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8 Ways To Surround Your Home With Crystal Energy

Crystals in a window sill

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I LOVE that home decor trends are heading down a very organic route. One of the biggest trends as part of this is using natural stones and crystals in your home decor. As many of us have known for a long time, crystals are awesome for a lot of different things, the least of which is the fact that they’re pretty. So it’s great that you can now find crystals and natural stones in all sorts of home decor and create ways to incorporate crystals into your home without displaying them as your rock collection ;).

Check out the list below for eight ways to surround your home with crystal energy!

Ways to surround your home with crystal energy #1: Quartz Crystal Hanging Light Fixture.

Ways to surround your home with crystal energy #2: Crystal and Natural Stone Drawer Pulls

Ways to surround your home with crystal energy 3: Geode Book Ends.

Ways to surround your home with crystal energy #4: Amethyst Concrete Countertop.

Ways to surround your home with crystal energy #5: Calcite Table Lamp.

Ways to surround your home with crystal energy #6:Agate Geode Slices.

Ways to surround your home with crystal energy #27 & 8: Agate Slice Coasters and Quartz Crystal Point Lamp Base.

If you’re really into number seven but you’re not really interested in the $130 price tag, you can recreate them yourself for about $40 – at least I did.

I bought four agate slices on eBay for about $30, used some liquid gold leaf around the edges (purchased at Michael’s for $8) and then add some little clear rubber bumpers to the bottom. Voila:

Xo,

Ash

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Psychic Nest on March 22, 2016 at 12:08 pm

Wow I am really impressed! Those are some great ideas to use crystals in our homes. The book ends look chic, I definitely want to try them! Keep it up with the great work!

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For the last five years, I've publicly documented

For the last five years, I've publicly documented my own healing as well as my struggles with trying to find a sense of normalcy while living with PTSD and complex trauma.

Trying to date again after being in a relationship for seven years was hard. Being sexually assaulted during my reacclimation to dating life was a rude awakening. And trying to date again post-sexual assault was maybe the most difficult thing I've ever done in my life. Holding out hope that there was someone out there (in an environment like New York City, no less) who wouldn't see me as irreparably damaged seemed like a pipe dream.

I tried to be open about my situation. Some people attempted to take advantage of that. Others tossed me aside like I was disposable. I had a lot of meltdowns, and I'm sure I handled some of those situations in terrible ways.

But eventually I met someone who didn't look at me like a broken thing, who showed me nothing but kindness and a commitment to being there with me while I healed.

"We'll figure it out together," is a short phrase that meant more to me than he'll ever know–and it still does.

He's held up his end of the bargain, and I've held up mine: to take responsibility for my own healing so that I don't pass my pain onto him.

You see, I've been in his shoes, too. I've been the person who looked at someone with all of their battle scars and only saw their beauty. But those same people repaid me with the deepest pain I've ever endured, all because they couldn't own their healing and decided it was easier to cut and run without so much as a goodbye. And I promised myself that I'd do everything in my power to never treat someone I love who had shown me such compassion in that way.

Healing is a commitment we make to ourselves, but also to those we care about, and who care about us. And it's fucking hard, I won't lie. But when you refuse to do it, you inevitably end up hurting more people. That's one of the reasons I talk about trauma and abuse cycles.

Those who want others to save them from themselves will always end up hurting the people they claim to love.

And I'm not in the saving business anymore.

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There’s a lot of sugar-coated bullshit floating

There’s a lot of sugar-coated bullshit floating around on the internet when it comes to spirituality.

A lot of love, light, and lack of substance.

The truth is that a real spiritual practice must include shadow work and for a lot of people who aren’t ready, that’s terrifying because it means having to actually peer into one’s own darkness, light a match, burn it all down, and rise from the ashes.

You can’t teach from that place without first experiencing it, so for those who are afraid of the work, it’s easier to embrace toxic positivity than to face reality.

If you’re looking for gritty truth over cute catch-phrases, you’ll find it in the people talking about pain, purpose, healing, and compassion.

They spit fire, not frosting.

For spirituality with substance, find me: @ashrising

<img alt="There’s a lot of sugar-coated bullshit floating around on the internet when it comes to spirituality. A lot of love, light, and lack of substance. The truth is that a real spiritual practice must include shadow work and for a lot of people who aren’t ready, that’s terrifying because it means having to actually peer into one’s own darkness, light a match, burn it all down, and rise from the ashes. You can’t teach from that place without first experiencing it, so for those who are afraid of the work, it’s easier to embrace toxic positivity than to face reality. If you’re looking for gritty truth over cute catch-phrases, you’ll find it in the people talking about pain, purpose, healing, and compassion. They spit fire, not frosting. For spirituality with substance, find me: @ashrising" data-recalc-dims="1" data-src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" class="lazyload" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw=="><noscript><img src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" alt="There’s a lot of sugar-coated bullshit floating around on the internet when it comes to spirituality. A lot of love, light, and lack of substance. The truth is that a real spiritual practice must include shadow work and for a lot of people who aren’t ready, that’s terrifying because it means having to actually peer into one’s own darkness, light a match, burn it all down, and rise from the ashes. You can’t teach from that place without first experiencing it, so for those who are afraid of the work, it’s easier to embrace toxic positivity than to face reality. If you’re looking for gritty truth over cute catch-phrases, you’ll find it in the people talking about pain, purpose, healing, and compassion. They spit fire, not frosting. For spirituality with substance, find me: @ashrising" data-recalc-dims="1">

I’ve seen this a lot. Hell, I’ve been this per

I’ve seen this a lot. Hell, I’ve been this person. But over the last three-four years, I’ve stopped telling myself that I need to like everybody. There’s been a multitude of experiences that have helped me realize that.

