What’s in an Ego?

May 9, 2016 | Mind, Personal Development, Spirit

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EGO: To let go or not to let go?

You hear a lot from certain spiritual teachers about letting go of or destroying the ego, but in psychological terms, the ego is the most precious part of the id, ego, superego trifecta. It mediates between the id and superego. It is the vanguard of reality and common sense.

The ego is what we need more of, not less. It doesn’t obscure. It clarifies.

I think there’s often (not always) a fundamental difference in the perception of the ego in spiritual terms and in psychological terms. People often define them differently.

The way I see the ego, it’s a combination of things – a) ingrained personality traits chosen and expressed by the soul and carried with that soul when it crosses over and b) beliefs and identity which are created and integrated with it as you grow and have experiences here on the earth plane. These aspects are ‘left behind’ when the soul leaves, although all experiences are recorded.


When spiritual people talk about dissolution of the ego, what they mean is usually the identity (illusion of separateness) and beliefs (particularly the negative ones about the self) that get integrated with the soul portion while physically incarnate. It’s THAT aspect of the ego which causes issues, particularly when it is unhealthy (full of unhealthy beliefs about the self). When the ego is built with unhealthy beliefs, it perceives that it is not loved and that there is a lack of love, and it acts accordingly.

To me, it’s not about letting go of the ego. It’s about letting go of the negative aspects of the ego, accepting, integrating and healing the shadow self. Deconstructing the ego down to its bare bones – the personality that the spirit came in with – and rebuilding it in the image of the higher self (bringing yourself into alignment, as Teal Swann would say), which is love-based, and sees itself as a reflection of all that is.

I talked about that in my presentation on the ego, which you can view here.

How many of you have heard it both ways and were really confused about what it meant and why it was conflicting?








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