Believing In Your Psychic Self

Believing In Your Psychic Self

Believing In Your Psychic Self

It’s been a busy couple of weeks around here. Last week, I launched a new ebook, “Practical Guide to Connecting With Your Spirit Guides In Your Dreams.” I spent the majority of last week visiting my mom on the gulf coast and I was able to knock out yet another ebook, my Karmic Dreaming Guide on tapping into your past lives using your dreams. And, on top of everything else, my online dream interpretation course launched today!

Thank you to everyone who has supported me thus far. This little blog is evolving into something so much more than what it began as, and I couldn’t have done it without you. I hope you’ll all continue to lend me your support as it grows and help me create something truly amazing!


Question from a reader:

“I have asked you this already when I was wondering how to know when was your mind talking and when your intuition. I finally discovered that I can be receiving a lot of information, but I could be blocking it. My issue is that whenever an image appears in my mind, I feel that I’m inventing or like day dreaming. When I receive information about somebody else I think that I’m only judging that person. It is like I don’t trust myself, I tell myself that everything that comes to me are things made up by me. How can I start believing that what I feel is actually information from them?”

Arusting yourself and the information you’re receiving is one of the hardest things to do when you’re developing your intuitive abilities. That being said, I think your skepticism is a really great sign. Discernment is very important when it comes to these things, and I’d be a lot more worried if you weren’t questioning anything at all!

I think the best advice I can give you here is something that I talked about in my previous blog series on how to contact your spirit guides. It’s easy for us to get so wrapped up in judging ourselves and whether or not we’re right or wrong and that puts a lot of unnecessary pressure on you to make a snap decision about the information you’re receiving.

Instead of feeling as though you need to judge yourself one way or the other, just hold it as a possibility. When you just hold it as a possibility, you’re able to say, “Alright. Let’s just see where this goes.” and there’s no cognitive dissonance associated if it doesn’t pan out, and you don’t run the risk of being gullible. Just roll with it!

Eventually, you will start to collect enough evidence to support when you were correct and it will build your confidence. Not worrying about whether you’re right or wrong allows you to focus on the process itself, observe what it feels like and you’ll begin to learn what feels like intuition and what doesn’t.

Removing your ego from the process is the hardest part, but having a healthy dose of skepticism is a great foundation for discernment.

 

Xo,

Ash

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How to Hear Your Spirit Guides

How to Hear Your Spirit Guides

How to Hear Your Spirit Guides

Question from a reader:

“How do I listen to my guides? I know they are there…I feel them & I see synchronicity. So how do I listen?”

At would seem to me that you are listening. Feeling them and seeing synchronicity is a way of receiving communication. Don’t limit yourself by believing that the only way you can hear your guides is the same way you hear another person talking to you.

This situation reminds me of a passage from Conversations with God where God states that speaking directly to you in a human language is the absolute last resort and, additionally, the most limiting way that God can speak to you. God goes on to talk about how it talks to you every day, in a multitude of forms, if only you would listen. And by “listen”, it doesn’t mean with your ears. It means listen with your heart.

You don’t need to hear your guides clairaudiently to be able to receive messages from them. They communicate with you through synchronicity, through feelings, through those seemingly random conversations you have with yourself in your head while you’re driving, in your dreams, the incredibly well-timed phrase on the television that caught your attention or the line in the book you’re reading that made you stop in your tracks. They speak to you in symbolism and it’s all around you, every day.

All you need to do to listen is open your mind, remove expectation, and receive.

As I mentioned, dreaming is an excellent way to communicate with your guides, and on May 22nd, I’ll be launching my online dream interpretation course to teach you how to induce dreaming, increase dream recall, dream with intention and decipher your own dream symbolism. You can learn more about it here: Destination Dreamspace

Xo,

Ash

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Can You Ever Ask Too Much Of Your Spirit Guides?

Can You Ever Ask Too Much Of Your Spirit Guides?

Can You Ever Ask Too Much Of Your Spirit Guides?