One was a girl who I immediately got a bad vibe from just from looking at her in a group photo. There was nothing in particular about her appearance that was off-putting, I just knew she was bad news. I felt it in the pit of my stomach.

Later, a mutual friend asked me to take her on as a client. Even though I had a really bad feeling about it, I told myself that “we should help everyone who wants it,” and kept ignoring and dismissing my visceral dislike of her, even going so far as to tell myself it must be a symptom if my own insecurity.

Fast-forward two weeks, and she had taken what I told her in our session and posted it to her social media followers as though it was her own, and my visceral dislike was thoroughly validated. As if that wasn’t enough, not long after, she would lie and use me as a means of hurting said friend, sabotage our relationship, and cause deep pain to both of us.

If I had listened to my gut instead of thinking I had to be nice to everybody, I *may* have avoided it.

Another example from several years earlier:

My ex father-in-law had gotten into politics and was hosting a meet and greet for an up and coming gubernatorial candidate named Eric Greitens. Lots of people I knew had been talking him up. He was a Rhodes Scholar, attended Oxford, was a former Navy Seal, humanitarian, book author, and founded a nonprofit for veterans.

[continues in comments 👇🏻]

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Taking you to church on a Tuesday. I come from a

Taking you to church on a Tuesday.

I come from a long line of hellfire and brimstone Southern Baptist preachers. I’m not above using Bible verses to illustrate a point.

Let’s get righteously pissed and clean house, Jesus style.

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If it isn’t obvious already, I take serious issu

If it isn’t obvious already, I take serious issue with the commercialization of spirituality.

Once the desire for success overtakes the desire for service to the greater good, you cross the border into service of your own ego, and the work loses its integrity.

One of the reasons I took a sabbatical from offering paid services in 2017 is because I had no steady source of income and was in a position where I needed to make ends meet. But if I'm in a position where I *need* to make my spiritual work support me financially, then I'm inherently driven by a state of lack wherein my primary motivation is to make money, rather than to be of service.

If I'm inherently driven by a state of lack wherein my primary motivation is to achieve status and success, rather than be of service, the work also loses its integrity.

This concept applies to business, as well as life—when you lose sight of your mission, you find yourself out of alignment with your higher purpose.

Spiritual work is sacred work. People trust you with their deepest level of vulnerability. You have a responsibility to honor that within your interactions.

>>>>It's important to periodically check in with ourselves and give our motivations a hard, honest assessment.<<<<

You might be sitting there thinking, “Well Ash, nobody ever became a millionaire with that attitude.”

And you’d be erroneously assuming that I desire to be a millionaire. I don’t. I’ve known a few. They’re rarely happy and frequently followed by a trail of regrets. The happy ones are the people who followed a passion, the money was just a pleasant side effect.

You can be successful and still do what you love. The difference is that if you do what you love, you're more likely to be successful at it. If you strive primarily for success and lose sight of what you love, you'll end up just like rest of them at the end of the day, sacrificing real fulfillment while working your ass off for something that ends up being hollow.

Have you checked your motivations today?

#spiritualbusinesscoach #wellnesscoaching #wellnesscoaches #lifeadvice #coaching #manifesting #manifestation #soulpreneur #consciousentrepreneurship #consciousleadership

