Recognizing And Understanding Synchronicity

Recognizing And Understanding Synchronicity

Recognizing And Understanding Synchronicity

One thing we all look for on our spiritual path is signs. Signs help guide us, give us validation, and simply give us hints that there’s more to reality than meets the eye. We call those signs “synchronicities.”

In Conversations With God by Neale Donald Walsch, he introduces the concept that God is all around you and talking with you all the time, in ways you never really thought about: you need only pay attention.

What constitutes a synchronicity? It could really be anything. Once you begin paying attention, you’ll notice signs and synchronicities all around you. Some very big. Some very small, but they all have one thing in common–the feeling that comes with them. 

There’s an intuitive tug that can be felt when you recognize a synchronicity, typically in the heart or the brow, because it’s aligned with those chakras–you see it and you feel it.

A sure sign of synchronicity is repetition. When you see something or hear a song or phrase over and over, and the odds of that thing occurring that frequently are pretty low, and it catches your attention and makes you go, “Hmmm…,” you can safely assume that it was meant to do just that and you might be able to find meaning behind it.

Experiencing A Synchronicity vs. Reading Into a Synchronicity

Apophenia: is the tendency to perceive meaningful connections between unrelated things, or see patterns in random data.

Synchronicity: the simultaneous occurrence of events which appear significantly related but have no discernible causal connection.

Upon first glance, these two things seem to be exactly the same, and by and large, people who are heavy into a modernist/materialist worldview believe they are. However, having experienced and observed the two in action, both within myself and others, for nearly 10 years, I’ve come to recognize them as having a fundamental difference.


Apophenia, I’ve noticed, is extremely common among people who are new to their spiritual path as well as people who are prone to what some would call “magical thinking.” In my observation, apophenia occurs when one is consciously or subconsciously looking for meaning where there is none.
Examples of apophenia that I’ve seen frequently over the years are:

  • Finding a feather on a beach laden with Sea Gulls and calling it a sign from spirit (when the odds of finding a feather on said beach is astronomical)
  • Searching for images in clouds (also known as pareidolia, which is a type of apophenia).
  • Insisting that perfectly common and replicable lens flares in photos are spirit orbs (I wrote an entire blog post on this here).
  • Many of the more far-fetched conspiracy theories actually require apophenia in order to make any sense of them.
  • Discussing something via Facebook messenger, then being served an ad for that thing, and assuming that is a sign from spirit rather than a social media algorithm at work.

Apophenia, it seems, is driven by a desire to find meaning.

Cloud Gazing

I used to see a lot of people posting pictures of clouds and asking, “Do you see (insert sign here)?” Effectively, they’re looking at the cloud and looking for a sign, and then finding the thing they’re looking for. That’s not synchronicity, because you’re looking for it. That’s pareidolia. Synchronicity occurs when you’re not actively looking for it.

Digital Syncs

You have to be careful when it comes to seeming synchronicities on digital properties like Facebook and Youtube and anything that has to do with online ads, because those platforms have algorithms that are specifically created to serve you content based on your online habits–what you’re talking about, what you’re posting about, what you’re searching for and even what you’re discussing in your private messages.

If you think something, but have never typed it in any of those places and it shows up as an ad–count it as a synch. But if you were just discussing it with your friend via a Facebook messenger and then you see an article served to you in your newsfeed on a similar topic, I wouldn’t read too much into it.


Synchronicity, on the other hand, is the sort of odd coincidence that tends to smack you out of nowhere when you’re not looking, and it’s often accompanied by a feeling of incredulity and self-doubt: am I really seeing this? And then (at least in my experience) it keeps bombarding you in completely unrelated and impossible ways until you stop dismissing and fully acknowledge it.

A question that people often wonder when it comes to synchronicity is, “Am I making this up?” or “Is this just a coincidence?”

Synchronicity isn’t driven by a desire at all. It catches you off guard and gives you a small, eerie glimpse into matrix.

A good general rule of thumb that I like to use to determine whether or not something is a synchronicity–aside from the intuitive tug–is whether or not it catches you off guard. If it catches you off guard, it’s most likely a sync. If you’re actively looking for it, it’s probably not.

You don’t find synchronicities, they find you. And that’s the big difference. All in all, follow your intuition. It’s your best guide.



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Ash Talks LGBTQ Spirituality and Coming Out of the Spiritual Closet with The Big Seance

Ash Talks LGBTQ Spirituality and Coming Out of the Spiritual Closet with The Big Seance

Ash Talks LGBTQ Spirituality and Coming Out of the Spiritual Closet with The Big Seance

A couple of weeks ago, I got together with with Slade Roberson of the Shift Your Spirits Podcast and Patrick Keller of The Big Seance Podcast and we had a three-way “triangle table” discussion on LGBTQ spirituality, coming out of the (spiritual) closet and how to make spirituality more accessible to the elusive straight male.

I’ve appeared on both podcasts previously (and you can catch those episodes here). This was by far my favorite podcast interview, and I hope you enjoy it as much as I did! 