Question from a reader:

“As I navigate down my spiritual path, I’ll ask for signs to help me through some unclear paths. However, as I continue to navigate a specific aspect of my path, I wonder about the possibility of asking for too many signs. As if asking for signs for the “same thing,” feels like it could be self-involved or seeking praise. Is there such a thing as asking for too much from our spiritual guides?”

Well, I think that really depends on what you mean by asking too much. I’ve come across people who literally think their spirit guides are responsible for everything they’ve experienced in their lives and blame their guides for all of the decisions that they’ve made with negative consequences.

Ultimately, this is just a way for them to avoid taking responsibility for themselves and their lives. In that instance – yes, asking your guides to be responsible for living your life for you is asking too much, as it completely defeats the purpose of being here. But I don’t think this is what you’re talking about. 🙂

When it comes to asking for signs and validation that you’re headed the right direction, no, I don’t think it’s possible to ask for too much. Of course, at some point, you have to start to trust yourself. Getting there can be difficult, especially when the situation you’re looking at is scary as fuck. But that’s what trusting the universe is all about.

I know, I’ve been there. I’m standing at the precipice once again. But over the last four years, I’ve learned to trust my intuition more and more, and while initially, I did need to receive sign after sign after sign to reassure me that what I was thinking and feeling was right, I’ve gotten much better about accepting the first one and recognizing the intuitive tug that comes with it.

Of course, when much much bigger things come along, that tend to be more long term, I like to have multiple reassurances. Especially when the decision I’m being asked to make is a part of my own growth, because I know that there are going to be things thrown at me on multiple occasions throughout the process for the expressed purpose of testing me.

Throughout all of it, divine guidance has yet to leave me. It may shift into different forms that aren’t my typical go to, such as dreams and tarot, but it comes nevertheless.

Your guides purpose is to help you get to where you want (and need) to be. When you’re asking for reassurance, you’re in agreement to working WITH your higher purpose. The ultimate goal is for you to be self-sufficient, but we all need help once in a while, and they’re here on this path with you to support you.

Xo,

Ash

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Incarnate Spirit Guides

Incarnate Spirit Guides

Incarnate Spirit Guides

I received a follow up question from yesterday’s blog post on spirit guides.


Question from a reader:

“Ashley, could you please more fully explain your statement that begins “A handful of my own primary guides are . . .”? What do you mean by “identities”? Specifically, are they separate from their identities that are now incarnate? I would very much like to know who are my guides and who that I know in this lifetime is in my soul group. That is why I find the above referenced statement so intriguing!”

Great question! First, just so everyone knows which part of yesterday’s post is being referenced:

“A handful of my own primary guides are actually the past life identities of people in my own soul group who are incarnate with me now.”

Think of each individual incarnation that you’ve had, including the one you’re in now, as a separate identity. That is, after all, what an ego is: it’s an identity complex made up of personality characteristics and beliefs that make us who we are. Suffice to say, it is who we “believe” we are. My current identity complex is called “Ashley.”

My higher self would be the combination of all of the identities I’ve ever been. Each one of those incarnations are a unique expression of my higher self.

Given that time only exists here, while we’re incarnate, each of those identities is present over “there” in the afterlife, together. They exist simultaneously, both as incarnate and disincarnate (because it’s merely my higher self, which always exists “over there” presenting itself as one of those unique identities). You can basically think of them all as completely separate people, and for all intents and purposes, they are. My identity as “Ashley” is completely different than my identity back when I was a Lakota indian living 200 years ago, even though we come from the same higher self. I explain this a little more in one of the posts I linked in yesterday’s blog, “Spirit Communication and Reincarnation.”

My spirit guide, Bill, for example (he named himself, it’s lame, I know), was alive with me back when I was Lakota (or maybe it was some other life as a Native American, but I learned about the two of them around the same time so for simplicity’s sake, we’re going to assume it was that particular life). And now he is one of my primary guides for this incarnation.

