when I try to revitalize and make use out of broken people.
Grief, Interrupted
How anger interrupted my grieving process.
Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Deepening Relationships
Creating deep, meaningful relationships was a major goal of mine when I moved to New York. I picked quite the challenging city for it, but I seem to be figuring it out, and I think what I’m discovering is something that’s needed here, of all places.
Aligning With Your True Self
I’ve always been fascinated with how accurately (or inaccurately) people perceive me and whether or not I present myself as I actually am. Today I’ve got a little exercise for you to help me find out.
Cultivating Radical Vulnerability
SURPRISE! You get another blog post. I’m not going to lie, this is probably one of my favorites that I’ve written to date.
The Healing Spiral
Healing is not a linear process, but rather, an upward spiral of sorts. You process things cyclically and each time it comes around, you peel back another layer and get closer to your core. That’s certainly been true for me over the last several months, and I do feel like I’m starting to reach the pinnacle of it all. Finally.
Love Without Limits
This won’t surprise some of you, as you may have guessed it from things I’ve written over the last three or four years, but I’ve never said it outright. It’s something I had to settle into internally, and then slowly, my life shifted to match (as within, so without… you know the drill).
Baby Steps
I posted this to my Facebook group already, but thought it was worth sharing (and adding to) for the blog. This is going to sound really silly to some of you, I’m sure, but I just reached a really big personal care milestone.
Whiskey, Neat, With A Shot of Vulnerability
When Sunday brunch turns into an all-day bar crawl therapy session like the Friday night before, you just go with it.
Finding Purpose in the New Paradigm
The universe sends me messages disguised as messages for others. Are you looking for purpose? Here’s how to find it.
Workshopping My Life
Things in my world are still changing rapidly. I’m still learning to let go of the old me, piece by piece. Here’s what’s on the cutting block this week, plus a small request.
How to NOT Sexually Harass a Woman and Mind Your Own Fucking Business
Surprise! You get a Saturday post because Ash is fired the fuck up. Get ready for an earful of F bombs and a whole lot of “Fuck off!”
The Other Side
There comes a time in our lives when are brought to the precipice of a great change. We are asked to rise to our own challenges, let go of all of the fears and insecurities that have kept us caged our entire lives, and make a leap into darkness of the unknown. To cross the chasm between our destiny and what we’ve never allowed ourselves to be.
Daddy Issues
Unless you’ve been in my Facebook group for a while, you’ve probably never heard me talk much about my dad. Today, you get to peek behind the curtain. What you’re going to see isn’t pretty.
Finding Your Emotional Mooring
There are days where you feel thoroughly tethered to reality. You’re solid. You’re secure. You’re centered. And then there are days where you feel like you’re floating away, hanging on to the last shred of sanity for dear life. As we enter into the midst of the August eclipses, many of you will find yourselves facing down some of your greatest self-sabotaging patterns in one final showdown. It’s do or die.
Stop Using Spirituality to Kick Your Own Ass
I made a startling realization about myself last night. Ok, it wasn’t very startling. It’s a pattern that I’ve been ignoring for quite some time and never fully acknowledged until now.
How Does Love Show Up In The New Paradigm?
Question from a reader:
“I totally get the higher vibe love but I don’t know how that is supposed to present it self to some of us. It certainly is not love n’ fluff (or hell, maybe it is), but I believe it has more to do with being in our truth and power. And I may have had some flavors or glimpses of what that feels like but in general I just have no clue. How does higher love show up?”
Love & Purpose In The New Paradigm And What It Means For You
A shift is coming that’s going to change the way you live your life. Do you see it? Do you feel it? Is it already changing you? VIDEO: Susan Grace and I discuss what to expect from relationships as we evolve into the new paradigm. Let me know if you’re experiencing any of this in your own life.
Why Do We Need Boundaries?
If we’re all one, how can we have boundaries? And why should we?
When Purpose Calls
My life is changing in a big way and I wanted to tell you about it.
13 Reasons Why
Today I’m talking about suicide, sexual assault, domestic violence and all the feels.
How Dreams Can Predict The Future
Question from a reader: “Can dreams predict the future?”
The Dark Side of Positivity
There’s a dangerous kind of thinking perpetuating the New Age community from all sides. Bullshit New Age content farms are hocking over simplified clickbait social media content on a daily basis leading people into an ideology that keeps them locked in a low-level conscious state. Here’s how to spot it.
Feel All The Feels
Maybe, as a society, we don’t need to “toughen up.” Maybe we just need to grow up a little, but in a very different way than what you’d expect.
The Purpose of The Ego
Question from a reader: “I’ve been considering writing a blog for over 5 years. One of the largest questions I ask is: what makes what I have to say so special that warrants a blog. This concern feels like what you describe as the (spiritual) “ego” but I’m also curious about the role of the ego in terms of how society/pop culture use the term. So my question is: what is the role/relationship of (pop culture) ego with (spiritual) ego?”
What Clairaudience Is Like
Question from a reader:
“How do you know if it’s your loved one talking to you, or your subconscious?”
Healers Need Boundaries Too: The Unrealistic Expectations of Healers and Spiritual Figures
Just because you’re a healer doesn’t mean you have to sacrifice yourself. Don’t let others tell you otherwise… plus – another Woo Woo Wine Night: Intro to Tarot has been added. Sign up while you still can!
Belief and Manifestation
Question from a reader:
“Hey Ashley! I’ve been reading about manifestation a lot and how our fundamental/subconscious beliefs draw experiences to us. After realizing what we subconsciously believe, what’s the best way to change it? For example, I’m realizing I’ve always believed that God won’t give me the things I want–I’ve entwined “struggle” with God’s will. Is it best to work “top down” with mantras? Or is there another way?”
Coping With Anxiety
Question from a reader:
“I have bad anxiety in my life and I know how to overcome it, it is just hard to do it when I feel down or just everything bad goes on, any tips?”
Can Your Ego Screw Up Divine Timing?
Question from a reader: “Some spiritual teachers who are totally loving have come across my path recently and talked about how ego can override divine timing. That you must be ‘aligned with your higher self’ to be a recipient of divine timing. I thought divine timing was always working? I realized all this talk about aligning with your higher self is just another way of making people feel bad about their choices. Could be my own issue because of what I’ve been dealing with lately–but aren’t we all already enough? Don’t we have it inside of us already?”
A Beginner’s Guide to Meditation
Meditation allows us to reach alpha state most often, and theta state in the most practiced meditators. Each of these states produce a different kind of intuitive experience and allow us to access different levels of our multidimensional self. I find that most novices don’t realize that there are different types of meditation and each type lends itself to an entirely different purpose.
The Fundamental Energy Behind Manifestation
Law of Attraction is often confused with the concept of Karma, or people take it at a very literal, surface level and believe that their thoughts, quite literally, manifest around them. Ha! If only it were that simple! In today’s blog post, I’ll try to explain how we create complex belief structures around the fundamental beliefs that live in our subconscious mind and how those things are the mechanism from which Law of Attraction is set in motion.
Acknowledging Your Fear
Our worst fears about ourselves live in our subconscious mind, occasionally floating close enough to the surface for us to become mildly aware of, but most of the time, we quickly shove them back into the depths and pretend it never happened. However, in order to fully integrate our shadow selves, we must do the opposite.
What’s in a Self? Soul, Personality & Ego
“I am a bit confused about personality and soul. I understand about being in alignment and think I can feel when I am in it. However I am not sure if this is because I am in alignment with my personality or soul. If I live not in balance with my personality, I am soon aware that I don’t feel in alignment, but I thought that our personalities are just cloaks for our souls? Rarely do I feel urge to do something which I wouldn’t ordinarily do and wondered if this is soul overriding personality?”
Recurring Dreams and Repressed Trauma
Curious as to what a full dream interpretation could look like and what it might reveal? Here’s a recurring dream submitted by an anonymous reader where I go through the symbolism found within and the messages of what’s being communicated.