<img alt="If it isn’t obvious already, I take serious issue with the commercialization of spirituality. Once the desire for success overtakes the desire for service to the greater good, you cross the border into service of your own ego, and the work loses its integrity. One of the reasons I took a sabbatical from offering paid services in 2017 is because I had no steady source of income and was in a position where I needed to make ends meet. But if I'm in a position where I *need* to make my spiritual work support me financially, then I'm inherently driven by a state of lack wherein my primary motivation is to make money, rather than to be of service. If I'm inherently driven by a state of lack wherein my primary motivation is to achieve status and success, rather than be of service, the work also loses its integrity. This concept applies to business, as well as life—when you lose sight of your mission, you find yourself out of alignment with your higher purpose. Spiritual work is sacred work. People trust you with their deepest level of vulnerability. You have a responsibility to honor that within your interactions. >>>>It's important to periodically check in with ourselves and give our motivations a hard, honest assessment.<<<< You might be sitting there thinking, “Well Ash, nobody ever became a millionaire with that attitude.” And you’d be erroneously assuming that I desire to be a millionaire. I don’t. I’ve known a few. They’re rarely happy and frequently followed by a trail of regrets. The happy ones are the people who followed a passion, the money was just a pleasant side effect. You can be successful and still do what you love. The difference is that if you do what you love, you're more likely to be successful at it. If you strive primarily for success and lose sight of what you love, you'll end up just like rest of them at the end of the day, sacrificing real fulfillment while working your ass off for something that ends up being hollow. Have you checked your motivations today? #spiritualbusinesscoach #wellnesscoaching #wellnesscoaches #lifeadvice #coaching #manifesting #manifestation #soulpreneur #consciousentrepreneurship #consciousleadership" data-recalc-dims="1" data-src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" class="lazyload" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw=="><noscript><img src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" alt="If it isn’t obvious already, I take serious issue with the commercialization of spirituality. Once the desire for success overtakes the desire for service to the greater good, you cross the border into service of your own ego, and the work loses its integrity. One of the reasons I took a sabbatical from offering paid services in 2017 is because I had no steady source of income and was in a position where I needed to make ends meet. But if I'm in a position where I *need* to make my spiritual work support me financially, then I'm inherently driven by a state of lack wherein my primary motivation is to make money, rather than to be of service. If I'm inherently driven by a state of lack wherein my primary motivation is to achieve status and success, rather than be of service, the work also loses its integrity. This concept applies to business, as well as life—when you lose sight of your mission, you find yourself out of alignment with your higher purpose. Spiritual work is sacred work. People trust you with their deepest level of vulnerability. You have a responsibility to honor that within your interactions. >>>>It's important to periodically check in with ourselves and give our motivations a hard, honest assessment.<<<< You might be sitting there thinking, “Well Ash, nobody ever became a millionaire with that attitude.” And you’d be erroneously assuming that I desire to be a millionaire. I don’t. I’ve known a few. They’re rarely happy and frequently followed by a trail of regrets. The happy ones are the people who followed a passion, the money was just a pleasant side effect. You can be successful and still do what you love. The difference is that if you do what you love, you're more likely to be successful at it. If you strive primarily for success and lose sight of what you love, you'll end up just like rest of them at the end of the day, sacrificing real fulfillment while working your ass off for something that ends up being hollow. Have you checked your motivations today? #spiritualbusinesscoach #wellnesscoaching #wellnesscoaches #lifeadvice #coaching #manifesting #manifestation #soulpreneur #consciousentrepreneurship #consciousleadership" data-recalc-dims="1">

I’ve been seeing this one pop up recently and th

I’ve been seeing this one pop up recently and thought it necessary to tackle the nuances in a blog post.

#Victimconsciousness does exist, but it’s often applied to the wrong people as a means of undermining their experiences.

The real #victimmentalities are actually self-preservation mechanisms present in narcissistic abusers, and it’s one of the things that causes a victim of abuse to shift into being a perpetrator of abuse.

Learn about the difference between victim-shaming and REAL victim mentalities over on my blog, and how to evaluate whether or not you have one:

inmysacredspace.com/victim-consciousness

#narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissistsurvivor #victimmentality #narcissistrecovery #covertnarcissism #narcissisticabuseawareness #gaslighting #codependencyrecovery #codependent #codependentnomore #traumainformed
#spirituality #spiritualawakening #spiritualjourney #spiritualgrowth #spiritual #personalgrowth #lightworkersofinstagram #lightworkersofinstagram #lightworker #spiritualnarcissism #spiritualabuse #traumainformedspirituality

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Let’s talk about this whole “women support wom

Let’s talk about this whole “women support women, not tear each other down” concept that a lot of girl boss cheerleaders like to rah rah about.

Just so we’re clear: some of the most guilty parties of engaging in and upholding patriarchy and misogyny are women themselves.

Not every woman should be celebrated. History is full of women who aided and abetted racists, misogynists, homophobes, etc.

Women are just as capable of engaging in toxic behavior and spreading toxic ideas as men.

We need to be able to have constructive critical conversations among ourselves about what benefits us as a group and what does not.

Don’t confuse manufactured jealousy with with intellectual discourse.

Anyone trying to hide behind “women don’t tear each other down,” especially if and when the ideas they are perpetuating are mired in patriarchy, transphobia, or racism, is just perpetuating existing systems of oppression rather than helping to tear them down.

Many women are still engulfed in patriarchal ideology. Some of them have tried to label it feminism.

Girl Boss feminism is just patriarchy and capitalism in a pantsuit.

