Question from a reader:
“I hardly ever dream of my mother, maybe because I talk of her all the time with good memories? About 10 years ago I dreamed we were in the same room and she was washing dishes and I was asking her a question about picking polk and if it was poison. She turned to me with a smile, like always, and replied in a soft voice, “Now honey, you just follow your heart.” And then she dried her hands and told me what to look for. She went to the big long buffet and open the bottom drawer and pulled out a nice, clean flour sack and said, ‘Here is something to put them in.’
Your aunt Esther had a dream the other night about mother, too. A pretty long dream. I will just be brief. She didn’t know mom was alive and she was talking to me in the dream. She said it just broke her heart to know that she didn’t know mom was alive. She would have stayed home and taken good care of her had she known. What do you think these mean?”
If you read back through my dream interpretation archives, I cover the different kinds of dreams as well as how to go about interpreting them.
The first step to interpreting a dream is to ask yourself what was happening in your waking life at the time and what emotions you were experiencing. That will give you some context in which to interpret the symbolism.
My initial impression with your first dream was that you were struggling with some sort of decision and your mother’s response to your question in the dream was giving you guidance.
To me, the second dream seems to be bringing up unresolved emotions. Potentially guilt about things that weren’t done before her death.
According to Dreammoods.com (an online Jungian dream symbol dictionary):
To see and talk with your dead parents in your dreams represent your fears of losing them or your way of coping with the loss. You are using your dream as a last opportunity to say your final good-byes to them.