Surrender, Acceptance, Nonresistance and Alignment
Question from a reader: “Many times in the past few years, numerous people have told me to surrender. I have heard of the term “surrender” but I do not really understand it, I guess. I know it is about letting go of taking control over your life and your emotions. I am having a hard time trying to figure out how to surrender. My question is how do you surrender and how do you know if you surrendered your life?”
Dream Walking
The last couple of posts have talked about out of body experiences and astral projection as it pertains to our individual experiences. Today I’m going to talk about something similar but a little bit different – dream walking.
Dream walking is when you enter the dreams of others, or when they enter your dreams. Some may also experience this as a shared dream.
Astral Projection
With astral projection, you can also be lucid, or totally unconscious, or somewhere in between but you’re usually not fully in this dimension. What I mean by that is, with an OBE, everything around you looks the same as it does when you’re in your body. With Astral projection, it typically doesn’t, if you’re even “here” at all.
Out of Body Experiences
I’m a little bit surprised that I’ve had this blog for over two years now and I’ve yet to write a post about or even receive a question submission regarding out of body experiences and/or astral projection – thought I know that we’ve discussed it a few times in various groups here and there.
More people have experienced OBEs than you’d ever think, and to be honest, all of you astral project pretty much every single night. You just don’t usually remember it.
When You Continually Find Yourself in Abusive Relationships
I feel very much like I live feeling everyone is part of myself. However I seem to always have abusive people involved in my life. How can I improve my situation? So far only my faith in God is keeping me strong but there are only so many roads we can travel.
Universal Archetypes: The Connection Between Tarot, Numerology, Dream Interpretation, Palmistry and Astrology
Did you know that numerology, astrology, dream interpretation, tarot and palmistry are all connected? A lot of times when you learn about these things independently, you may miss the ways they all intersect. Learn more about archetypes in today’s blog post.
When “Let It Go” Doesn’t Cut It
When you want to throat punch the next person who tells you to “Let it go.”
What’s in an Ego?
Is the ego good or bad? Should we be trying to get rid of it? Tame it? What is it? And what do you do with it? All this and more in today’s blog post.
The Systemic Perpetuation of Sexism, Sexual Harassment and Sexual Assault
Women experience their own cultural traumas as a collective, mostly in the form of sexual trauma, that needs to be healed on an individual level, but we also need to begin to recognize this problem as a societal issue.
The Relationship Between Shame and Addiction
Question from a reader: “I would like to know what the HELL the addiction theme that keeps rearing its ugly head in my life is teaching me because I would really like to learn that lesson and get the f*ck on with it! Any thoughts on that?”
Buddha Inspired Meditation Spaces
I mentioned that as I go through my old posts and adjust the layout, I might re-publish a few oldies but goodies and hidden gems. I’m a little late for Throwback Thursday and Flashback Friday, but just in time for a Way Back Weekend. This was the very first blog post I wrote on here besides my intro 🙂 It also happens to be one of my most pinned posts on Pinterest.
How to Know if You Should End a Relationship
Recently a friend of mine sought my advice about her latest relationship and whether or not she should break things off with a guy who she was crazy about at first, but who seemed critical of her personality. It’s easy to drop someone who is an asshole and tells you that who you are isn’t who you should be, but it’s more difficult when they’re nice about it and attempt to disguise it as “helping you be a better person.” She’d had enough of changing who she is to please another person, and wondered should she just end it now?
Dream Visitations
Question from a reader: “I hardly ever dream of my mother. About 10 years ago I dreamed we were in the same room and she was washing dishes and I was asking her a question about picking polk and if it was poison. She turned to me with a smile, like always, and replied in a soft voice, “Now honey, you just follow your heart.” And then she dried her hands and told me what to look for. She went to the big long buffet and open the bottom drawer and pulled out a nice, clean flour sack and said, “Here is something to put them in.” What do you think these mean?”
When Everything Falls Apart
There are times in life – and for some of us, those times seem more frequent than others – when it appears as though we are completely enveloped in darkness. All hope seems lost. Our hearts ache. The world as we knew it is crumbling all around us.
In times like these, it’s easy to fall prey to your limited perspective and to feel as though you can’t go on. All you see around you is the darkness. You cannot see what’s on the other side.
Everyone Laments The Death of the Institution of Marriage, But Maybe it Needs to Die
It seems like every day we’re bombarded with the statistic that 50% of marriages today end in divorce (even though that hasn’t been true since the 70s and 80s). Have you ever considered that maybe the reason that the institution of marriage seems to be failing so hard is because it’s an outdated dinosaur of a concept that can’t survive in the new paradigm?
Should We Never Get Angry?
I think, in the spiritual community, we often confuse healthy anger with bitterness and rage (unhealthy anger), which leads us to shun any and all expressions of anger. I know I’ve been guilty of that in the past, but anger can also be a healthy emotion. Here’s some tips to figure out whether or not anger is justified.
11 Consciousness-Raising Documentaries For Spiritual Awakening
If you’re like me, you’re taking a few days off around the holidays and you’re probably going to be looking forward to doing a little Netflix and chill after the fam heads out of town. If that be the case, here’s a few documentaries you might want to check out, personally viewed, approved, and highly recommended by me.
Enhanced Kundalini Meditation With Frankincense Essential Oil
Looking to enhance your daily meditations, decalcify your pineal gland, and make a better connection to your higher self? This might be the thing you’re looking for.
Gratitude is the Foundation of Happiness
These last two weeks – actually more like last month and a half or so – have felt extremely heavy and draining to me. From personal struggles to global events, it feels like the world is upside down. All that’s really happening is that change is in the air, but it can be emotionally exhausting and that’s where I’m at right now. And Thanksgiving is right around the corner, which means I’ll be feeling doubly zapped. But it’s times like these – especially when times are like these – that we really have to take stock of the full context of our situations and not just what we’re currently focused on.
Your Definitive Guide to Debunking Orbs: Lens Flares
A handy guide on identifying a naturally occurring phenomena that is often confused for spirit orbs.
When Dreams Aren’t Just Dreams
Question from a reader: “I have about 7 dream interpretation books. I have searched online, but can find no answer for this dream. I dreamed a healer was blowing a deep orange energy, like a mist, into my mouth through a tube as I lay in bed. It seemed to be a transference of energy. But what does that mean, exactly?”
Shame and Codependency
Toxic shame often lies at the core of addiction and codependency.
When Psychics and Spiritual Teachers Feel “Off”
I’m sure many of you have had experiences where you’ve come across a spiritual teacher who just didn’t resonate with you, or perhaps you had a psychic reading from someone that just didn’t feel quite right. In those times, we often doubt ourselves, because we’re still placing our faith in things and people outside of ourselves. But it’s of the utmost importance to trust your instincts.
Group Consciousness
Question from a reader: “Group Consciousness: If the birds in the sky and the fishes in the sea can all move and turn at the same time, why can’t we?”
Coming Out of the Psychic Closet
I know that a great deal of my readers are probably “in the closet” so to speak. Your friends and your family don’t know about your beliefs, and you don’t dare talk to them about it because you don’t want to have to deal with the inevitable strange looks, the questioning of your sanity, or the condemnation that you’re going to hell for what you believe. There’s always a bit of a struggle about whether or not you should be open about who you really are and the things you’ve experienced.
Telepathy
In a post earlier this week, I discussed the differences between telepathy and channeling and promised that I’d write another post discussing telepathy more in-depth…and here it is.
Discerning The Internet: Misinformation, Media Bias, Conspiracies, and Fake Quotes
I think this is a HUGELY important topic among spiritual people for one reason: For people who are allegedly so concerned with finding the Truth, they sure do circulate an awful lot of bullshit. That being said, it is of the utmost importance that each of us takes responsibility for detaching ourselves from what we WANT to be true, and get off our lazy asses to find out what actually IS true.