<img alt="Let’s talk about this whole “women support women, not tear each other down” concept that a lot of girl boss cheerleaders like to rah rah about. Just so we’re clear: some of the most guilty parties of engaging in and upholding patriarchy and misogyny are women themselves. Not every woman should be celebrated. History is full of women who aided and abetted racists, misogynists, homophobes, etc. Women are just as capable of engaging in toxic behavior and spreading toxic ideas as men. We need to be able to have constructive critical conversations among ourselves about what benefits us as a group and what does not. Don’t confuse manufactured jealousy with with intellectual discourse. Anyone trying to hide behind “women don’t tear each other down,” especially if and when the ideas they are perpetuating are mired in patriarchy, transphobia, or racism, is just perpetuating existing systems of oppression rather than helping to tear them down. Many women are still engulfed in patriarchal ideology. Some of them have tried to label it feminism. Girl Boss feminism is just patriarchy and capitalism in a pantsuit." data-recalc-dims="1" data-src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" class="lazyload" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw=="><noscript><img src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" alt="Let’s talk about this whole “women support women, not tear each other down” concept that a lot of girl boss cheerleaders like to rah rah about. Just so we’re clear: some of the most guilty parties of engaging in and upholding patriarchy and misogyny are women themselves. Not every woman should be celebrated. History is full of women who aided and abetted racists, misogynists, homophobes, etc. Women are just as capable of engaging in toxic behavior and spreading toxic ideas as men. We need to be able to have constructive critical conversations among ourselves about what benefits us as a group and what does not. Don’t confuse manufactured jealousy with with intellectual discourse. Anyone trying to hide behind “women don’t tear each other down,” especially if and when the ideas they are perpetuating are mired in patriarchy, transphobia, or racism, is just perpetuating existing systems of oppression rather than helping to tear them down. Many women are still engulfed in patriarchal ideology. Some of them have tried to label it feminism. Girl Boss feminism is just patriarchy and capitalism in a pantsuit." data-recalc-dims="1">

For the last five years, I've publicly documented

For the last five years, I've publicly documented my own healing as well as my struggles with trying to find a sense of normalcy while living with PTSD and complex trauma.

Trying to date again after being in a relationship for seven years was hard. Being sexually assaulted during my reacclimation to dating life was a rude awakening. And trying to date again post-sexual assault was maybe the most difficult thing I've ever done in my life. Holding out hope that there was someone out there (in an environment like New York City, no less) who wouldn't see me as irreparably damaged seemed like a pipe dream.

I tried to be open about my situation. Some people attempted to take advantage of that. Others tossed me aside like I was disposable. I had a lot of meltdowns, and I'm sure I handled some of those situations in terrible ways.

But eventually I met someone who didn't look at me like a broken thing, who showed me nothing but kindness and a commitment to being there with me while I healed.

"We'll figure it out together," is a short phrase that meant more to me than he'll ever know–and it still does.

He's held up his end of the bargain, and I've held up mine: to take responsibility for my own healing so that I don't pass my pain onto him.

You see, I've been in his shoes, too. I've been the person who looked at someone with all of their battle scars and only saw their beauty. But those same people repaid me with the deepest pain I've ever endured, all because they couldn't own their healing and decided it was easier to cut and run without so much as a goodbye. And I promised myself that I'd do everything in my power to never treat someone I love who had shown me such compassion in that way.

Healing is a commitment we make to ourselves, but also to those we care about, and who care about us. And it's fucking hard, I won't lie. But when you refuse to do it, you inevitably end up hurting more people. That's one of the reasons I talk about trauma and abuse cycles.

Those who want others to save them from themselves will always end up hurting the people they claim to love.

And I'm not in the saving business anymore.

<img alt="For the last five years, I've publicly documented my own healing as well as my struggles with trying to find a sense of normalcy while living with PTSD and complex trauma. Trying to date again after being in a relationship for seven years was hard. Being sexually assaulted during my reacclimation to dating life was a rude awakening. And trying to date again post-sexual assault was maybe the most difficult thing I've ever done in my life. Holding out hope that there was someone out there (in an environment like New York City, no less) who wouldn't see me as irreparably damaged seemed like a pipe dream. I tried to be open about my situation. Some people attempted to take advantage of that. Others tossed me aside like I was disposable. I had a lot of meltdowns, and I'm sure I handled some of those situations in terrible ways. But eventually I met someone who didn't look at me like a broken thing, who showed me nothing but kindness and a commitment to being there with me while I healed. "We'll figure it out together," is a short phrase that meant more to me than he'll ever know–and it still does. He's held up his end of the bargain, and I've held up mine: to take responsibility for my own healing so that I don't pass my pain onto him. You see, I've been in his shoes, too. I've been the person who looked at someone with all of their battle scars and only saw their beauty. But those same people repaid me with the deepest pain I've ever endured, all because they couldn't own their healing and decided it was easier to cut and run without so much as a goodbye. And I promised myself that I'd do everything in my power to never treat someone I love who had shown me such compassion in that way. Healing is a commitment we make to ourselves, but also to those we care about, and who care about us. And it's fucking hard, I won't lie. But when you refuse to do it, you inevitably end up hurting more people. That's one of the reasons I talk about trauma and abuse cycles. Those who want others to save them from themselves will always end up hurting the people they claim to love. And I'm not in the saving business anymore." data-recalc-dims="1" data-src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" class="lazyload" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw=="><noscript><img src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" alt="For the last five years, I've publicly documented my own healing as well as my struggles with trying to find a sense of normalcy while living with PTSD and complex trauma. Trying to date again after being in a relationship for seven years was hard. Being sexually assaulted during my reacclimation to dating life was a rude awakening. And trying to date again post-sexual assault was maybe the most difficult thing I've ever done in my life. Holding out hope that there was someone out there (in an environment like New York City, no less) who wouldn't see me as irreparably damaged seemed like a pipe dream. I tried to be open about my situation. Some people attempted to take advantage of that. Others tossed me aside like I was disposable. I had a lot of meltdowns, and I'm sure I handled some of those situations in terrible ways. But eventually I met someone who didn't look at me like a broken thing, who showed me nothing but kindness and a commitment to being there with me while I healed. "We'll figure it out together," is a short phrase that meant more to me than he'll ever know–and it still does. He's held up his end of the bargain, and I've held up mine: to take responsibility for my own healing so that I don't pass my pain onto him. You see, I've been in his shoes, too. I've been the person who looked at someone with all of their battle scars and only saw their beauty. But those same people repaid me with the deepest pain I've ever endured, all because they couldn't own their healing and decided it was easier to cut and run without so much as a goodbye. And I promised myself that I'd do everything in my power to never treat someone I love who had shown me such compassion in that way. Healing is a commitment we make to ourselves, but also to those we care about, and who care about us. And it's fucking hard, I won't lie. But when you refuse to do it, you inevitably end up hurting more people. That's one of the reasons I talk about trauma and abuse cycles. Those who want others to save them from themselves will always end up hurting the people they claim to love. And I'm not in the saving business anymore." data-recalc-dims="1">

