Alice in Wonderland

Alice in Wonderland

Alice in Wonderland

Every adventure requires a first step.- The Cheshire Cat

I guess I’m going through some major energetic and psychological adjustments. I mean, that’s to be expected when you basically chuck your life as you know it into the fuck it bucket and completely start over, but the last few days I have felt very bizarre. Life doesn’t feel real. That feeling comes and goes, but it lingers a lot longer than it ever used to.

I think the biggest thing that’s throwing me for a loop is just not knowing… anything. For the last seven years of my life, I’ve known exactly what to expect from day to day and for a Virgo like me, that sort of stability is what keeps me sane. But now? I’m just treading water. There’s also this element of having worked toward this thing for the last six months (moving) and now that I’m here, I’m like, “Now what?”

Everyone I talk to tells me how brave they think I am, how they wish they had the balls to do the same thing. I’m not going to lie, and I never have when talking about this – it was scary as fuck. It’s still scary, sometimes. But mostly, right now, it just feels strange. Strange in a good way.

I keep telling people I feel like Alice in Wonderland. Everything is new and different. I feel new and different. I feel like I can breathe again. I feel like I’m free again – maybe a little too free for my Virgoan taste. It’s strange being around people who not only know nothing about me, but have no context about where I came from. It almost makes me laugh a little, because I think I may be being underestimated, just a tad.

In a lot of ways, this place is the total opposite of what I’ve known my entire life. And I like it. It’s just all so new and so strange. I suppose I’ll adjust at some point. In the meantime, I’ll just keep feeling like Alice.

Side note: I’m recording a podcast interview with Slade Roberson of Shift Your Spirits this Friday! Keep your eyes peeled for when it’s posted.

Question from a reader:

“I have recently started wanting to know my spirit guide(s). Whenever I listen to meditation tapes to do that, I am able to relax fully and become open but I also become quite cold. I am currently in a hot climate and even when I listen under a duvet I still become cold. Do you know why?”

Ahat’s interesting. I know certain metaphysical activities definitely have an effect on my own body temperature. I did a past life regression hypnosis session a while back (you can read about it here) and during that experience, I had the opposite thing happen. I got really hot. It was almost like energy was moving through my body, like an electrical conduit and I got very warm.


Afterward, I almost felt like I had a hangover. My head was swimmy and I got a massive headache. But baby did I sleep well for the rest of the week…

I’ll admit it – I know a lot of shit. Sometimes things just come out of my mouth that I didn’t even know I knew, but I don’t know the definitive answer to your question. I can hypothesize, though.

Part of me wonders if somehow when you’re opening up, you’re not maintaining your own energy and it’s being diluted, and you feel that as a cold sensation. Try setting an intention to retain that while you’re going through your typical ritual and see if it helps at all.



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Believing In Your Psychic Self

Believing In Your Psychic Self

Believing In Your Psychic Self

It’s been a busy couple of weeks around here. Last week, I launched a new ebook, “Practical Guide to Connecting With Your Spirit Guides In Your Dreams.” I spent the majority of last week visiting my mom on the gulf coast and I was able to knock out yet another ebook, my Karmic Dreaming Guide on tapping into your past lives using your dreams. And, on top of everything else, my online dream interpretation course launched today!

Thank you to everyone who has supported me thus far. This little blog is evolving into something so much more than what it began as, and I couldn’t have done it without you. I hope you’ll all continue to lend me your support as it grows and help me create something truly amazing!

Question from a reader:

“I have asked you this already when I was wondering how to know when was your mind talking and when your intuition. I finally discovered that I can be receiving a lot of information, but I could be blocking it. My issue is that whenever an image appears in my mind, I feel that I’m inventing or like day dreaming. When I receive information about somebody else I think that I’m only judging that person. It is like I don’t trust myself, I tell myself that everything that comes to me are things made up by me. How can I start believing that what I feel is actually information from them?”

Arusting yourself and the information you’re receiving is one of the hardest things to do when you’re developing your intuitive abilities. That being said, I think your skepticism is a really great sign. Discernment is very important when it comes to these things, and I’d be a lot more worried if you weren’t questioning anything at all!

I think the best advice I can give you here is something that I talked about in my previous blog series on how to contact your spirit guides. It’s easy for us to get so wrapped up in judging ourselves and whether or not we’re right or wrong and that puts a lot of unnecessary pressure on you to make a snap decision about the information you’re receiving.

Instead of feeling as though you need to judge yourself one way or the other, just hold it as a possibility. When you just hold it as a possibility, you’re able to say, “Alright. Let’s just see where this goes.” and there’s no cognitive dissonance associated if it doesn’t pan out, and you don’t run the risk of being gullible. Just roll with it!

Eventually, you will start to collect enough evidence to support when you were correct and it will build your confidence. Not worrying about whether you’re right or wrong allows you to focus on the process itself, observe what it feels like and you’ll begin to learn what feels like intuition and what doesn’t.

Removing your ego from the process is the hardest part, but having a healthy dose of skepticism is a great foundation for discernment.