What is Enlightenment?
What is enlightenment? How does achieving it changes your perception, energy, psychology and what is its exact mechanism?
The Road to Happiness is Paved with Zero Fucks
We’re often told that happiness is a choice and that it is found within. But that can come off as being extremely contrived to someone who is in the throes of an unhappy situation. Find happiness with this simple, incredibly freeing phrase…FUCK IT.
How I Let Go of Fear
I literally remember the very instant that I let go of a large swath of fear-based beliefs. It felt like a ton of bricks had been lifted off of my shoulders and I would never have known that I was carrying around all of that weight if it were not for just how noticeable the difference was after letting it go.
The decision to let go of fear is easy. Like flipping a switch. Arriving at that decision – deciding to flip the switch – is the hard part.
Understanding Dimensions, Densities and Ascension
One of the more difficult concepts to grasp when it comes to spiritual metaphysics is the idea of what exactly constitutes a dimension. So what is all of this talk about 3D and fourth dimension and fifth density, anyway?
Self-Love Is Not Selfishness
Question from a reader:
“For some reason, my quiet soul draws strong, demanding people in my life! It seems they only want me around when they need something from me. Some have also talked down to me in sarcastic ways or do not listen when I speak up. I am starting to get fed up with people like this! My question is how to not attract people like this in the first place and what do I do with the ones I have in my life right now? Thank you!”
Power, Control, and Understanding Boundaries
You hear a lot of talk about boundaries. “Set boundaries.” “Uphold boundaries.” “Don’t overstep boundaries.” But what exactly does that mean and what does it look like?
How To Spot A Narcissist and Narcissistic Abuse
Actual narcissistic personality disorder is one of the most misunderstood disorders by the general public and often confused with simply being ego-centric, which is not considered a disorder.
The One Thing You Must Do Before Developing Your Psychic Abilities
It’s really hard to see clearly when there’s a yucky film on your glasses. It’s really hard to hear someone clearly when there’s a ton of background noise. It’s really hard to talk when you have a sore throat. All of these things get in the way of your ability to clearly communicate. So what’s getting in the way of your ability to communicate with spirit?
Why Fear-Based Belief Systems Are Distorted
A person lives in a fear-based belief system when they have not yet remembered who they really are and still cling to fearful beliefs and perceptions. When they have not yet realized that everything in their world is love, and the only thing that makes it appear as fear is their limited understanding of it.
Why We Have Recurring Dreams
Question from a reader: “My son, Jaden, passed away in 2012. He was 10 years old. He was also born with down syndrome, autism, medically fragile the entire time and I guess you can say cognitively, between 18 months old to 2 years old. So for about the last three years, I have had, I feel, intrusive dreams of my sons fragile state and all his surgeries. I also have had many dreams of holding him in my belly to protect him over and over! Why these repetitive, specific dreams? Is it the healing process of chronic trauma, or PTSD, or part of the grieving process? Any suggestions?”
Types of Dreams
Dreams are very rarely 100% literal. As I mentioned in a previous blog post about dream interpretation, dreams are often a mix of varying types of symbolism. Today, let’s take a look at the various types of symbolism as well as the different levels of consciousness that a dream can occur, and talk about how to decipher it’s role in your own dreams.
The Difference Between Venting and Releasing Emotion
Question from a reader: “When someone else says, ‘I need to vent,’ or ‘I need to get this off my chest,’ – Do you think/feel it’s good for those involved in that conversation? I personally don’t agree with that type of discussion, avoiding those who really LOVE to vent. It appears those who do that are looking for others to share in the dense energy they’ve created out of their own ‘situation.’ Any other thoughts on this subject?”
The Hypocrisy of Preaching Non Judgment
Have you ever noticed how hard it is to tell someone not to be critical or judgmental without being, well, critical and judgmental?
There’s a quote by Wayne Dyer that says, “When you judge another, you do not define them. You define yourself.”
Let’s Talk About Sex: Part 2
On Monday I started the first half of my post talking about sex and spirituality. I touched on just how out-of-touch our society is when it comes to sex and even ourselves, and all the things that are causing us to be blocked from experiencing true joy with our bodies and our hearts.
So how do we begin to undo what has been done?
Let’s Talk About Sex
Sex is probably one of, if not the most misunderstood, taboo subject on the planet in our current culture. So many people have shame and discomfort around sex, many of us aren’t even completely aware of it. I would wager that there’s a very large percentage of people out there who are engaging in sex under varying degrees of emotional numbness.
Breaking Belief: Recognizing Deep Rooted Belief Patterns
Learn how to identify some of the most deeply rooted belief systems and societal programming.
What Is Your Life’s Purpose?
Question from a reader:
“I have had a difficult time trying to figure out what my life purpose is. Right now, it seems like it could go so many ways. I keep jumping back and forth between what I think I should do with my life and I am unable to decide. How can I find direction in my life and career? I just feel like I need someone or something to give me a little push and tell me which option to pursue.”
Balancing Belief, Discernment, and Sanity
Question from a reader: “I struggle with noticing synchronicities; rather, I struggle with an internal dialog of feeling nuts when I notice synchronicity. Banish fear, sure. But there’s a difference between discernment and neurosis. I guess that’s a good description of the elements at play…”
How To Interpret Your Dreams
Question from a reader: “I have been awakening for awhile now and more comes all the time. Last night I had an experience of cool breath blowing into my mouth. I prayed Hail Mary and felt light glowing all inside and outside my body. My heart was so full and felt open and sharing energy. I heard so clearly, “We are taking you home.” I dreamed of water and so many faces, and my house that I owned before I met my husband. I know the time is so different so it doesn’t mean I’m dying now. Or was it to say the dream was a visit home?”
Fear-Based Spiritual Protection
Question from a reader:
“Are spiritual protection methods rooted in fear? In my opinion,the very need for protection seems to suggest elements of fear, lack of trust (in all that is,”you”), and a need to control.”
Shifting Perspective: How to Love Your Body
I spent last week on a beach in Hawaii. I don’t know about you, but typically that’s when my self-loathing seems to peak – when I’m constantly comparing my body to that of other people. I think about how many times I said, “I hate my body.” This one small realization completely shifted the way I thought about myself.
Are You Psychic?
Question from a reader: “Before my great nan died, whenever the phone rang early in the morning every time I was with my dad my stomach dropped. The last Christmas we had with her, I asked my cousin do you think this will be our last Christmas with nan? And he said no, but I said yes it will be. Then the day she died I was at my dad’s house and the phone rang early in the morning. Somehow I knew. I’m still confused how I was going to find out. Does this mean I have a little bit of a physic ability or just a one timer sixth sense?”
Using Spirituality To Heal Current Situations
Question from a reader: “How can I use my spirituality and new awareness to help heal my addiction and the friction it caused with the relationships in my life?”
How and Why Should We Evolve?
Question from a reader: “My question is not about the physical experience; I got that covered. Rather, I’m more interested in how and why we should evolve. For example, Jesus, Buddha, et al are ascended Masters. So how do we become ascended Masters? I understand there is the combining of knowledge (spiritual side) with experience (physical side) and that completes a needed segment…but what about evolution and ascension?”
Discernment – or – The Top 6 Things You Should Tell To Fuck Off
In a previous post, I went on a mini rampage about fear-based bullshit. Make no mistake about it, I have an exceptionally low tolerance for fear-mongering. That being said, there are a certain few things that tend to fall into that category, so without further pomp and circumstance, here are the top 6 things that make me say, “Fuck off.”
Three Ways To Cut The Cord On A Toxic Relationship
In reality, there’s really only one way to end a toxic relationship: LEAVE. But gathering the courage to do so can be difficult. You have to come to an understanding with yourself about what’s holding you there and in some ways, you have to put your own well-being above your significant other’s. Here are three things to help you gather the courage to put yourself first and walk away from a controlling or manipulative relationship.