There’s a lot of sugar-coated bullshit floating

There’s a lot of sugar-coated bullshit floating around on the internet when it comes to spirituality.

A lot of love, light, and lack of substance.

The truth is that a real spiritual practice must include shadow work and for a lot of people who aren’t ready, that’s terrifying because it means having to actually peer into one’s own darkness, light a match, burn it all down, and rise from the ashes.

You can’t teach from that place without first experiencing it, so for those who are afraid of the work, it’s easier to embrace toxic positivity than to face reality.

If you’re looking for gritty truth over cute catch-phrases, you’ll find it in the people talking about pain, purpose, healing, and compassion.

They spit fire, not frosting.

For spirituality with substance, find me: @ashrising

<img alt="There’s a lot of sugar-coated bullshit floating around on the internet when it comes to spirituality. A lot of love, light, and lack of substance. The truth is that a real spiritual practice must include shadow work and for a lot of people who aren’t ready, that’s terrifying because it means having to actually peer into one’s own darkness, light a match, burn it all down, and rise from the ashes. You can’t teach from that place without first experiencing it, so for those who are afraid of the work, it’s easier to embrace toxic positivity than to face reality. If you’re looking for gritty truth over cute catch-phrases, you’ll find it in the people talking about pain, purpose, healing, and compassion. They spit fire, not frosting. For spirituality with substance, find me: @ashrising" data-recalc-dims="1" data-src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" class="lazyload" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw=="><noscript><img src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" alt="There’s a lot of sugar-coated bullshit floating around on the internet when it comes to spirituality. A lot of love, light, and lack of substance. The truth is that a real spiritual practice must include shadow work and for a lot of people who aren’t ready, that’s terrifying because it means having to actually peer into one’s own darkness, light a match, burn it all down, and rise from the ashes. You can’t teach from that place without first experiencing it, so for those who are afraid of the work, it’s easier to embrace toxic positivity than to face reality. If you’re looking for gritty truth over cute catch-phrases, you’ll find it in the people talking about pain, purpose, healing, and compassion. They spit fire, not frosting. For spirituality with substance, find me: @ashrising" data-recalc-dims="1">

I’ve seen this a lot. Hell, I’ve been this per

I’ve seen this a lot. Hell, I’ve been this person. But over the last three-four years, I’ve stopped telling myself that I need to like everybody. There’s been a multitude of experiences that have helped me realize that.

One was a girl who I immediately got a bad vibe from just from looking at her in a group photo. There was nothing in particular about her appearance that was off-putting, I just knew she was bad news. I felt it in the pit of my stomach.

Later, a mutual friend asked me to take her on as a client. Even though I had a really bad feeling about it, I told myself that “we should help everyone who wants it,” and kept ignoring and dismissing my visceral dislike of her, even going so far as to tell myself it must be a symptom if my own insecurity.

Fast-forward two weeks, and she had taken what I told her in our session and posted it to her social media followers as though it was her own, and my visceral dislike was thoroughly validated. As if that wasn’t enough, not long after, she would lie and use me as a means of hurting said friend, sabotage our relationship, and cause deep pain to both of us.

If I had listened to my gut instead of thinking I had to be nice to everybody, I *may* have avoided it.

Another example from several years earlier:

My ex father-in-law had gotten into politics and was hosting a meet and greet for an up and coming gubernatorial candidate named Eric Greitens. Lots of people I knew had been talking him up. He was a Rhodes Scholar, attended Oxford, was a former Navy Seal, humanitarian, book author, and founded a nonprofit for veterans.

