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My Bookshelf

Browse the books I own, am currently reading, or highly recommend for those on their spiritual path.

BOOKS FOR THE BEGINNER

Conversations With God Trilogy

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Conversations With God

by Neale Donald Walsch

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The Power of Now

<img width="800" height="800" src="https://i1.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/the-power-of-now.png?resize=800%2C800&ssl=1" alt="The Power of Now" srcset="https://i1.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/the-power-of-now.png?w=800&ssl=1 800w, https://i1.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/the-power-of-now.png?resize=300%2C300&ssl=1 300w, https://i1.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/the-power-of-now.png?resize=600%2C600&ssl=1 600w, https://i1.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/the-power-of-now.png?resize=250%2C250&ssl=1 250w, https://i1.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/the-power-of-now.png?resize=480%2C480&ssl=1 480w, https://i1.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/the-power-of-now.png?resize=150%2C150&ssl=1 150w, https://i1.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/the-power-of-now.png?resize=157%2C157&ssl=1 157w, https://i1.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/the-power-of-now.png?resize=400%2C400&ssl=1 400w, https://i1.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/the-power-of-now.png?resize=510%2C510&ssl=1 510w, https://i1.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/the-power-of-now.png?resize=610%2C610&ssl=1 610w" sizes="(max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px" class="et-waypoint et_pb_animation_off et_pb_animation_off_tablet et_pb_animation_off_phone wp-image-8856" data-recalc-dims="1" />

The Power of Now

By Eckhart Tolle

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Journey of Souls

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Journey of Souls

By Michael Newton

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BOOKS FOR THE INTERMEDIATE AND ADVANCED

Glynnis Has your Number

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Glynnis Has your Number

by Glynnis McCants

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The Electric Jesus

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The Electric Jesus

by Jonathan Talat Phillips

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Destiny of Souls

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Destiny of Souls

by Michael Newton

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The Dream Dictionary A-Z

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The Dream Dictionary A-Z

by Theresa Chung

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The Watkins Tarot Handbook

<img width="800" height="800" src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/watkins-tarot-handbook.png?resize=800%2C800&ssl=1" alt="The Watkins Tarot Handbook" srcset="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/watkins-tarot-handbook.png?w=800&ssl=1 800w, https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/watkins-tarot-handbook.png?resize=300%2C300&ssl=1 300w, https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/watkins-tarot-handbook.png?resize=600%2C600&ssl=1 600w, https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/watkins-tarot-handbook.png?resize=250%2C250&ssl=1 250w, https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/watkins-tarot-handbook.png?resize=480%2C480&ssl=1 480w, https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/watkins-tarot-handbook.png?resize=150%2C150&ssl=1 150w, https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/watkins-tarot-handbook.png?resize=157%2C157&ssl=1 157w, https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/watkins-tarot-handbook.png?resize=400%2C400&ssl=1 400w, https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/watkins-tarot-handbook.png?resize=510%2C510&ssl=1 510w, https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/watkins-tarot-handbook.png?resize=610%2C610&ssl=1 610w" sizes="(max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px" class="et-waypoint et_pb_animation_off et_pb_animation_off_tablet et_pb_animation_off_phone wp-image-8849" data-recalc-dims="1" />

The Watkins Tarot Handbook

by Naomi Ozaniek

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Many Lives, Many Masters

<img width="800" height="800" src="https://i1.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/many-lives-many-masters.png?resize=800%2C800&ssl=1" alt="Many Lives, Many Masters" srcset="https://i1.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/many-lives-many-masters.png?w=800&ssl=1 800w, https://i1.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/many-lives-many-masters.png?resize=300%2C300&ssl=1 300w, https://i1.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/many-lives-many-masters.png?resize=600%2C600&ssl=1 600w, https://i1.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/many-lives-many-masters.png?resize=250%2C250&ssl=1 250w, https://i1.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/many-lives-many-masters.png?resize=480%2C480&ssl=1 480w, https://i1.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/many-lives-many-masters.png?resize=150%2C150&ssl=1 150w, https://i1.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/many-lives-many-masters.png?resize=157%2C157&ssl=1 157w, https://i1.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/many-lives-many-masters.png?resize=400%2C400&ssl=1 400w, https://i1.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/many-lives-many-masters.png?resize=510%2C510&ssl=1 510w, https://i1.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/many-lives-many-masters.png?resize=610%2C610&ssl=1 610w" sizes="(max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px" class="et-waypoint et_pb_animation_off et_pb_animation_off_tablet et_pb_animation_off_phone wp-image-8852" data-recalc-dims="1" />