How to Hear Your Spirit Guides

How to Hear Your Spirit Guides

How to Hear Your Spirit Guides

Question from a reader:

“How do I listen to my guides? I know they are there…I feel them & I see synchronicity. So how do I listen?”

At would seem to me that you are listening. Feeling them and seeing synchronicity is a way of receiving communication. Don’t limit yourself by believing that the only way you can hear your guides is the same way you hear another person talking to you.

This situation reminds me of a passage from Conversations with God where God states that speaking directly to you in a human language is the absolute last resort and, additionally, the most limiting way that God can speak to you. God goes on to talk about how it talks to you every day, in a multitude of forms, if only you would listen. And by “listen”, it doesn’t mean with your ears. It means listen with your heart.

You don’t need to hear your guides clairaudiently to be able to receive messages from them. They communicate with you through synchronicity, through feelings, through those seemingly random conversations you have with yourself in your head while you’re driving, in your dreams, the incredibly well-timed phrase on the television that caught your attention or the line in the book you’re reading that made you stop in your tracks. They speak to you in symbolism and it’s all around you, every day.

All you need to do to listen is open your mind, remove expectation, and receive.

As I mentioned, dreaming is an excellent way to communicate with your guides, and on May 22nd, I’ll be launching my online dream interpretation course to teach you how to induce dreaming, increase dream recall, dream with intention and decipher your own dream symbolism. You can learn more about it here: Destination Dreamspace

How to Hear Your Spirit Guides

Can You Ever Ask Too Much Of Your Spirit Guides?

Can You Ever Ask Too Much Of Your Spirit Guides?

Question from a reader:

“As I navigate down my spiritual path, I’ll ask for signs to help me through some unclear paths. However, as I continue to navigate a specific aspect of my path, I wonder about the possibility of asking for too many signs. As if asking for signs for the “same thing,” feels like it could be self-involved or seeking praise. Is there such a thing as asking for too much from our spiritual guides?”

Well, I think that really depends on what you mean by asking too much. I’ve come across people who literally think their spirit guides are responsible for everything they’ve experienced in their lives and blame their guides for all of the decisions that they’ve made with negative consequences.

Ultimately, this is just a way for them to avoid taking responsibility for themselves and their lives. In that instance – yes, asking your guides to be responsible for living your life for you is asking too much, as it completely defeats the purpose of being here. But I don’t think this is what you’re talking about. 🙂

When it comes to asking for signs and validation that you’re headed the right direction, no, I don’t think it’s possible to ask for too much. Of course, at some point, you have to start to trust yourself. Getting there can be difficult, especially when the situation you’re looking at is scary as fuck. But that’s what trusting the universe is all about.

I know, I’ve been there. I’m standing at the precipice once again. But over the last four years, I’ve learned to trust my intuition more and more, and while initially, I did need to receive sign after sign after sign to reassure me that what I was thinking and feeling was right, I’ve gotten much better about accepting the first one and recognizing the intuitive tug that comes with it.

Of course, when much much bigger things come along, that tend to be more long term, I like to have multiple reassurances. Especially when the decision I’m being asked to make is a part of my own growth, because I know that there are going to be things thrown at me on multiple occasions throughout the process for the expressed purpose of testing me.

Throughout all of it, divine guidance has yet to leave me. It may shift into different forms that aren’t my typical go to, such as dreams and tarot, but it comes nevertheless.

Your guides purpose is to help you get to where you want (and need) to be. When you’re asking for reassurance, you’re in agreement to working WITH your higher purpose. The ultimate goal is for you to be self-sufficient, but we all need help once in a while, and they’re here on this path with you to support you.

Fuck it. I choose love.

Fuck it. I choose love.

Fuck it. I choose love.

If you’ve been around my blog for the last year, you’ve probably noticed a lot of changes. I redesigned the entire thing, then I redesigned my homepage, like, four times, the most recent of which I just launched last night. Check it out if you haven’t already!

I had a reading with my friend Jenn early last week and she suggested that I make my healing practice/readings the main focus of my website instead of just my blog, and I thought it was a good suggestion. So that’s what I did! I’ve still got a few things I want to tighten up here and there and a few things to add when they’re ready to launch, but the general look, feel and flow is all here.

I feel like I have SO MUCH creativity right now – so many ideas floating through my head. So much to do! So much I want to do! It’s hard not to feel overwhelmed, but in a good way. Every time I check something off my to-do list, I end up adding something else. As my husband said, “Well, you’ll never be bored.” True that. Long story short – look for lots of fun things to come! I’ll make announcements as they come closer to fruition.

As I revamp my site, I’m also going back through all of my old quotes and graphics and slowly updating them to match the new aesthetic. While I was doing that, I ran across something I wrote a few years back that was a direct message from my guides – one guide in particular, who is very stern, matter of fact, and doesn’t have much of a sense of humor. He’s a no-nonsense kind of guy, I call him the mountain because he appeared to me in a dream as a giant talking mountain and told me that he’d be stepping in as my primary guide:

Humanity has lived in fear long enough. It’s time to shift the paradigm and understand that the things in the world around you only have power over you if you let them. Being afraid of these things is putting yourself in agreement with powerlessness. There is nothing to fear. Love is the greatest power there is and that is within you, always, even when you refuse to acknowledge it. The way to let go of fear and take your power back is to begin to understand the way you are creating and participating in your experiences. It means taking on responsibility for your thoughts and feelings and how that energy plays a part in your every day life. An important part of this is dispelling common myths and misunderstandings that no longer fit within the new paradigm.

