Healers Need Boundaries Too: The Unrealistic Expectations of Healers and Spiritual Figures
It seemed to ruffle more than a few feathers and I found the responses to be both telling and intriguing. I’ve seen people have very unrealistic expectations of us “lightworkers.” I’ve had people project their own unrealistic expectations upon me, personally. I think, when people look at people like me and my friend and see us teaching these things, they tend to forget that we are people, too. They forget that we have our own path of growth, our own boundaries and our own weaknesses.
We, as spiritual teachers, face a kind of mounting pressure to be perfectly “spiritual” in every way – to lead perfect lives, to always be happy, and especially to sacrifice ourselves for others.
I’m here to tell you that self-sacrifice is the most unspiritual thing you can do, as a healer. The biggest lesson that ALL OF US are here to learn is self-love, and sacrificing ourselves for the sake of another person – particularly one who doesn’t actually want to do the work to be healed – is not an act of self love. It is an act of self-sabotage.
It’s incredibly important for healers and teachers to set boundaries when it comes to this, or else people will greatly take advantage of you and you will slowly lose yourself, your energy, and your will to help others. I’ve seen it first hand.
If you, as a healer or spiritual teacher find yourself making these kinds of sacrifices, you need to ask yourself why you feel the need to put your own well being below that of a stranger. You are not less than anyone else. You must respect and love yourself as much as you do everyone else. Take care of yourselves and don’t let anyone try to shame you for it.