Many Lives, Many Masters

By Brian Weiss

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Fuck It: The Ultimate Spiritual Way

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Fuck It: The Ultimate Spiritual Way

by John C. Parkin

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The Custodians

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The Custodians

by Dolores Cannon

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The Convoluted Universe

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The Convoluted Universe

By Dolores Cannon

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There are certain species of pyrophytic wildflower

There are certain species of pyrophytic wildflowers whose seeds are only capable of germination after being exposed to extreme heat. They literally require the destructive force of a forest fire to crack open and begin to grow.

From the ash of everything that has burned down around them, they are catalyzed, transformed, and set on a path to blossom.

You’re going to burn through many versions of yourself on this journey.

The growth is in the forgiving.

— Notes to Self

#healing #spirituality #personaldevelopment #writingtoheal #personalgrowth #instadaily #motivation #words #honestlyworded #thoughtoftheday #lifequotes #soul #wordsthatheal #instagood #lifeadvice #spilledink #wordsofwisdom #highervibes #writer #healer #lightworker #awakening #quoteoftheday #lifequotes #reflectingoutloud

<img alt="There are certain species of pyrophytic wildflowers whose seeds are only capable of germination after being exposed to extreme heat. They literally require the destructive force of a forest fire to crack open and begin to grow. From the ash of everything that has burned down around them, they are catalyzed, transformed, and set on a path to blossom. You’re going to burn through many versions of yourself on this journey. The growth is in the forgiving. — Notes to Self #healing #spirituality #personaldevelopment #writingtoheal #personalgrowth #instadaily #motivation #words #honestlyworded #thoughtoftheday #lifequotes #soul #wordsthatheal #instagood #lifeadvice #spilledink #wordsofwisdom #highervibes #writer #healer #lightworker #awakening #quoteoftheday #lifequotes #reflectingoutloud" data-recalc-dims="1" data-src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" class="lazyload" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw=="><noscript><img src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" alt="There are certain species of pyrophytic wildflowers whose seeds are only capable of germination after being exposed to extreme heat. They literally require the destructive force of a forest fire to crack open and begin to grow. From the ash of everything that has burned down around them, they are catalyzed, transformed, and set on a path to blossom. You’re going to burn through many versions of yourself on this journey. The growth is in the forgiving. — Notes to Self #healing #spirituality #personaldevelopment #writingtoheal #personalgrowth #instadaily #motivation #words #honestlyworded #thoughtoftheday #lifequotes #soul #wordsthatheal #instagood #lifeadvice #spilledink #wordsofwisdom #highervibes #writer #healer #lightworker #awakening #quoteoftheday #lifequotes #reflectingoutloud" data-recalc-dims="1">

Self care is whatever you make of it. You can tota

Self care is whatever you make of it. You can totally smoke weed and dance your ass off to Slow Ride and Free Bird back-to-back in your kitchen (but fair warning, it’s a workout).

Don’t take yourselves too seriously, folks. It’s all ephemeral (😉).

Find me @ashrising

#selfcare #selfcarethreads #selfcaresunday #ephimeral #imhigh #shitmyspiritguidesays #lightworkersofinstagram #spiritualmeme #spirituality #spiritual #spiritualgrowth #spiritualjourney #wellness #wellnessjourney

<img alt="Self care is whatever you make of it. You can totally smoke weed and dance your ass off to Slow Ride and Free Bird back-to-back in your kitchen (but fair warning, it’s a workout). Don’t take yourselves too seriously, folks. It’s all ephemeral (😉). Find me @ashrising #selfcare #selfcarethreads #selfcaresunday #ephimeral #imhigh #shitmyspiritguidesays #lightworkersofinstagram #spiritualmeme #spirituality #spiritual #spiritualgrowth #spiritualjourney #wellness #wellnessjourney" data-recalc-dims="1" data-src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" class="lazyload" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw=="><noscript><img src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" alt="Self care is whatever you make of it. You can totally smoke weed and dance your ass off to Slow Ride and Free Bird back-to-back in your kitchen (but fair warning, it’s a workout). Don’t take yourselves too seriously, folks. It’s all ephemeral (😉). Find me @ashrising #selfcare #selfcarethreads #selfcaresunday #ephimeral #imhigh #shitmyspiritguidesays #lightworkersofinstagram #spiritualmeme #spirituality #spiritual #spiritualgrowth #spiritualjourney #wellness #wellnessjourney" data-recalc-dims="1">

I’ve been seeing this one pop up recently and th

I’ve been seeing this one pop up recently and thought it necessary to tackle the nuances in a blog post.