The “new paradigm” he is speaking of is the shift, ascension, conscious evolution, etc. He’s talking about moving away from dualistic, superstitious and fear-based beliefs such as:

– The belief that ouija boards are somehow inherently evil

The belief that there is something out there separate from you that you need protection from

The belief that a negative entity can attack or possess you without your permission

– Any other duality-based belief that suggests that the universe contains anything other than pure, unconditional, unadulterated love, particularly any beliefs you hold about yourself or others.

Holding onto such fear-based beliefs is counterproductive to your ability to see love in all things. It is also counterproductive to your ability to move into a state of love and anchor that energy down here to earth.

What you have to realize during this process is that you are making an active choice to believe in such things – and you are making an active choice to live in fear of these things, and you are actively choosing to give your power away to those things through your belief in them.

The biggest rebuttle I often see to that point is, “Well I have EXPERIENCED this or I know someone who has, so you can’t tell me it’s not real.” I never said it wasn’t real – it’s very real, in your own inner-environment. And it’s partly real because you believe in it and are creating it and it’s partly real because you are CHOOSING to view that experience through a lens of fear, instead of viewing it neutrally. And the fear you felt in that moment very much played into creating the experience.

Belief creates reality, and if the reality that you wish to create involves these things, then your belief in them will allow them to exist.

As long as you refuse to accept that you are a creator of your experiences, you are actively choosing powerlessness.

If you wish to create a reality without those things, you can do so just as easily (and dare I say, it may be a somewhat more enjoyable reality).

At some point, you just have to say, “Fuck it. I’m tired of being afraid. I choose love.”

Incarnate Spirit Guides

Incarnate Spirit Guides

Incarnate Spirit Guides

I received a follow up question from yesterday’s blog post on spirit guides.

Question from a reader:

“Ashley, could you please more fully explain your statement that begins ” A handful of my own primary guides are . . .”? What do you mean by “identities”? Specifically, are they separate from their identities that are now incarnate? I would very much like to know who are my guides and who that I know in this lifetime is in my soul group. That is why I find the above referenced statement so intriguing!”

Great question! First, just so everyone knows which part of yesterday’s post is being referenced:

“A handful of my own primary guides are actually the past life identities of people in my own soul group who are incarnate with me now.”

Think of each individual incarnation that you’ve had, including the one you’re in now, as a separate identity. That is, after all, what an ego is – it’s an identity complex made up of personality characteristics and beliefs that make us who we are. Suffice to say, it is who we “believe” we are. My current identity complex is called “Ashley.”

My higher self would be the combination of all of the identities I’ve ever been. Each one of those incarnations are a unique expression of my higher self.

Given that time only exists here, while we’re incarnate, each of those identities is present over “there” in the afterlife, together. They exist simultaneously, both as incarnate and disincarnate (because it’s merely my higher self, which always exists “over there” presenting itself as one of those unique identities). You can basically think of them all as completely separate people, and for all intents and purposes, they are. My identity as “Ashley” is completely different than my identity back when I was a Lakota indian living 200 years ago, even though we come from the same higher self. I explain this a little more in one of the posts I linked in yesterday’s blog, “Spirit Communication and Reincarnation.”

My spirit guide, Bill, for example (he named himself, it’s lame, I know) – was alive with me back when I was Lakota (or maybe it was some other life as a Native American, but I learned about the two of them around the same time so for simplicity’s sake, we’re going to assume it was that particular life). And now he is one of my primary guides for this incarnation.

I have a second primary guide who came in later who calls himself Nathan. Nathan shares a higher self with someone who is currently incarnate that was a major player in my life 10+ years ago. As I understand it, Nathan and this person also have another identity expression named Cailon, who is also some sort of guide for me, who also shares a higher self with the other two. Additionally, Cailon identifies with a person who I was best friends with in a past life – a young girl. But that girl also, at times, shows up as a separate entity.

All of these spirits – the little girl, Cailon, Nathan, the person who is living right here and now – they are all expressions of the same higher self, presenting as different identities, and they do exist individually, for lack of a better word, over there. Each of those identities probably come from various lives lived here and there – some not even on Earth.

Is this the case for everyone? I suppose it can go either way. But I do believe some of Michael Newton’s work has come up with similar examples, and I know that Dolores Cannon has mentioned it as well. Things aren’t as neat and tidy as you imagined. 🙂

Can the identity that is currently incarnate also serve as a guide as the SAME identity while they are still incarnate? It’s just their higher self presenting as yet another facet of itself, so yes, they can. I actually know someone who’s had some experience with that. Maybe I can have her write a guest post about it in the near future 🙂

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