How To Develop Self-Love
Question from a reader: “How can I develop or recognize self-love? How do you define self-love and what are the ways to practice self-love?” The way we think about self-love is COMPLETELY ASS BACKWARD. You have to turn your entire notion of it inside out.
How To Start Over
Question from a reader:
“I’ve had three important people in my life die – my son, my aunt, and my mother. I took care of my mother for three and a half years. I quit my job of 38 years and need to start a new life.” Check out this new blog post on how to start over.
The Influence of the Past on Present Behavior
Question from a reader: I am wondering about the events and teachings from early childhood that effect our later behavior. For instance, I have no control as a three year old regarding the free will of my parents. How do you view this and don’t we have to experience the feelings we cause once we are on the other side?
How to Cultivate Spiritual Strength
Question from a reader: I would like to know how to develop spiritual strength. Is there an easy process we can use to develop it?
How To Identify Stubborn Beliefs
A lot of us have beliefs that we KNOW are stubborn, we just can’t seem to kick them. And a lot have stubborn beliefs that we refuse to acknowledge are stubborn! How can we evaluate those beliefs and get rid of those that do not serve us?
Soulmates
Some people say we each have a soulmate and they are “the one” for us. Other people say we have many soulmates, and still others say there is no such thing as a soulmate, for we are all soulmates. So who’s definition is correct?
Seizing Your Personal Power Through Self-Destruction
The message behind the Death card is one of transition, endings and beginnings, the decay of old belief structures and the rise of new opportunities. That’s precisely the type of message you might receive during a period of self-reflection meant to tear down your ego. Transition to what, though?
8 Books on My Spiritual Reading List
People sometimes ask me, “How did you get to know so much about spirituality?!” I don’t necessarily think I’m a voice of authority or anything but I usually just tell them, “I read a lot.”
Well, I started thinking about it and I guess that isn’t entirely true. I haven’t read a ton of things – only about seven books, total, come to mind – but the ones that I have read have been very helpful, and now I’m going to give you that list in the order that I read them!
5 Ways to Recognize Your Intuition
Many times I’ve heard my husband say, “I don’t have a psychic bone in my body.” He claims that he’s never experienced a single intuitive episode in his entire life.
How much of that do you think is simply because he believes it?
Psychics and Spirituality
I think we have a tendency to just assume that simply because a person has the ability to connect with the other side, they must also have a direct line to get all the answers they’ve ever wanted or needed and therefore, they must surely be highly spiritually evolved people. That’s just not accurate.
Practicing Self-Awareness
You react to a person, they react to your reaction, other react to both of your reactions – this is the chain of events.
If you find yourself reacting strongly, especially in a negative way, that’s an automatic alarm that you need to start searching internally for the reason behind that reaction.
Emotion and Belief
How does one figure out how to check their reaction and choose love instead? Especially when we KNOW something is so horrible and so wrong (or at least, we believe it is).
Be the Change: Why Do Bad Things Happen?
“Be the change you want to see in the world.” That seems pretty straight forward, but what does it look like in practice? How can changing ourselves really affect change in the rest of the world?
When Will I Fall In Love?
Someone asked me a few days ago if I could tell them when they would fall in love again. This is what I know about relationships – there’s 2 kinds. The kind that devastates you, and the kind that elevates you. They work hand in hand. Whether or not you fall in love again is also entirely dependent upon YOU.
What Happens During A Past Life Regression
I had my first ever hypnotically-induced past life regression yesterday and it was quite the experience. I have to admit, it was a bit different than what I expected.
Do We Really Have Free Will?
Do humans truly truly have free will? Don’t be an April fool.
Energy Polarity: How to Balance Feminine and Masculine Energies
Question from a reader: “How do you balance masculine and feminine energies?”
How Some Spiritual Beliefs Breed Codependency
The flip side of spiritual narcissism is spiritual codependency. Do you think you’re responsible for manifesting all of the shit people and situations that have come into your life? It might be time to reexamine that frame of mind.
Fear Is Not A Dirty Word
Fear gets a bad rap in New Age spirituality. I’m here to argue that certain, very obvious kinds of fear need to fuck off, but other kinds of fear are actually quite helpful in helping you determine where your edges are.
Narcissistic Empaths and the Narcissist / Empath Relationship
You’ll find a lot of wildly popular information on the internet talking about thee relationship between narcissists and empaths, and how these two polar opposites ends up attracting each other. Surprise! They don’t. Here’s why.
The Fine Line Between Boundaries and Bypassing
Are you actually setting boundaries? Or are you using spiritual concepts to avoid being triggered? Let’s discuss.
On Cancelling Cancel Culture
Digging into cancel culture, racism, sexism, bias, and bigotry today. Oh my! As well as what these all have to do with spirituality.
Spirituality’s Relationship With Mental Illness
Spirituality and mental illness have a complex relationship. My goal today is to talk about mental illness within the spiritual community in a way that can help those of you reading this recognize just how pervasive it is in the spiritual community and help you identify spiritual people–psychics, channels, influencers, whomever–suffering from mental illness, all the while without stigmatizing it.
Why QAnon Infected The Spiritual and Wellness Communities
I’ve been receiving a lot of comments on my posts lately from people within the spiritual community and outside of it all saying the same thing: “I don’t understand how people got from spirituality to QAnon.” Hold my beer, I’m gonna draw you a diagram…
Have You Been the Victim of Spiritual Abuse?
I’ve seen (and been subjected to) spiritual abuse many times throughout my spiritual journey. I’ve compiled all the signs and symptoms of spiritual abuse that I’ve observed so that you can spot it.
How Separation Consciousness Masks Itself In Spiritual Unity
One of the main goals of spirituality is to move away from separation consciousness and ascend by achieving unity consciousness, but separation consciousness has infiltrated spirituality (!). Are you unknowingly embodying separation consciousness in the name of spirituality?
The Shadow of Spirituality
The time has come for the spiritual community to confront its own shadow.
How to Spot a Spiritually Immature Wellness Influencer
Learn how to identify people who’ve placed themselves in positions of power and authority who perhaps have no business being there.
Spirit, Science, and Metaphysics
You can’t be anti-science AND be spiritual. Here’s why.
Abuse and The Law of Attraction
For a community that is supposed to be focused on love, light, and healing, New Agers have invented and contributed to some of the most toxic, harmful, bullshit ideologies on the planet, and nine times out of ten, the Law of Attraction is behind it. Here’s what everybody gets wrong about LOA.
The Shadow Self and Shadow Work’s Role In Spirituality
I talk about shadow work all the time on social media. I’ve had a few people ask me questions about what the shadow is, what shadow work involves, and express an interest in learning more, so I’ve revamped an old post to provide a better explanation, as well as make a connection between spirituality and psychology that I think is often overlooked or misunderstood in the spiritual community.
5 Toxic People To Avoid On Your Spiritual Journey
There’s five people we all meet on our spiritual journey that we wish we hadn’t. Here’s who they are, how to spot them, why you should avoid them.
11 Phases of Spiritual Growth
There are common phases we all experience on our spiritual journey, as well as common pitfalls. This post outlines a few that I’ve noticed and experienced, as well as some advice and warnings about the dangers you may face.
Recognizing And Understanding Synchronicity
One thing we all look for on our spiritual path is signs. Signs help guide us, give us validation, and simply give us hints that there’s more to reality than meets the eye. We call those signs “synchronicities.” But is it really synchronicity? Or is it something else?
Speak Your Truth, But Be Forewarned…
I originally wrote the first half of this post in 2015, but I came across something on Facebook last night that reminded me of it and I had some additional thoughts to add. The phrase “Speak your truth” comes with a couple of important caveats. I’m diving into a new one in the second half of this post.