#Victimconsciousness does exist, but it’s often applied to the wrong people as a means of undermining their experiences.

The real #victimmentalities are actually self-preservation mechanisms present in narcissistic abusers, and it’s one of the things that causes a victim of abuse to shift into being a perpetrator of abuse.

Learn about the difference between victim-shaming and REAL victim mentalities over on my blog, and how to evaluate whether or not you have one:

inmysacredspace.com/victim-consciousness

#narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissistsurvivor #victimmentality #narcissistrecovery #covertnarcissism #narcissisticabuseawareness #gaslighting #codependencyrecovery #codependent #codependentnomore #traumainformed
#spirituality #spiritualawakening #spiritualjourney #spiritualgrowth #spiritual #personalgrowth #lightworkersofinstagram #lightworkersofinstagram #lightworker #spiritualnarcissism #spiritualabuse #traumainformedspirituality

<img alt="I’ve been seeing this one pop up recently and thought it necessary to tackle the nuances in a blog post. #Victimconsciousness does exist, but it’s often applied to the wrong people as a means of undermining their experiences. The real #victimmentalities are actually self-preservation mechanisms present in narcissistic abusers, and it’s one of the things that causes a victim of abuse to shift into being a perpetrator of abuse. Learn about the difference between victim-shaming and REAL victim mentalities over on my blog, and how to evaluate whether or not you have one: inmysacredspace.com/victim-consciousness #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissistsurvivor #victimmentality #narcissistrecovery #covertnarcissism #narcissisticabuseawareness #gaslighting #codependencyrecovery #codependent #codependentnomore #traumainformed #spirituality #spiritualawakening #spiritualjourney #spiritualgrowth #spiritual #personalgrowth #lightworkersofinstagram #lightworkersofinstagram #lightworker #spiritualnarcissism #spiritualabuse #traumainformedspirituality" data-recalc-dims="1" data-src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" class="lazyload" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw=="><noscript><img src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" alt="I’ve been seeing this one pop up recently and thought it necessary to tackle the nuances in a blog post. #Victimconsciousness does exist, but it’s often applied to the wrong people as a means of undermining their experiences. The real #victimmentalities are actually self-preservation mechanisms present in narcissistic abusers, and it’s one of the things that causes a victim of abuse to shift into being a perpetrator of abuse. Learn about the difference between victim-shaming and REAL victim mentalities over on my blog, and how to evaluate whether or not you have one: inmysacredspace.com/victim-consciousness #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissistsurvivor #victimmentality #narcissistrecovery #covertnarcissism #narcissisticabuseawareness #gaslighting #codependencyrecovery #codependent #codependentnomore #traumainformed #spirituality #spiritualawakening #spiritualjourney #spiritualgrowth #spiritual #personalgrowth #lightworkersofinstagram #lightworkersofinstagram #lightworker #spiritualnarcissism #spiritualabuse #traumainformedspirituality" data-recalc-dims="1">

Heeeeey so I got a whole bunch of new followers ov

Heeeeey so I got a whole bunch of new followers over the last three months and I see people do these “please allow me to re-introduce myself” posts when that happens and I’ve never done one and tbh I feel like a complete tool doing one now but whateversss.... embrace your majestic social awkwardness, I guess? 😂

My name is Ashley. You can call me Ash (yes, precisely like Ash from Army of Darkness. Hail to the king, baby) and I’m not here to sell you anything at all. No seriously. I have zero services for sale at the moment. I’m still figuring out what to do and how to do that in a way that’s in integrity with my personal values.

What I DO do here is talk a lot about my own personal experiences with abuse and trauma as well as the personal insights I’ve gleaned from them, as well as pose hard questions about the world we live in.

The biggest issue that I write about? Oh, its a lot of things really but it falls into a few buckets/themes. The intersection between narcissism, individualism, and western spirituality and all things that this umbrella encompasses, mostly, and how that's entirely connected to the fact that we live in a culture of normalized abuse and unhealed trauma. And I relate a lot of that back to spirituality, but not the fluffy sort of love and light spirituality that a lot of people are pedaling these days—more so the really dark, uncomfortable parts of spirituality—which includes a critique of mainstream spirituality itself.