I have a second primary guide who came in later who calls himself Nathan. Nathan shares a higher self with someone who is currently incarnate that was a major player in my life 10+ years ago. As I understand it, Nathan and this person also have another identity expression named Cailon, who is also some sort of guide for me, who also shares a higher self with the other two. Additionally, Cailon identifies with a person who I was best friends with in a past life, a young girl. But that girl also, at times, shows up as a separate entity.

All of these spirits–the little girl, Cailon, Nathan, the person who is living right here and now–they are all expressions of the same higher self, presenting as different identities, and they do exist individually, for lack of a better word, over there. Each of those identities probably come from various lives lived here and there, some not even on Earth.

Is this the case for everyone? I suppose it can go either way. But I do believe some of Michael Newton’s work has come up with similar examples, and I know that Dolores Cannon has mentioned it as well. Things aren’t as neat and tidy as you imagined. 🙂

Can the identity that is currently incarnate also serve as a guide in spirit in the same form while they are still incarnate? It’s just their higher self presenting as yet another facet of itself, so yes, they can. I actually have a friend who’s had some experience with that. Maybe I can have her write a guest post about it in the near future. 🙂

Xo,

Ash

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What Does A Spirit Guide Do?

What Does A Spirit Guide Do?

What Does A Spirit Guide Do?

Question from a reader:

“Someone recently told me that I had a team full of spirit guides and that some of them are not serving me any purpose, they were hired to help me out in a situation and I’m confused. Is this true? And how do I control it? I also want to know how many past lives I had and how to read my own akashic records?”

Typically, yes, we all have a team of spirit guides working with us. We’ll have a primary guide or two who are with us all of our lives and then we may have other guides who come and go throughout our life time who work to help us with various things that we are experiencing.

To say that a guide was “hired” is a bit strange. That would suggest that the guide in question is only doing the job because they are being compensated in some way and as far as I know, there’s no spiritual currency. 🙂 Guides do what they do as part of their own spiritual growth path. They are here to help you of their own volition, because you arranged it prior to incarnating (I use that term loosely and linearly… as I don’t believe our incarnations are sequential in that way, but rather exist simultaneously).

A handful of my own primary guides are actually the past life identities of people in my own soul group who are incarnate with me now. 

Guides (and spirits in general) are somewhat omnipresent, as it were. They can be in multiple places and with multiple people at once (because time is only a perception that we have here while we’re incarnate), so even if a guide has fulfilled its purpose with you, you may still call on them and communicate and they may still check in from time to time. That doesn’t mean they serve no purpose. A guide that serves no purpose is not a guide at all–the very label we give them of “guide” suggests a purpose, you know what I mean?

Over the years, I’ve seen several instances of people getting upset with their guides and/or blaming their guides for things that have occurred in their lives, as though their guides are supposed to prevent them from making bad life decisions, but that’s not what a spirit guide does. You are responsible for your life, you make your own life choices, and you are responsible for the consequences of those choices. Your guides are there to assist you with your process of enlightenment, your healing, the expansion of your consciousness, etc. 

We are given clues as to what we are attempting to experience and accomplish here in this life, but we’ll never know it with 100% certainty or see it with 100% clarity 100% of the time–it would defeat the purpose of being here. For a someone saying that their guides are failing them or not serving their purpose, I ask, “And how do you know?”  If the answer is, “Because I’m suffering,” or “I’m experiencing something that I don’t like,” well… who is to say that is their fault? Who is to say it’s anyone’s fault? Maybe you’re experiencing the consequences of your actions, or maybe it’s the consequences of karma, or maybe that’s something you need to experience in order to accomplish what you’ve set out to do here.

Your guides’ job is not to make your life fluffy and enjoyable. Your guides’ job is to guide you through the experiences you’ve chosen on spiritual level, whether or not you are fully conscious of the fact that you chose them. 

I see no need to control who your guides are and what their jobs are. My suggestion would be to trust in your higher-self’s master plan and choice in personnel and use their guidance accordingly. If you feel you want or need help with something specific, just ask for it! Ultimately, what you need to remember is that all of your guides, too, are simply aspects of your higher self. They are not something that is separate from you, so whether you choose to view them as separate entities or parts of yourself (and parts of the whole) doesn’t matter–whatever helps you visualize and get the help you need.