Materialistic Spirituality
I don’t talk about manifesting a lot, even though it’s all the rage. Here’s why.
Are You Awake or Just Woke?
One of, if not the most common misconceptions I see the “wake up sheeple” crowd make is believing that being awake means that you are “woke” to the ills of the world. That’s not what being awake means at all. Not even close. It also doesn’t (only) mean that you are aware that there is more to the universe than what is physically in front of it. It’s deeper than all of these things.
Is There A Correct Spiritual Path?
It’s been ages since I’ve done a Q&A post, but this was submitted as a comment on my post about spiritual teacher credibility and I thought it was worth addressing for a broader audience.
How To Know If A Spiritual Teacher Is Credible
The concept of credibility came up in my post on critical thinking and spirituality yesterday. I think part of our issue today with all of the misinformation floating around is that a lot of people don’t really understand what credibility means. Today I’m going to give you a rundown of what makes someone credible in the realms of science and journalism, and how to apply that to spirituality.
Are You A Critical Thinker?
I posted a poll in my Facebook group a couple of weeks ago asking which topics people would be most interested in having me write about, and critical thinking within the context of spirituality came out on top by far. I think it’s an especially important topic in this day and age when there’s so much misinformation swirling about on the internet. Consider this your crash course in the foundations of critical thinking.
Do We Manifest Abusive Experiences?
It’s time to talk about toxic spiritual concepts and its contribution to victim shaming and the enabling of abusive dynamics.
The Divine Feminist
All of the world’s problems (and yours) come down to this.
Do Not Look Away
This post might make you uncomfortable. Can you sit with that discomfort long enough to figure out where it’s coming from? Let’s find out.
The Great Awakening
You think you understand awakening…but do you?
I Challenge You
Want to know what kind of energy you’re embodying right now? Answer these questions to find out.
Spiritual Politics
Are your spiritual leaders telling you who to vote for? If so, you might want to reconsider who you’re listening to. Here’s a tip on how to evaluate the people you put on a pedestal.
What Price Freedom?
Reposting an old article from 2017 that seems relevant right now: Donald Trump showed up in my dream last night and taught me an important lesson. Here’s what happened.
Four Ways to Stay Sane Over the Next Two Months
I know things have been intense these last two weeks, especially here in the greater New York City area, and they are only going to get more intense in the next few weeks as cases continue to rise. Here’s four strategies that can help your mental health survive the next few weeks.
I Quit
The day I thought would never come has arrived. This the end of In My Sacred Space.
The Day I Threw My Career In The Trash
Eighteen months ago, I abruptly shuttered my business as a marketing, business, and branding consultant for tech startups. Here’s why.
Confessions of Avoidant Attachment Personality
Reflections and ruminations about self-destructive behavioral patterns and how they affect interpersonal relationships, particularly those of a romantic nature.
An Open Letter To All The Men Who Have Failed Me
A cathartic personal expression of my own abandonment wound.
Recognizing and Breaking Negative Relationship Patterns
Have you ever met another person that you felt inexplicably drawn to, thought they were “the one” and then ended up having your heart broken? Do you have this nagging feeling that you keep dating the same person, over and over? If you can’t understand why your relationships seem to always end up going the same way, no matter who you’re dating or how much chemistry you have, this post is for you.
A Year Without Sex
One year ago, I stopped having sex. Here’s why.
Collective Feminine Rage
A larger collective theme that has been going on since this time last year when #MeToo first broke the silence is the core wounding of women and the feminine. Globally, for centuries, women have been violently raped, murdered, suppressed, controlled, burned as witches and enslaved as sex servants. We’ve never been truly safe, and we’re really pissed off about it.
The Success Trap
I realized a while ago that material success is an ego trap. A shiny distraction from what really matters.
A Bystander’s Guide to Suicide
Advice from a reluctant pro on being someone else’s lifeline.
Astrological Shit Storm On Approach
Friday, July 27th, is a full moon in Aquarius that also happens to be a total lunar eclipse. This phenomena is known as a “blood moon” and it’s coming in strong. Here’s a breakdown.
The Oxygen Mask Analogy
God knows I love a good fixer upper project. I’m the queen of the come up, and I’ll turn another man’s trash into treasure all day err’ day. This excellent, innovative ability to see untapped potential, revitalize and make use out of broken or unwanted things takes a turn for the worst in other parts of my personality, when I try to revitalize and make use out of broken people.
Grief, Interrupted
How anger interrupted my grieving process.
Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Deepening Relationships
Creating deep, meaningful relationships was a major goal of mine when I moved to New York. I picked quite the challenging city for it, but I seem to be figuring it out, and I think what I’m discovering is something that’s needed here, of all places.
Aligning With Your True Self
I’ve always been fascinated with how accurately (or inaccurately) people perceive me and whether or not I present myself as I actually am. Today I’ve got a little exercise for you to help me find out.
Cultivating Radical Vulnerability
SURPRISE! You get another blog post. I’m not going to lie, this is probably one of my favorites that I’ve written to date.
The Healing Spiral
Healing is not a linear process, but rather, an upward spiral of sorts. You process things cyclically and each time it comes around, you peel back another layer and get closer to your core. That’s certainly been true for me over the last several months, and I do feel like I’m starting to reach the pinnacle of it all. Finally.
Love Without Limits
This won’t surprise some of you, as you may have guessed it from things I’ve written over the last three or four years, but I’ve never said it outright. It’s something I had to settle into internally, and then slowly, my life shifted to match (as within, so without… you know the drill).
Baby Steps
I posted this to my Facebook group already, but thought it was worth sharing (and adding to) for the blog. This is going to sound really silly to some of you, I’m sure, but I just reached a really big personal care milestone.
Whiskey, Neat, With A Shot of Vulnerability
When Sunday brunch turns into an all-day bar crawl therapy session like the Friday night before, you just go with it.
Finding Purpose in the New Paradigm
The universe sends me messages disguised as messages for others. Are you looking for purpose? Here’s how to find it.
Workshopping My Life
Things in my world are still changing rapidly. I’m still learning to let go of the old me, piece by piece. Here’s what’s on the cutting block this week, plus a small request.
How to NOT Sexually Harass a Woman and Mind Your Own Fucking Business
Surprise! You get a Saturday post because Ash is fired the fuck up. Get ready for an earful of F bombs and a whole lot of “Fuck off!”
The Other Side
There comes a time in our lives when are brought to the precipice of a great change. We are asked to rise to our own challenges, let go of all of the fears and insecurities that have kept us caged our entire lives, and make a leap into darkness of the unknown. To cross the chasm between our destiny and what we’ve never allowed ourselves to be.
Daddy Issues
Unless you’ve been in my Facebook group for a while, you’ve probably never heard me talk much about my dad. Today, you get to peek behind the curtain. What you’re going to see isn’t pretty.
Finding Your Emotional Mooring
There are days where you feel thoroughly tethered to reality. You’re solid. You’re secure. You’re centered. And then there are days where you feel like you’re floating away, hanging on to the last shred of sanity for dear life. As we enter into the midst of the August eclipses, many of you will find yourselves facing down some of your greatest self-sabotaging patterns in one final showdown. It’s do or die.
Stop Using Spirituality to Kick Your Own Ass
I made a startling realization about myself last night. Ok, it wasn’t very startling. It’s a pattern that I’ve been ignoring for quite some time and never fully acknowledged until now.
How Does Love Show Up In The New Paradigm?
Question from a reader:
“I totally get the higher vibe love but I don’t know how that is supposed to present it self to some of us. It certainly is not love n’ fluff (or hell, maybe it is), but I believe it has more to do with being in our truth and power. And I may have had some flavors or glimpses of what that feels like but in general I just have no clue. How does higher love show up?”
Love & Purpose In The New Paradigm And What It Means For You
A shift is coming that’s going to change the way you live your life. Do you see it? Do you feel it? Is it already changing you? VIDEO: Susan Grace and I discuss what to expect from relationships as we evolve into the new paradigm. Let me know if you’re experiencing any of this in your own life.
