Healers Need Boundaries Too: The Unrealistic Expectations of Healers and Spiritual Figures
I’m also, hopefully in the next couple of weeks, going to be adding a mentorship offer to my website that will allow clients to work with me one-on-one beyond just a single reading. Of course, I’ve got a lot of long term projects going as well, including a 44 card oracle deck and a book – speaking of, if you were going to submit a story for the book, please do so by February 1st. If you need more time, just let me know!
Also at the end of this post is registration for the second rendition of Woo Woo Wine Night: Intro to Tarot. I had enough interest to get a second date going on January 30th, so sign up quickly before it fills up! I’ve already got 5 out of 10 spots spoken for.
Now, onto today’s blog topic – boundaries for healers.
I was perusing Facebook one day a few weeks ago and noted that a friend of mine who teaches personal development through astrology had posted to her page a note about her personal boundaries and how, if you weren’t ready to heal, then do not come to her until you are.
It seemed to ruffle more than a few feathers and I found the responses to be both telling and intriguing. I’ve seen people have very unrealistic expectations of us “lightworkers.” I’ve had people project their own unrealistic expectations upon me, personally. I think, when people look at people like me and my friend and see us teaching these things, they tend to forget that we are people, too. They forget that we have our own path of growth, our own boundaries and our own weaknesses.
We, as spiritual teachers, face a kind of mounting pressure to be perfectly “spiritual” in every way – to lead perfect lives, to always be happy, and especially to sacrifice ourselves for others.
I’m here to tell you that self-sacrifice is the most unspiritual thing you can do, as a healer. The biggest lesson that ALL OF US are here to learn is self-love, and sacrificing ourselves for the sake of another person – particularly one who doesn’t actually want to do the work to be healed – is not an act of self love. It is an act of self-sabotage.
It’s incredibly important for healers and teachers to set boundaries when it comes to this, or else people will greatly take advantage of you and you will slowly lose yourself, your energy, and your will to help others. I’ve seen it first hand.
If you, as a healer or spiritual teacher find yourself making these kinds of sacrifices, you need to ask yourself why you feel the need to put your own well being below that of a stranger. You are not less than anyone else. You must respect and love yourself as much as you do everyone else. Take care of yourselves and don’t let anyone try to shame you for it.
My first reaction to the reading was WOW. Your words captured a theme woven into my life right now. The reading has emboldened me to take back my power and inspired me to research some books, get back to meditating and provided a focus.Dina