[continues in comments 👇🏻]

<img alt="I’ve seen this a lot. Hell, I’ve been this person. But over the last three-four years, I’ve stopped telling myself that I need to like everybody. There’s been a multitude of experiences that have helped me realize that. One was a girl who I immediately got a bad vibe from just from looking at her in a group photo. There was nothing in particular about her appearance that was off-putting, I just knew she was bad news. I felt it in the pit of my stomach. Later, a mutual friend asked me to take her on as a client. Even though I had a really bad feeling about it, I told myself that “we should help everyone who wants it,” and kept ignoring and dismissing my visceral dislike of her, even going so far as to tell myself it must be a symptom if my own insecurity. Fast-forward two weeks, and she had taken what I told her in our session and posted it to her social media followers as though it was her own, and my visceral dislike was thoroughly validated. As if that wasn’t enough, not long after, she would lie and use me as a means of hurting said friend, sabotage our relationship, and cause deep pain to both of us. If I had listened to my gut instead of thinking I had to be nice to everybody, I *may* have avoided it. Another example from several years earlier: My ex father-in-law had gotten into politics and was hosting a meet and greet for an up and coming gubernatorial candidate named Eric Greitens. Lots of people I knew had been talking him up. He was a Rhodes Scholar, attended Oxford, was a former Navy Seal, humanitarian, book author, and founded a nonprofit for veterans. [continues in comments 👇🏻]" data-recalc-dims="1" data-src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" class="lazyload" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw=="><noscript><img src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" alt="I’ve seen this a lot. Hell, I’ve been this person. But over the last three-four years, I’ve stopped telling myself that I need to like everybody. There’s been a multitude of experiences that have helped me realize that. One was a girl who I immediately got a bad vibe from just from looking at her in a group photo. There was nothing in particular about her appearance that was off-putting, I just knew she was bad news. I felt it in the pit of my stomach. Later, a mutual friend asked me to take her on as a client. Even though I had a really bad feeling about it, I told myself that “we should help everyone who wants it,” and kept ignoring and dismissing my visceral dislike of her, even going so far as to tell myself it must be a symptom if my own insecurity. Fast-forward two weeks, and she had taken what I told her in our session and posted it to her social media followers as though it was her own, and my visceral dislike was thoroughly validated. As if that wasn’t enough, not long after, she would lie and use me as a means of hurting said friend, sabotage our relationship, and cause deep pain to both of us. If I had listened to my gut instead of thinking I had to be nice to everybody, I *may* have avoided it. Another example from several years earlier: My ex father-in-law had gotten into politics and was hosting a meet and greet for an up and coming gubernatorial candidate named Eric Greitens. Lots of people I knew had been talking him up. He was a Rhodes Scholar, attended Oxford, was a former Navy Seal, humanitarian, book author, and founded a nonprofit for veterans. [continues in comments 👇🏻]" data-recalc-dims="1">

Taking you to church on a Tuesday. I come from a

Taking you to church on a Tuesday.

I come from a long line of hellfire and brimstone Southern Baptist preachers. I’m not above using Bible verses to illustrate a point.

Let’s get righteously pissed and clean house, Jesus style.

<img alt="Taking you to church on a Tuesday. I come from a long line of hellfire and brimstone Southern Baptist preachers. I’m not above using Bible verses to illustrate a point. Let’s get righteously pissed and clean house, Jesus style." data-recalc-dims="1" data-src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" class="lazyload" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw=="><noscript><img src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" alt="Taking you to church on a Tuesday. I come from a long line of hellfire and brimstone Southern Baptist preachers. I’m not above using Bible verses to illustrate a point. Let’s get righteously pissed and clean house, Jesus style." data-recalc-dims="1">

If it isn’t obvious already, I take serious issu

If it isn’t obvious already, I take serious issue with the commercialization of spirituality.

Once the desire for success overtakes the desire for service to the greater good, you cross the border into service of your own ego, and the work loses its integrity.

One of the reasons I took a sabbatical from offering paid services in 2017 is because I had no steady source of income and was in a position where I needed to make ends meet. But if I'm in a position where I *need* to make my spiritual work support me financially, then I'm inherently driven by a state of lack wherein my primary motivation is to make money, rather than to be of service.

If I'm inherently driven by a state of lack wherein my primary motivation is to achieve status and success, rather than be of service, the work also loses its integrity.

This concept applies to business, as well as life—when you lose sight of your mission, you find yourself out of alignment with your higher purpose.

Spiritual work is sacred work. People trust you with their deepest level of vulnerability. You have a responsibility to honor that within your interactions.

>>>>It's important to periodically check in with ourselves and give our motivations a hard, honest assessment.<<<<

You might be sitting there thinking, “Well Ash, nobody ever became a millionaire with that attitude.”

And you’d be erroneously assuming that I desire to be a millionaire. I don’t. I’ve known a few. They’re rarely happy and frequently followed by a trail of regrets. The happy ones are the people who followed a passion, the money was just a pleasant side effect.