Why Do We Need Boundaries?
If we’re all one, how can we have boundaries? And why should we?
When Purpose Calls
My life is changing in a big way and I wanted to tell you about it.
13 Reasons Why
Today I’m talking about suicide, sexual assault, domestic violence and all the feels.
How Dreams Can Predict The Future
Question from a reader: “Can dreams predict the future?”
The Dark Side of Positivity
There’s a dangerous kind of thinking perpetuating the New Age community from all sides. Bullshit New Age content farms are hocking over simplified clickbait social media content on a daily basis leading people into an ideology that keeps them locked in a low-level conscious state. Here’s how to spot it.
Feel All The Feels
Maybe, as a society, we don’t need to “toughen up.” Maybe we just need to grow up a little, but in a very different way than what you’d expect.
The Purpose of The Ego
Question from a reader: “I’ve been considering writing a blog for over 5 years. One of the largest questions I ask is: what makes what I have to say so special that warrants a blog. This concern feels like what you describe as the (spiritual) “ego” but I’m also curious about the role of the ego in terms of how society/pop culture use the term. So my question is: what is the role/relationship of (pop culture) ego with (spiritual) ego?”
What Clairaudience Is Like
Question from a reader:
“How do you know if it’s your loved one talking to you, or your subconscious?”
Healers Need Boundaries Too: The Unrealistic Expectations of Healers and Spiritual Figures
Just because you’re a healer doesn’t mean you have to sacrifice yourself. Don’t let others tell you otherwise… plus – another Woo Woo Wine Night: Intro to Tarot has been added. Sign up while you still can!
Belief and Manifestation
Question from a reader:
“Hey Ashley! I’ve been reading about manifestation a lot and how our fundamental/subconscious beliefs draw experiences to us. After realizing what we subconsciously believe, what’s the best way to change it? For example, I’m realizing I’ve always believed that God won’t give me the things I want–I’ve entwined “struggle” with God’s will. Is it best to work “top down” with mantras? Or is there another way?”
Coping With Anxiety
Question from a reader:
“I have bad anxiety in my life and I know how to overcome it, it is just hard to do it when I feel down or just everything bad goes on, any tips?”
Can Your Ego Screw Up Divine Timing?
Question from a reader: “Some spiritual teachers who are totally loving have come across my path recently and talked about how ego can override divine timing. That you must be ‘aligned with your higher self’ to be a recipient of divine timing. I thought divine timing was always working? I realized all this talk about aligning with your higher self is just another way of making people feel bad about their choices. Could be my own issue because of what I’ve been dealing with lately–but aren’t we all already enough? Don’t we have it inside of us already?”
A Beginner’s Guide to Meditation
Meditation allows us to reach alpha state most often, and theta state in the most practiced meditators. Each of these states produce a different kind of intuitive experience and allow us to access different levels of our multidimensional self. I find that most novices don’t realize that there are different types of meditation and each type lends itself to an entirely different purpose.
The Fundamental Energy Behind Manifestation
Law of Attraction is often confused with the concept of Karma, or people take it at a very literal, surface level and believe that their thoughts, quite literally, manifest around them. Ha! If only it were that simple! In today’s blog post, I’ll try to explain how we create complex belief structures around the fundamental beliefs that live in our subconscious mind and how those things are the mechanism from which Law of Attraction is set in motion.
Acknowledging Your Fear
Our worst fears about ourselves live in our subconscious mind, occasionally floating close enough to the surface for us to become mildly aware of, but most of the time, we quickly shove them back into the depths and pretend it never happened. However, in order to fully integrate our shadow selves, we must do the opposite.
What’s in a Self? Soul, Personality & Ego
“I am a bit confused about personality and soul. I understand about being in alignment and think I can feel when I am in it. However I am not sure if this is because I am in alignment with my personality or soul. If I live not in balance with my personality, I am soon aware that I don’t feel in alignment, but I thought that our personalities are just cloaks for our souls? Rarely do I feel urge to do something which I wouldn’t ordinarily do and wondered if this is soul overriding personality?”
Recurring Dreams and Repressed Trauma
Curious as to what a full dream interpretation could look like and what it might reveal? Here’s a recurring dream submitted by an anonymous reader where I go through the symbolism found within and the messages of what’s being communicated.
Surrender, Acceptance, Nonresistance and Alignment
Question from a reader: “Many times in the past few years, numerous people have told me to surrender. I have heard of the term “surrender” but I do not really understand it, I guess. I know it is about letting go of taking control over your life and your emotions. I am having a hard time trying to figure out how to surrender. My question is how do you surrender and how do you know if you surrendered your life?”
Dream Walking
The last couple of posts have talked about out of body experiences and astral projection as it pertains to our individual experiences. Today I’m going to talk about something similar but a little bit different – dream walking.
Dream walking is when you enter the dreams of others, or when they enter your dreams. Some may also experience this as a shared dream.
Astral Projection
With astral projection, you can also be lucid, or totally unconscious, or somewhere in between but you’re usually not fully in this dimension. What I mean by that is, with an OBE, everything around you looks the same as it does when you’re in your body. With Astral projection, it typically doesn’t, if you’re even “here” at all.
Out of Body Experiences
I’m a little bit surprised that I’ve had this blog for over two years now and I’ve yet to write a post about or even receive a question submission regarding out of body experiences and/or astral projection – thought I know that we’ve discussed it a few times in various groups here and there.
More people have experienced OBEs than you’d ever think, and to be honest, all of you astral project pretty much every single night. You just don’t usually remember it.
When You Continually Find Yourself in Abusive Relationships
I feel very much like I live feeling everyone is part of myself. However I seem to always have abusive people involved in my life. How can I improve my situation? So far only my faith in God is keeping me strong but there are only so many roads we can travel.
Universal Archetypes: The Connection Between Tarot, Numerology, Dream Interpretation, Palmistry and Astrology
Did you know that numerology, astrology, dream interpretation, tarot and palmistry are all connected? A lot of times when you learn about these things independently, you may miss the ways they all intersect. Learn more about archetypes in today’s blog post.
When “Let It Go” Doesn’t Cut It
When you want to throat punch the next person who tells you to “Let it go.”
What’s in an Ego?
Is the ego good or bad? Should we be trying to get rid of it? Tame it? What is it? And what do you do with it? All this and more in today’s blog post.
The Systemic Perpetuation of Sexism, Sexual Harassment and Sexual Assault
Women experience their own cultural traumas as a collective, mostly in the form of sexual trauma, that needs to be healed on an individual level, but we also need to begin to recognize this problem as a societal issue.
The Relationship Between Shame and Addiction
Question from a reader: “I would like to know what the HELL the addiction theme that keeps rearing its ugly head in my life is teaching me because I would really like to learn that lesson and get the f*ck on with it! Any thoughts on that?”
Buddha Inspired Meditation Spaces
I mentioned that as I go through my old posts and adjust the layout, I might re-publish a few oldies but goodies and hidden gems. I’m a little late for Throwback Thursday and Flashback Friday, but just in time for a Way Back Weekend. This was the very first blog post I wrote on here besides my intro 🙂 It also happens to be one of my most pinned posts on Pinterest.
How to Know if You Should End a Relationship
Recently a friend of mine sought my advice about her latest relationship and whether or not she should break things off with a guy who she was crazy about at first, but who seemed critical of her personality. It’s easy to drop someone who is an asshole and tells you that who you are isn’t who you should be, but it’s more difficult when they’re nice about it and attempt to disguise it as “helping you be a better person.” She’d had enough of changing who she is to please another person, and wondered should she just end it now?