In this episode:

Episode Teaser :00

Intro 1:00

Some improvements, thanks to Patreon Support1:33

Some background on how this episode and conversation came about. 2:16

How are Patrick and both of our return guests connected? Ash is a connector. Slade is a matchmaker. 3:43

Patrick met Ash online during the “information gathering phase” of his “spiritual shift.” Ash then introduced Patrick to Slade and his work. 8:31

Ash brought the team together for this “triangle table.” The topic started out as a joke in a planning discussion, but ended up being something everyone decided to roll with. What’s up with the lack of straight men in the spiritual/metaphysical community? 11:51

Slade’s take on the initial question. Reincarnation, witch trials, and where the term “faggot” came from. 13:25

The suppression of the feminine: Susan Grace and the 2,000-year reign of men that ends in 2020. 15:58

The feminine archetype 19:23

Those who are excluded from a social order have to become more resourceful. 21:28

Straight men who are allies of the feminine and the spiritual are the real deal! Unfortunately, they’re all married. Ha! 23:15

Patrick’s take. Being “out” is important! 25:29

Healing the Mother Wound and toxic masculinity/femininity 28:52

Unraveling and falling apart 30:26

The Spiritualist Movement, Women’s Suffrage, and the Me Too Movement 32:44

Being “psy-curious”: The similarities of coming out of the spiritual closet and coming out as gay 35:40

When the response to you coming out is not good 40:35

Fear of acceptance, conversations at the Xerox machine (or the water cooler), and making others comfortable enough to share their stories 43:23

The dangers of coming out 47:03

Bigotry sometimes goes both ways 48:34

Making straight men feel welcome 51:20

“Everybody wants to be able to see someone in a space that looks like them.” 53:39

Are you a straight, psy-curious man who is looking for love? “Get thyself to a spirit circle!” 54:28

Catching up with Ash and what’s going on in her world 57:27

A whole different take on Stranger Angels over at Plus, “Be relentlessly helpful.” 59:54

A special THANK YOU to Patreon supporters at the Super Paranerd and Parlor Guest level! 1:05:50

Outro 1:07:23

#Paranerd Hashtag 1:09:00

For more on Patrick Keller and Slade Roberson:

The Big Seance Podcast

Slade Roberson’s previous appearance on The Big Seance Podcast (Episode 125) and

The Big Seance Podcast on Facebook

@BigSeance on Twitter

@BigSeance on Instagram

Shift Your Spirits on Facebook

@SladeRoberson on Twitter





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Astrological Shit Storm On Approach

Astrological Shit Storm On Approach

Astrological Shit Storm On Approach

Friday, July 27th, is a full moon in Aquarius that also happens to be a total lunar eclipse. This phenomena is known as a “blood moon.”

Astrologically speaking, lunar eclipses happen all the time. Just about every year, (1.5, on average with only slightly more partial eclipses than total eclipses). A total lunar eclipse as this one is (verses a penumbral or partial) occurs when the earth, moon and sun align, with the earth in between, casting a shadow across the face of an otherwise full moon, sometimes creating a reddish coloring.

This particular full blood moon is occurring one day into mercury retrograde with four other planets on reverse route, making for some particularly intense astro energy.

What Astrology Says

The astrological significance of such and alignment is that it gives us a glimpse into our “shadow self” as Jung termed it. During this time period, we are often called to look at the ugliest parts of ourselves and find understanding within them, along with acceptance and balance. It’s also a time to bring to the forefront of our consciousness a lot of beliefs that no longer serve us, and emotional wounds that need healing. Particularly with Mercury and so many other planets in retrograde, we’re going to be digging through our past and working through shit that we’ve been ignoring for a good long while.

A supermoon occurs when the moon’s orbit happens to be at it’s closest proximity to earth. The energy of a supermoon is often amplified, in the astrological sense, so given that the energy we have is that of a lunar eclipse, expect all of the themes included to be super intense. A full moon eclipse represents closure, culmination, and taking things to another level, and this one happens to be the closer in our most recent eclipse window, giving it some extra oomph.

What Tarot Symbolism Says

Not coincidentally, The Moon card in the Tarot carries very similar themes.


The Moon can often refer to psychological projection of fear and the shadow-self onto those around us. It deals with repressed emotions which result in blockages that create fear and anxiety. The Moon suggests a time of becoming aware of and purging these self-limiting emotions and beliefs which have remained hidden within your psyche for so long.

What Numerology Says

Now let’s look at the numerology present here.

The eclipse takes place on 7.27.2018 (depending on where you are in the world…).

7+2+7+2+0+1+8=27. 2+7= 9

The Moon card pictured above has the roman numerals 18 at the top.

1+8 = 9

Clearly the number 9 is a recurrent theme numerologically as well. And guess what 9 symbolizes?

Culmination, finality, and the completion of an era.. And in addition to that, it’s also a worldly number – hence the global scale. The 9 as the end of a cycle is a transformation period, preparing to start over again in the 1 cycle (as the next number up is 10, and 1+0=1, you’re back at the beginning again). Often times the 1 energy and the 9 energy have some overlap.

As you can see, each of the symbols we’ve discussed here all share common characteristics and themes.

Typically you’ll start to feel this energy ramping up as we approach the full moon, and it will peak on the day of. You may still feel it winding down a couple of days afterward.

Here’s your training wheels: 

Whatever comes up for you during this time period is doing so to be processed and released. Don’t fight it. It’s trying to help you find clarity and closure.

Allow yourself to feel your feels, but try to do so without attaching a narrative to it. In other words, separate your thoughts from your emotions. Don’t try to analyze what you’re feeling, just let it float in and out. If you can observe your emotions from a place of neutrality without attaching self-destructive thought patterns to it, you’ll be able to allow the flow of processing occur more smoothly.

Make time and space for yourself to process your emotions. Cozy up in bed, turn on some music that matches your mood and let it all out. You’ll feel better when it’s all said and done.



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