You can be successful and still do what you love. The difference is that if you do what you love, you're more likely to be successful at it. If you strive primarily for success and lose sight of what you love, you'll end up just like rest of them at the end of the day, sacrificing real fulfillment while working your ass off for something that ends up being hollow.

Have you checked your motivations today?

#spiritualbusinesscoach #wellnesscoaching #wellnesscoaches #lifeadvice #coaching #manifesting #manifestation #soulpreneur #consciousentrepreneurship #consciousleadership

<img alt="If it isn’t obvious already, I take serious issue with the commercialization of spirituality. Once the desire for success overtakes the desire for service to the greater good, you cross the border into service of your own ego, and the work loses its integrity. One of the reasons I took a sabbatical from offering paid services in 2017 is because I had no steady source of income and was in a position where I needed to make ends meet. But if I'm in a position where I *need* to make my spiritual work support me financially, then I'm inherently driven by a state of lack wherein my primary motivation is to make money, rather than to be of service. If I'm inherently driven by a state of lack wherein my primary motivation is to achieve status and success, rather than be of service, the work also loses its integrity. This concept applies to business, as well as life—when you lose sight of your mission, you find yourself out of alignment with your higher purpose. Spiritual work is sacred work. People trust you with their deepest level of vulnerability. You have a responsibility to honor that within your interactions. >>>>It's important to periodically check in with ourselves and give our motivations a hard, honest assessment.<<<< You might be sitting there thinking, “Well Ash, nobody ever became a millionaire with that attitude.” And you’d be erroneously assuming that I desire to be a millionaire. I don’t. I’ve known a few. They’re rarely happy and frequently followed by a trail of regrets. The happy ones are the people who followed a passion, the money was just a pleasant side effect. You can be successful and still do what you love. The difference is that if you do what you love, you're more likely to be successful at it. If you strive primarily for success and lose sight of what you love, you'll end up just like rest of them at the end of the day, sacrificing real fulfillment while working your ass off for something that ends up being hollow. Have you checked your motivations today? #spiritualbusinesscoach #wellnesscoaching #wellnesscoaches #lifeadvice #coaching #manifesting #manifestation #soulpreneur #consciousentrepreneurship #consciousleadership" data-recalc-dims="1" data-src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" class="lazyload" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw=="><noscript><img src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" alt="If it isn’t obvious already, I take serious issue with the commercialization of spirituality. Once the desire for success overtakes the desire for service to the greater good, you cross the border into service of your own ego, and the work loses its integrity. One of the reasons I took a sabbatical from offering paid services in 2017 is because I had no steady source of income and was in a position where I needed to make ends meet. But if I'm in a position where I *need* to make my spiritual work support me financially, then I'm inherently driven by a state of lack wherein my primary motivation is to make money, rather than to be of service. If I'm inherently driven by a state of lack wherein my primary motivation is to achieve status and success, rather than be of service, the work also loses its integrity. This concept applies to business, as well as life—when you lose sight of your mission, you find yourself out of alignment with your higher purpose. Spiritual work is sacred work. People trust you with their deepest level of vulnerability. You have a responsibility to honor that within your interactions. >>>>It's important to periodically check in with ourselves and give our motivations a hard, honest assessment.<<<< You might be sitting there thinking, “Well Ash, nobody ever became a millionaire with that attitude.” And you’d be erroneously assuming that I desire to be a millionaire. I don’t. I’ve known a few. They’re rarely happy and frequently followed by a trail of regrets. The happy ones are the people who followed a passion, the money was just a pleasant side effect. You can be successful and still do what you love. The difference is that if you do what you love, you're more likely to be successful at it. If you strive primarily for success and lose sight of what you love, you'll end up just like rest of them at the end of the day, sacrificing real fulfillment while working your ass off for something that ends up being hollow. Have you checked your motivations today? #spiritualbusinesscoach #wellnesscoaching #wellnesscoaches #lifeadvice #coaching #manifesting #manifestation #soulpreneur #consciousentrepreneurship #consciousleadership" data-recalc-dims="1">

I’ve been seeing this one pop up recently and th

I’ve been seeing this one pop up recently and thought it necessary to tackle the nuances in a blog post.

#Victimconsciousness does exist, but it’s often applied to the wrong people as a means of undermining their experiences.

The real #victimmentalities are actually self-preservation mechanisms present in narcissistic abusers, and it’s one of the things that causes a victim of abuse to shift into being a perpetrator of abuse.