Dream Visitations
Question from a reader: “I hardly ever dream of my mother. About 10 years ago I dreamed we were in the same room and she was washing dishes and I was asking her a question about picking polk and if it was poison. She turned to me with a smile, like always, and replied in a soft voice, “Now honey, you just follow your heart.” And then she dried her hands and told me what to look for. She went to the big long buffet and open the bottom drawer and pulled out a nice, clean flour sack and said, “Here is something to put them in.” What do you think these mean?”
When Everything Falls Apart
There are times in life – and for some of us, those times seem more frequent than others – when it appears as though we are completely enveloped in darkness. All hope seems lost. Our hearts ache. The world as we knew it is crumbling all around us.
In times like these, it’s easy to fall prey to your limited perspective and to feel as though you can’t go on. All you see around you is the darkness. You cannot see what’s on the other side.
Everyone Laments The Death of the Institution of Marriage, But Maybe it Needs to Die
It seems like every day we’re bombarded with the statistic that 50% of marriages today end in divorce (even though that hasn’t been true since the 70s and 80s). Have you ever considered that maybe the reason that the institution of marriage seems to be failing so hard is because it’s an outdated dinosaur of a concept that can’t survive in the new paradigm?
Should We Never Get Angry?
I think, in the spiritual community, we often confuse healthy anger with bitterness and rage (unhealthy anger), which leads us to shun any and all expressions of anger. I know I’ve been guilty of that in the past, but anger can also be a healthy emotion. Here’s some tips to figure out whether or not anger is justified.
11 Consciousness-Raising Documentaries For Spiritual Awakening
If you’re like me, you’re taking a few days off around the holidays and you’re probably going to be looking forward to doing a little Netflix and chill after the fam heads out of town. If that be the case, here’s a few documentaries you might want to check out, personally viewed, approved, and highly recommended by me.
Enhanced Kundalini Meditation With Frankincense Essential Oil
Looking to enhance your daily meditations, decalcify your pineal gland, and make a better connection to your higher self? This might be the thing you’re looking for.
Gratitude is the Foundation of Happiness
These last two weeks – actually more like last month and a half or so – have felt extremely heavy and draining to me. From personal struggles to global events, it feels like the world is upside down. All that’s really happening is that change is in the air, but it can be emotionally exhausting and that’s where I’m at right now. And Thanksgiving is right around the corner, which means I’ll be feeling doubly zapped. But it’s times like these – especially when times are like these – that we really have to take stock of the full context of our situations and not just what we’re currently focused on.
Your Definitive Guide to Debunking Orbs: Lens Flares
A handy guide on identifying a naturally occurring phenomena that is often confused for spirit orbs.
When Dreams Aren’t Just Dreams
Question from a reader: “I have about 7 dream interpretation books. I have searched online, but can find no answer for this dream. I dreamed a healer was blowing a deep orange energy, like a mist, into my mouth through a tube as I lay in bed. It seemed to be a transference of energy. But what does that mean, exactly?”
Shame and Codependency
Toxic shame often lies at the core of addiction and codependency.
When Psychics and Spiritual Teachers Feel “Off”
I’m sure many of you have had experiences where you’ve come across a spiritual teacher who just didn’t resonate with you, or perhaps you had a psychic reading from someone that just didn’t feel quite right. In those times, we often doubt ourselves, because we’re still placing our faith in things and people outside of ourselves. But it’s of the utmost importance to trust your instincts.
Group Consciousness
Question from a reader: “Group Consciousness: If the birds in the sky and the fishes in the sea can all move and turn at the same time, why can’t we?”
Coming Out of the Psychic Closet
I know that a great deal of my readers are probably “in the closet” so to speak. Your friends and your family don’t know about your beliefs, and you don’t dare talk to them about it because you don’t want to have to deal with the inevitable strange looks, the questioning of your sanity, or the condemnation that you’re going to hell for what you believe. There’s always a bit of a struggle about whether or not you should be open about who you really are and the things you’ve experienced.
Telepathy
In a post earlier this week, I discussed the differences between telepathy and channeling and promised that I’d write another post discussing telepathy more in-depth…and here it is.
Discerning The Internet: Misinformation, Media Bias, Conspiracies, and Fake Quotes
I think this is a HUGELY important topic among spiritual people for one reason: For people who are allegedly so concerned with finding the Truth, they sure do circulate an awful lot of bullshit. That being said, it is of the utmost importance that each of us takes responsibility for detaching ourselves from what we WANT to be true, and get off our lazy asses to find out what actually IS true.
What is Enlightenment?
What is enlightenment? How does achieving it changes your perception, energy, psychology and what is its exact mechanism?
The Road to Happiness is Paved with Zero Fucks
We’re often told that happiness is a choice and that it is found within. But that can come off as being extremely contrived to someone who is in the throes of an unhappy situation. Find happiness with this simple, incredibly freeing phrase…FUCK IT.
How I Let Go of Fear
I literally remember the very instant that I let go of a large swath of fear-based beliefs. It felt like a ton of bricks had been lifted off of my shoulders and I would never have known that I was carrying around all of that weight if it were not for just how noticeable the difference was after letting it go.
The decision to let go of fear is easy. Like flipping a switch. Arriving at that decision – deciding to flip the switch – is the hard part.
Understanding Dimensions, Densities and Ascension
One of the more difficult concepts to grasp when it comes to spiritual metaphysics is the idea of what exactly constitutes a dimension. So what is all of this talk about 3D and fourth dimension and fifth density, anyway?
Self-Love Is Not Selfishness
Question from a reader:
“For some reason, my quiet soul draws strong, demanding people in my life! It seems they only want me around when they need something from me. Some have also talked down to me in sarcastic ways or do not listen when I speak up. I am starting to get fed up with people like this! My question is how to not attract people like this in the first place and what do I do with the ones I have in my life right now? Thank you!”
Power, Control, and Understanding Boundaries
You hear a lot of talk about boundaries. “Set boundaries.” “Uphold boundaries.” “Don’t overstep boundaries.” But what exactly does that mean and what does it look like?
How To Spot A Narcissist and Narcissistic Abuse
Actual narcissistic personality disorder is one of the most misunderstood disorders by the general public and often confused with simply being ego-centric, which is not considered a disorder.
The One Thing You Must Do Before Developing Your Psychic Abilities
It’s really hard to see clearly when there’s a yucky film on your glasses. It’s really hard to hear someone clearly when there’s a ton of background noise. It’s really hard to talk when you have a sore throat. All of these things get in the way of your ability to clearly communicate. So what’s getting in the way of your ability to communicate with spirit?
Why Fear-Based Belief Systems Are Distorted
A person lives in a fear-based belief system when they have not yet remembered who they really are and still cling to fearful beliefs and perceptions. When they have not yet realized that everything in their world is love, and the only thing that makes it appear as fear is their limited understanding of it.
Why We Have Recurring Dreams
Question from a reader: “My son, Jaden, passed away in 2012. He was 10 years old. He was also born with down syndrome, autism, medically fragile the entire time and I guess you can say cognitively, between 18 months old to 2 years old. So for about the last three years, I have had, I feel, intrusive dreams of my sons fragile state and all his surgeries. I also have had many dreams of holding him in my belly to protect him over and over! Why these repetitive, specific dreams? Is it the healing process of chronic trauma, or PTSD, or part of the grieving process? Any suggestions?”
Types of Dreams
Dreams are very rarely 100% literal. As I mentioned in a previous blog post about dream interpretation, dreams are often a mix of varying types of symbolism. Today, let’s take a look at the various types of symbolism as well as the different levels of consciousness that a dream can occur, and talk about how to decipher it’s role in your own dreams.
The Difference Between Venting and Releasing Emotion
Question from a reader: “When someone else says, ‘I need to vent,’ or ‘I need to get this off my chest,’ – Do you think/feel it’s good for those involved in that conversation? I personally don’t agree with that type of discussion, avoiding those who really LOVE to vent. It appears those who do that are looking for others to share in the dense energy they’ve created out of their own ‘situation.’ Any other thoughts on this subject?”