I advocate for self-awareness and socially responsible, trauma-informed, science-based spirituality rooted in integrity and authenticity.

You can check out my long-form content on my website, inmysacredspace.com.

I also try to make sure that I don’t take myself too seriously. You shouldn’t take me too seriously, either. 💁🏻‍♀️

<img alt="Heeeeey so I got a whole bunch of new followers over the last three months and I see people do these “please allow me to re-introduce myself” posts when that happens and I’ve never done one and tbh I feel like a complete tool doing one now but whateversss.... embrace your majestic social awkwardness, I guess? 😂 My name is Ashley. You can call me Ash (yes, precisely like Ash from Army of Darkness. Hail to the king, baby) and I’m not here to sell you anything at all. No seriously. I have zero services for sale at the moment. I’m still figuring out what to do and how to do that in a way that’s in integrity with my personal values. What I DO do here is talk a lot about my own personal experiences with abuse and trauma as well as the personal insights I’ve gleaned from them, as well as pose hard questions about the world we live in. The biggest issue that I write about? Oh, its a lot of things really but it falls into a few buckets/themes. The intersection between narcissism, individualism, and western spirituality and all things that this umbrella encompasses, mostly, and how that's entirely connected to the fact that we live in a culture of normalized abuse and unhealed trauma. And I relate a lot of that back to spirituality, but not the fluffy sort of love and light spirituality that a lot of people are pedaling these days—more so the really dark, uncomfortable parts of spirituality—which includes a critique of mainstream spirituality itself. I advocate for self-awareness and socially responsible, trauma-informed, science-based spirituality rooted in integrity and authenticity. You can check out my long-form content on my website, inmysacredspace.com. I also try to make sure that I don’t take myself too seriously. You shouldn’t take me too seriously, either. 💁🏻‍♀️" data-recalc-dims="1" data-src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" class="lazyload" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw=="><noscript><img src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" alt="Heeeeey so I got a whole bunch of new followers over the last three months and I see people do these “please allow me to re-introduce myself” posts when that happens and I’ve never done one and tbh I feel like a complete tool doing one now but whateversss.... embrace your majestic social awkwardness, I guess? 😂 My name is Ashley. You can call me Ash (yes, precisely like Ash from Army of Darkness. Hail to the king, baby) and I’m not here to sell you anything at all. No seriously. I have zero services for sale at the moment. I’m still figuring out what to do and how to do that in a way that’s in integrity with my personal values. What I DO do here is talk a lot about my own personal experiences with abuse and trauma as well as the personal insights I’ve gleaned from them, as well as pose hard questions about the world we live in. The biggest issue that I write about? Oh, its a lot of things really but it falls into a few buckets/themes. The intersection between narcissism, individualism, and western spirituality and all things that this umbrella encompasses, mostly, and how that's entirely connected to the fact that we live in a culture of normalized abuse and unhealed trauma. And I relate a lot of that back to spirituality, but not the fluffy sort of love and light spirituality that a lot of people are pedaling these days—more so the really dark, uncomfortable parts of spirituality—which includes a critique of mainstream spirituality itself. I advocate for self-awareness and socially responsible, trauma-informed, science-based spirituality rooted in integrity and authenticity. You can check out my long-form content on my website, inmysacredspace.com. I also try to make sure that I don’t take myself too seriously. You shouldn’t take me too seriously, either. 💁🏻‍♀️" data-recalc-dims="1">

Let’s talk about this whole “women support wom

Let’s talk about this whole “women support women, not tear each other down” concept that a lot of girl boss cheerleaders like to rah rah about.

Just so we’re clear: some of the most guilty parties of engaging in and upholding patriarchy and misogyny are women themselves.

Not every woman should be celebrated. History is full of women who aided and abetted racists, misogynists, homophobes, etc.

Women are just as capable of engaging in toxic behavior and spreading toxic ideas as men.

We need to be able to have constructive critical conversations among ourselves about what benefits us as a group and what does not.

Don’t confuse manufactured jealousy with with intellectual discourse.

Anyone trying to hide behind “women don’t tear each other down,” especially if and when the ideas they are perpetuating are mired in patriarchy, transphobia, or racism, is just perpetuating existing systems of oppression rather than helping to tear them down.

