The Difference Between Venting and Releasing Emotion

Someone in the Facebook group posted an interesting question on the In My Sacred Space Facebook page:

“When someone else says, ‘I need to vent,’ or ‘I need to get this off my chest,’ – Do you think/feel it’s good for those involved in that conversation? I personally don’t agree with that type of discussion, avoiding those who really LOVE to vent. It appears those who do that are looking for others to share in the dense energy they’ve created out of their own ‘situation.’ Any other thoughts on this subject?”

I think it depends on the situation and the person involved as well as their motivations.

In one regard, it’s not good to bottle up emotions and for a lot of people, talking about whatever it is that is bothering them can serve as an emotional release. In that sense, the listener (if they, themselves are in a good space, emotionally) can serve as a healing agent and help transmute that energy. Like therapy. Of course, that person has to be adept at holding the space for others without taking on their energy – have good boundaries, understand how to direct the person to look inward, etc.

However, there are people who CHRONICALLY “vent.” And those people, 9 times out of 10, are creating their own drama. Their venting is really just a way of shirking responsibility for doing so by blaming someone else, making themselves a victim, and those who coddle them do nothing but enable their victimhood. They are venting because they are looking for validation. The more you validate them, the more they will vent. It’s a cycle.


People who chronically vent will often stop venting to the person I mentioned above who has good boundaries and redirects them, because they don’t get the validation they are looking for. They may attempt to vent one or two times and then will move on to someone else who will give them the reaction that they want.

Often times people who are chronic venters don’t realize why their life is so dramatic. They just get so overwhelmed by their emotions that they need to spew them onto the first person (or twenty…) that comes along. They don’t realize it’s all happening in their own mind. They don’t realize that they are allowing it. They aren’t self-aware enough to come to that conclusion.



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