As far as how many past lives you had, I’ll refer you to my post from a couple of weeks ago where someone asked the same question. Long story short, the number of “past” lives you have is relative and dependent upon which perspective you’re looking at it from. Ultimately, you have no past lives, because all lives that have ever occurred exist simultaneously, and “you,”your ego self, is but one of them. So all of them are “yours” from your spirit’s perspective.

There’s several books out there on how to read Akashic Records as well as some guided meditations on YouTube that you may find helpful. I would add one word of caution: you’ll only be allowed to view what you’re ready to see. If you attempt to look into something that you’re not ready for or that doesn’t serve your greater good, you won’t get much. Same goes with psychic readings. A psychic is only going to be allowed access to as much information as will serve your greater good, and it’s important to keep that in mind as you receive readings that you may feel are vague or confusing. It may be that you’re only allowed to see a small piece of that puzzle because it’s something you need to learn on your own or is still a vital part of what you are currently experiencing.

Xo,

Ash

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How to Hear Your Spirit Guides

How To Contact Your Spirit Guides

How To Contact Your Spirit Guides

One of, if not the single most asked question I’ve seen out there is “How do I contact my spirit guides?”

I think it’s great that people want to learn how to contact their spirit guides on their own rather than be attached to seeking validation through psychics and mediums on a regular basis. There’s a lot that goes into contacting your spirit guides so I want to make sure I cover it thoroughly, and that’s why I’ve decided to break this up into as many posts as necessary to cover the topic.

How to Contact Your Spirit Guides Part 1: Attitude

Attitude is everything. It is what will make or break your attempts at getting in touch with the other side. There are a few foundational things that you need to internalize about how to contact your spirit guides:

1) Stop thinking of it as “connecting” and realize that you are already connected. You were never not connected. There is no divide to cross, no chasm, no bridge. Your spirit guides are as much a part of you as you are of them, so there’s no need to “connect” to your guides, only broaden your awareness of YOURSELF enough to be able to see and feel that connection.

2) Manage your expectations.  I hear people say, “I talk to my guides all the time and I never hear anything back.”

Why do you think you have to hear it? Why couldn’t you feel or know or receive communication from your spirit guides through some sort of synchronicity? More than likely, this person completely missed the answer to their question because they were only looking in one place rather than just being open to whatever may come. Don’t expect to get results immediately.

The best thing I can tell you is to ask for a sign from your guides, and then don’t think about it anymore.

Don’t worry about it, don’t overanalyze every little thing and don’t go looking for it. Just sit back and wait for it to come to you. In the meantime, watch some tv or something. Who knows, your sign might come to you in the middle of an episode of The Big Bang Theory? Signs are often of the most subtle yet personal nature and they can come when you least expect, you only need to learn to recognize them.

3) Be open. A lot of people try to contact their spirit guides this with the attitude of wanting the other side to prove itself to them. They need that proof, that one mind-bending experience to convince themselves that this all for real. That’s the irony of that kind of situation – the very fact that they are begging for proof denotes that they most likely won’t get it. Their belief is already set on the side of doubt, thus blocking them from being able to have such an experience.

That said, it’s exceptionally important to remain neutral to the situation. Too far on the side of doubt and you’ll be second guessing every little thing and too far on the side of belief and you’ll think the fact that you toilet won’t flush is a spirit playing a prank on you when in fact, you just used too much toilet paper.

Being open means that you see things and you hold them as possibilities, rather than immediately attaching to them as truth or immediately rejecting them. When you just hold it as a possibility, you’re able to say, “Alright. Let’s just see where this goes.” and there’s no cognitive dissonance associated if it doesn’t pan out, and you don’t run the risk of being gullible. Just roll with it!

Keep reading parts two and three for more information on how to contact your spirit guides.

Part 1Part 2 | Part 3

Xo,

Ash

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