Many women are still engulfed in patriarchal ideology. Some of them have tried to label it feminism.

Girl Boss feminism is just patriarchy and capitalism in a pantsuit.

<img alt="Let’s talk about this whole “women support women, not tear each other down” concept that a lot of girl boss cheerleaders like to rah rah about. Just so we’re clear: some of the most guilty parties of engaging in and upholding patriarchy and misogyny are women themselves. Not every woman should be celebrated. History is full of women who aided and abetted racists, misogynists, homophobes, etc. Women are just as capable of engaging in toxic behavior and spreading toxic ideas as men. We need to be able to have constructive critical conversations among ourselves about what benefits us as a group and what does not. Don’t confuse manufactured jealousy with with intellectual discourse. Anyone trying to hide behind “women don’t tear each other down,” especially if and when the ideas they are perpetuating are mired in patriarchy, transphobia, or racism, is just perpetuating existing systems of oppression rather than helping to tear them down. Many women are still engulfed in patriarchal ideology. Some of them have tried to label it feminism. Girl Boss feminism is just patriarchy and capitalism in a pantsuit." data-recalc-dims="1" data-src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" class="lazyload" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw=="><noscript><img src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" alt="Let’s talk about this whole “women support women, not tear each other down” concept that a lot of girl boss cheerleaders like to rah rah about. Just so we’re clear: some of the most guilty parties of engaging in and upholding patriarchy and misogyny are women themselves. Not every woman should be celebrated. History is full of women who aided and abetted racists, misogynists, homophobes, etc. Women are just as capable of engaging in toxic behavior and spreading toxic ideas as men. We need to be able to have constructive critical conversations among ourselves about what benefits us as a group and what does not. Don’t confuse manufactured jealousy with with intellectual discourse. Anyone trying to hide behind “women don’t tear each other down,” especially if and when the ideas they are perpetuating are mired in patriarchy, transphobia, or racism, is just perpetuating existing systems of oppression rather than helping to tear them down. Many women are still engulfed in patriarchal ideology. Some of them have tried to label it feminism. Girl Boss feminism is just patriarchy and capitalism in a pantsuit." data-recalc-dims="1">

I’ve never been the type to fish for compliments

I’ve never been the type to fish for compliments. In fact, I’m the type who has always been incredibly uncomfortable with compliments.

I was so deep in the unconscious belief that love was an exchange—that people gave to get—that receiving an unsolicited compliment subconsciously felt like an ask. A request for their own validation. My immediate internal reaction was, “What do you want from me?”

They would make me feel awkward and uncomfortable. I wouldn’t know what to say. I felt like I was obligated to give them something in return, but I didn’t know what to give, so instead, I would dismiss or minimize the compliment.

“Here. Take your energy back. I don’t need it.”

Only very lately in life have I have gotten more comfortable with receiving, but I’m still modest AF in that regard.

I never want to be the person fishing for compliments and ego validation with an Instagram post (as happens so often).

The idea of having hundreds of people placing me on a pedestal is actually terrifying, specifically since I spent most of my childhood being placed on one for the explicit purpose of being knocked off of it, living up to expectations of perfection only to be lambasted for it.

I find more fulfillment in receiving praise that I didn’t fish for. At least then I know it’s genuine and doesn’t come with an unspoken expectation of getting something in return.

It’s 7:45. I should probably get out of bed and make coffee.