Learn about the difference between victim-shaming and REAL victim mentalities over on my blog, and how to evaluate whether or not you have one:

inmysacredspace.com/victim-consciousness

#narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissistsurvivor #victimmentality #narcissistrecovery #covertnarcissism #narcissisticabuseawareness #gaslighting #codependencyrecovery #codependent #codependentnomore #traumainformed
#spirituality #spiritualawakening #spiritualjourney #spiritualgrowth #spiritual #personalgrowth #lightworkersofinstagram #lightworkersofinstagram #lightworker #spiritualnarcissism #spiritualabuse #traumainformedspirituality

<img alt="I’ve been seeing this one pop up recently and thought it necessary to tackle the nuances in a blog post. #Victimconsciousness does exist, but it’s often applied to the wrong people as a means of undermining their experiences. The real #victimmentalities are actually self-preservation mechanisms present in narcissistic abusers, and it’s one of the things that causes a victim of abuse to shift into being a perpetrator of abuse. Learn about the difference between victim-shaming and REAL victim mentalities over on my blog, and how to evaluate whether or not you have one: inmysacredspace.com/victim-consciousness #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissistsurvivor #victimmentality #narcissistrecovery #covertnarcissism #narcissisticabuseawareness #gaslighting #codependencyrecovery #codependent #codependentnomore #traumainformed #spirituality #spiritualawakening #spiritualjourney #spiritualgrowth #spiritual #personalgrowth #lightworkersofinstagram #lightworkersofinstagram #lightworker #spiritualnarcissism #spiritualabuse #traumainformedspirituality" data-recalc-dims="1" data-src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" class="lazyload" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw=="><noscript><img src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" alt="I’ve been seeing this one pop up recently and thought it necessary to tackle the nuances in a blog post. #Victimconsciousness does exist, but it’s often applied to the wrong people as a means of undermining their experiences. The real #victimmentalities are actually self-preservation mechanisms present in narcissistic abusers, and it’s one of the things that causes a victim of abuse to shift into being a perpetrator of abuse. Learn about the difference between victim-shaming and REAL victim mentalities over on my blog, and how to evaluate whether or not you have one: inmysacredspace.com/victim-consciousness #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissistsurvivor #victimmentality #narcissistrecovery #covertnarcissism #narcissisticabuseawareness #gaslighting #codependencyrecovery #codependent #codependentnomore #traumainformed #spirituality #spiritualawakening #spiritualjourney #spiritualgrowth #spiritual #personalgrowth #lightworkersofinstagram #lightworkersofinstagram #lightworker #spiritualnarcissism #spiritualabuse #traumainformedspirituality" data-recalc-dims="1">

Let’s talk about this whole “women support wom

Let’s talk about this whole “women support women, not tear each other down” concept that a lot of girl boss cheerleaders like to rah rah about.

Just so we’re clear: some of the most guilty parties of engaging in and upholding patriarchy and misogyny are women themselves.

Not every woman should be celebrated. History is full of women who aided and abetted racists, misogynists, homophobes, etc.

Women are just as capable of engaging in toxic behavior and spreading toxic ideas as men.

We need to be able to have constructive critical conversations among ourselves about what benefits us as a group and what does not.

Don’t confuse manufactured jealousy with with intellectual discourse.

Anyone trying to hide behind “women don’t tear each other down,” especially if and when the ideas they are perpetuating are mired in patriarchy, transphobia, or racism, is just perpetuating existing systems of oppression rather than helping to tear them down.

Many women are still engulfed in patriarchal ideology. Some of them have tried to label it feminism.

Girl Boss feminism is just patriarchy and capitalism in a pantsuit.

<img alt="Let’s talk about this whole “women support women, not tear each other down” concept that a lot of girl boss cheerleaders like to rah rah about. Just so we’re clear: some of the most guilty parties of engaging in and upholding patriarchy and misogyny are women themselves. Not every woman should be celebrated. History is full of women who aided and abetted racists, misogynists, homophobes, etc. Women are just as capable of engaging in toxic behavior and spreading toxic ideas as men. We need to be able to have constructive critical conversations among ourselves about what benefits us as a group and what does not. Don’t confuse manufactured jealousy with with intellectual discourse. Anyone trying to hide behind “women don’t tear each other down,” especially if and when the ideas they are perpetuating are mired in patriarchy, transphobia, or racism, is just perpetuating existing systems of oppression rather than helping to tear them down. Many women are still engulfed in patriarchal ideology. Some of them have tried to label it feminism. Girl Boss feminism is just patriarchy and capitalism in a pantsuit." data-recalc-dims="1" data-src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" class="lazyload" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw=="><noscript><img src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" alt="Let’s talk about this whole “women support women, not tear each other down” concept that a lot of girl boss cheerleaders like to rah rah about. Just so we’re clear: some of the most guilty parties of engaging in and upholding patriarchy and misogyny are women themselves. Not every woman should be celebrated. History is full of women who aided and abetted racists, misogynists, homophobes, etc. Women are just as capable of engaging in toxic behavior and spreading toxic ideas as men. We need to be able to have constructive critical conversations among ourselves about what benefits us as a group and what does not. Don’t confuse manufactured jealousy with with intellectual discourse. Anyone trying to hide behind “women don’t tear each other down,” especially if and when the ideas they are perpetuating are mired in patriarchy, transphobia, or racism, is just perpetuating existing systems of oppression rather than helping to tear them down. Many women are still engulfed in patriarchal ideology. Some of them have tried to label it feminism. Girl Boss feminism is just patriarchy and capitalism in a pantsuit." data-recalc-dims="1">