The Hypocrisy of Preaching Non Judgment
Have you ever noticed how hard it is to tell someone not to be critical or judgmental without being, well, critical and judgmental?
There’s a quote by Wayne Dyer that says, “When you judge another, you do not define them. You define yourself.”
Let’s Talk About Sex: Part 2
On Monday I started the first half of my post talking about sex and spirituality. I touched on just how out-of-touch our society is when it comes to sex and even ourselves, and all the things that are causing us to be blocked from experiencing true joy with our bodies and our hearts.
So how do we begin to undo what has been done?
Let’s Talk About Sex
Sex is probably one of, if not the most misunderstood, taboo subject on the planet in our current culture. So many people have shame and discomfort around sex, many of us aren’t even completely aware of it. I would wager that there’s a very large percentage of people out there who are engaging in sex under varying degrees of emotional numbness.
Breaking Belief: Recognizing Deep Rooted Belief Patterns
Learn how to identify some of the most deeply rooted belief systems and societal programming.
What Is Your Life’s Purpose?
Question from a reader:
“I have had a difficult time trying to figure out what my life purpose is. Right now, it seems like it could go so many ways. I keep jumping back and forth between what I think I should do with my life and I am unable to decide. How can I find direction in my life and career? I just feel like I need someone or something to give me a little push and tell me which option to pursue.”
Balancing Belief, Discernment, and Sanity
Question from a reader: “I struggle with noticing synchronicities; rather, I struggle with an internal dialog of feeling nuts when I notice synchronicity. Banish fear, sure. But there’s a difference between discernment and neurosis. I guess that’s a good description of the elements at play…”
How To Interpret Your Dreams
Question from a reader: “I have been awakening for awhile now and more comes all the time. Last night I had an experience of cool breath blowing into my mouth. I prayed Hail Mary and felt light glowing all inside and outside my body. My heart was so full and felt open and sharing energy. I heard so clearly, “We are taking you home.” I dreamed of water and so many faces, and my house that I owned before I met my husband. I know the time is so different so it doesn’t mean I’m dying now. Or was it to say the dream was a visit home?”
Fear-Based Spiritual Protection
Question from a reader:
“Are spiritual protection methods rooted in fear? In my opinion,the very need for protection seems to suggest elements of fear, lack of trust (in all that is,”you”), and a need to control.”
Shifting Perspective: How to Love Your Body
I spent last week on a beach in Hawaii. I don’t know about you, but typically that’s when my self-loathing seems to peak – when I’m constantly comparing my body to that of other people. I think about how many times I said, “I hate my body.” This one small realization completely shifted the way I thought about myself.
Are You Psychic?
Question from a reader: “Before my great nan died, whenever the phone rang early in the morning every time I was with my dad my stomach dropped. The last Christmas we had with her, I asked my cousin do you think this will be our last Christmas with nan? And he said no, but I said yes it will be. Then the day she died I was at my dad’s house and the phone rang early in the morning. Somehow I knew. I’m still confused how I was going to find out. Does this mean I have a little bit of a physic ability or just a one timer sixth sense?”
Using Spirituality To Heal Current Situations
Question from a reader: “How can I use my spirituality and new awareness to help heal my addiction and the friction it caused with the relationships in my life?”
How and Why Should We Evolve?
Question from a reader: “My question is not about the physical experience; I got that covered. Rather, I’m more interested in how and why we should evolve. For example, Jesus, Buddha, et al are ascended Masters. So how do we become ascended Masters? I understand there is the combining of knowledge (spiritual side) with experience (physical side) and that completes a needed segment…but what about evolution and ascension?”
Discernment – or – The Top 6 Things You Should Tell To Fuck Off
In a previous post, I went on a mini rampage about fear-based bullshit. Make no mistake about it, I have an exceptionally low tolerance for fear-mongering. That being said, there are a certain few things that tend to fall into that category, so without further pomp and circumstance, here are the top 6 things that make me say, “Fuck off.”
Three Ways To Cut The Cord On A Toxic Relationship
In reality, there’s really only one way to end a toxic relationship: LEAVE. But gathering the courage to do so can be difficult. You have to come to an understanding with yourself about what’s holding you there and in some ways, you have to put your own well-being above your significant other’s. Here are three things to help you gather the courage to put yourself first and walk away from a controlling or manipulative relationship.
How To Develop Self-Love
Question from a reader: “How can I develop or recognize self-love? How do you define self-love and what are the ways to practice self-love?” The way we think about self-love is COMPLETELY ASS BACKWARD. You have to turn your entire notion of it inside out.
How To Start Over
Question from a reader:
“I’ve had three important people in my life die – my son, my aunt, and my mother. I took care of my mother for three and a half years. I quit my job of 38 years and need to start a new life.” Check out this new blog post on how to start over.
The Influence of the Past on Present Behavior
Question from a reader: I am wondering about the events and teachings from early childhood that effect our later behavior. For instance, I have no control as a three year old regarding the free will of my parents. How do you view this and don’t we have to experience the feelings we cause once we are on the other side?
How to Cultivate Spiritual Strength
Question from a reader: I would like to know how to develop spiritual strength. Is there an easy process we can use to develop it?
How To Identify Stubborn Beliefs
A lot of us have beliefs that we KNOW are stubborn, we just can’t seem to kick them. And a lot have stubborn beliefs that we refuse to acknowledge are stubborn! How can we evaluate those beliefs and get rid of those that do not serve us?
Soulmates
Some people say we each have a soulmate and they are “the one” for us. Other people say we have many soulmates, and still others say there is no such thing as a soulmate, for we are all soulmates. So who’s definition is correct?
Seizing Your Personal Power Through Self-Destruction
The message behind the Death card is one of transition, endings and beginnings, the decay of old belief structures and the rise of new opportunities. That’s precisely the type of message you might receive during a period of self-reflection meant to tear down your ego. Transition to what, though?
8 Books on My Spiritual Reading List
People sometimes ask me, “How did you get to know so much about spirituality?!” I don’t necessarily think I’m a voice of authority or anything but I usually just tell them, “I read a lot.”
Well, I started thinking about it and I guess that isn’t entirely true. I haven’t read a ton of things – only about seven books, total, come to mind – but the ones that I have read have been very helpful, and now I’m going to give you that list in the order that I read them!
5 Ways to Recognize Your Intuition
Many times I’ve heard my husband say, “I don’t have a psychic bone in my body.” He claims that he’s never experienced a single intuitive episode in his entire life.
How much of that do you think is simply because he believes it?
Psychics and Spirituality
I think we have a tendency to just assume that simply because a person has the ability to connect with the other side, they must also have a direct line to get all the answers they’ve ever wanted or needed and therefore, they must surely be highly spiritually evolved people. That’s just not accurate.
Practicing Self-Awareness
You react to a person, they react to your reaction, other react to both of your reactions – this is the chain of events.
If you find yourself reacting strongly, especially in a negative way, that’s an automatic alarm that you need to start searching internally for the reason behind that reaction.
Emotion and Belief
How does one figure out how to check their reaction and choose love instead? Especially when we KNOW something is so horrible and so wrong (or at least, we believe it is).
Be the Change: Why Do Bad Things Happen?
“Be the change you want to see in the world.” That seems pretty straight forward, but what does it look like in practice? How can changing ourselves really affect change in the rest of the world?
When Will I Fall In Love?
Someone asked me a few days ago if I could tell them when they would fall in love again. This is what I know about relationships – there’s 2 kinds. The kind that devastates you, and the kind that elevates you. They work hand in hand. Whether or not you fall in love again is also entirely dependent upon YOU.
What Happens During A Past Life Regression
I had my first ever hypnotically-induced past life regression yesterday and it was quite the experience. I have to admit, it was a bit different than what I expected.