— waking thoughts

<img alt="I’ve never been the type to fish for compliments. In fact, I’m the type who has always been incredibly uncomfortable with compliments. I was so deep in the unconscious belief that love was an exchange—that people gave to get—that receiving an unsolicited compliment subconsciously felt like an ask. A request for their own validation. My immediate internal reaction was, “What do you want from me?” They would make me feel awkward and uncomfortable. I wouldn’t know what to say. I felt like I was obligated to give them something in return, but I didn’t know what to give, so instead, I would dismiss or minimize the compliment. “Here. Take your energy back. I don’t need it.” Only very lately in life have I have gotten more comfortable with receiving, but I’m still modest AF in that regard. I never want to be the person fishing for compliments and ego validation with an Instagram post (as happens so often). The idea of having hundreds of people placing me on a pedestal is actually terrifying, specifically since I spent most of my childhood being placed on one for the explicit purpose of being knocked off of it, living up to expectations of perfection only to be lambasted for it. I find more fulfillment in receiving praise that I didn’t fish for. At least then I know it’s genuine and doesn’t come with an unspoken expectation of getting something in return. It’s 7:45. I should probably get out of bed and make coffee. — waking thoughts" data-recalc-dims="1" data-src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" class="lazyload" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw=="><noscript><img src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" alt="I’ve never been the type to fish for compliments. In fact, I’m the type who has always been incredibly uncomfortable with compliments. I was so deep in the unconscious belief that love was an exchange—that people gave to get—that receiving an unsolicited compliment subconsciously felt like an ask. A request for their own validation. My immediate internal reaction was, “What do you want from me?” They would make me feel awkward and uncomfortable. I wouldn’t know what to say. I felt like I was obligated to give them something in return, but I didn’t know what to give, so instead, I would dismiss or minimize the compliment. “Here. Take your energy back. I don’t need it.” Only very lately in life have I have gotten more comfortable with receiving, but I’m still modest AF in that regard. I never want to be the person fishing for compliments and ego validation with an Instagram post (as happens so often). The idea of having hundreds of people placing me on a pedestal is actually terrifying, specifically since I spent most of my childhood being placed on one for the explicit purpose of being knocked off of it, living up to expectations of perfection only to be lambasted for it. I find more fulfillment in receiving praise that I didn’t fish for. At least then I know it’s genuine and doesn’t come with an unspoken expectation of getting something in return. It’s 7:45. I should probably get out of bed and make coffee. — waking thoughts" data-recalc-dims="1">

I reflect out loud a lot, and this is just an exte

I reflect out loud a lot, and this is just an external thought experiment: for those who don’t know, I’m a nondualist. That means, in respect to this post, I recognize that the binary way that we perceive existence (black and white, good and evil, this and that) are not just merely two sides of the same coin, but in many cases are what Neale Donald Walsch termed “divine dichotomies,” where two seemingly opposing things can both be true, simultaneously – or – they cancel one other and neither are true.

Example: either EVERYONE is special, or NO ONE is special. Both are simultaneously true. It’s a matter of perspective. If everyone is, in fact, special, then it means that by definition, no one is. This is a divine dichotomy.

We live in a reality that favors either/or… but what if it’s a yes/and?

I saw an Instagram post a while back that was tackling toxic positivity and shaming of negative emotions that said, “Don’t look on the bright side. Don’t focus on the positive. Don’t see the good in everything. Don’t look at the silver lining.” etc. with the implication of “just be with where you are.” And then I saw another that argued there’s no need to “reframe” failure as an opportunity or learn something from it and instead, we can just be ok with failing.

I thought about it for a bit, and I thought, why not do both?

Why does acknowledging a shadow mean you can’t look at the silver lining? Why does seeing the good in everything mean you have to ignore the negative? Why does acknowledging a person’s awfulness mean that you can’t also acknowledge their inherent humanness? Why does sitting with our own emotions mean we can’t acknowledge those of the person who hurt us? It is, after all, a sign of emotional intelligence to recognize that other people have feelings, too. Even shitty people.

(Continues in comments 👇🏻)

<img alt="I reflect out loud a lot, and this is just an external thought experiment: for those who don’t know, I’m a nondualist. That means, in respect to this post, I recognize that the binary way that we perceive existence (black and white, good and evil, this and that) are not just merely two sides of the same coin, but in many cases are what Neale Donald Walsch termed “divine dichotomies,” where two seemingly opposing things can both be true, simultaneously – or – they cancel one other and neither are true. Example: either EVERYONE is special, or NO ONE is special. Both are simultaneously true. It’s a matter of perspective. If everyone is, in fact, special, then it means that by definition, no one is. This is a divine dichotomy. We live in a reality that favors either/or… but what if it’s a yes/and? I saw an Instagram post a while back that was tackling toxic positivity and shaming of negative emotions that said, “Don’t look on the bright side. Don’t focus on the positive. Don’t see the good in everything. Don’t look at the silver lining.” etc. with the implication of “just be with where you are.” And then I saw another that argued there’s no need to “reframe” failure as an opportunity or learn something from it and instead, we can just be ok with failing. I thought about it for a bit, and I thought, why not do both? Why does acknowledging a shadow mean you can’t look at the silver lining? Why does seeing the good in everything mean you have to ignore the negative? Why does acknowledging a person’s awfulness mean that you can’t also acknowledge their inherent humanness? Why does sitting with our own emotions mean we can’t acknowledge those of the person who hurt us? It is, after all, a sign of emotional intelligence to recognize that other people have feelings, too. Even shitty people. (Continues in comments 👇🏻)" data-recalc-dims="1" data-src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" class="lazyload" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw=="><noscript><img src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" alt="I reflect out loud a lot, and this is just an external thought experiment: for those who don’t know, I’m a nondualist. That means, in respect to this post, I recognize that the binary way that we perceive existence (black and white, good and evil, this and that) are not just merely two sides of the same coin, but in many cases are what Neale Donald Walsch termed “divine dichotomies,” where two seemingly opposing things can both be true, simultaneously – or – they cancel one other and neither are true. Example: either EVERYONE is special, or NO ONE is special. Both are simultaneously true. It’s a matter of perspective. If everyone is, in fact, special, then it means that by definition, no one is. This is a divine dichotomy. We live in a reality that favors either/or… but what if it’s a yes/and? I saw an Instagram post a while back that was tackling toxic positivity and shaming of negative emotions that said, “Don’t look on the bright side. Don’t focus on the positive. Don’t see the good in everything. Don’t look at the silver lining.” etc. with the implication of “just be with where you are.” And then I saw another that argued there’s no need to “reframe” failure as an opportunity or learn something from it and instead, we can just be ok with failing. I thought about it for a bit, and I thought, why not do both? Why does acknowledging a shadow mean you can’t look at the silver lining? Why does seeing the good in everything mean you have to ignore the negative? Why does acknowledging a person’s awfulness mean that you can’t also acknowledge their inherent humanness? Why does sitting with our own emotions mean we can’t acknowledge those of the person who hurt us? It is, after all, a sign of emotional intelligence to recognize that other people have feelings, too. Even shitty people. (Continues in comments 👇🏻)" data-recalc-dims="1">

There are certain species of pyrophytic wildflower

There are certain species of pyrophytic wildflowers whose seeds are only capable of germination after being exposed to extreme heat. They literally require the destructive force of a forest fire to crack open and begin to grow.

From the ash of everything that has burned down around them, they are catalyzed, transformed, and set on a path to blossom.

You’re going to burn through many versions of yourself on this journey.

The growth is in the forgiving.

— Notes to Self

#healing #spirituality #personaldevelopment #writingtoheal #personalgrowth #instadaily #motivation #words #honestlyworded #thoughtoftheday #lifequotes #soul #wordsthatheal #instagood #lifeadvice #spilledink #wordsofwisdom #highervibes #writer #healer #lightworker #awakening #quoteoftheday #lifequotes #reflectingoutloud

<img alt="There are certain species of pyrophytic wildflowers whose seeds are only capable of germination after being exposed to extreme heat. They literally require the destructive force of a forest fire to crack open and begin to grow. From the ash of everything that has burned down around them, they are catalyzed, transformed, and set on a path to blossom. You’re going to burn through many versions of yourself on this journey. The growth is in the forgiving. — Notes to Self #healing #spirituality #personaldevelopment #writingtoheal #personalgrowth #instadaily #motivation #words #honestlyworded #thoughtoftheday #lifequotes #soul #wordsthatheal #instagood #lifeadvice #spilledink #wordsofwisdom #highervibes #writer #healer #lightworker #awakening #quoteoftheday #lifequotes #reflectingoutloud" data-recalc-dims="1" data-src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" class="lazyload" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw=="><noscript><img src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" alt="There are certain species of pyrophytic wildflowers whose seeds are only capable of germination after being exposed to extreme heat. They literally require the destructive force of a forest fire to crack open and begin to grow. From the ash of everything that has burned down around them, they are catalyzed, transformed, and set on a path to blossom. You’re going to burn through many versions of yourself on this journey. The growth is in the forgiving. — Notes to Self #healing #spirituality #personaldevelopment #writingtoheal #personalgrowth #instadaily #motivation #words #honestlyworded #thoughtoftheday #lifequotes #soul #wordsthatheal #instagood #lifeadvice #spilledink #wordsofwisdom #highervibes #writer #healer #lightworker #awakening #quoteoftheday #lifequotes #reflectingoutloud" data-recalc-dims="1">

Self care is whatever you make of it. You can tota

Self care is whatever you make of it. You can totally smoke weed and dance your ass off to Slow Ride and Free Bird back-to-back in your kitchen (but fair warning, it’s a workout).

Don’t take yourselves too seriously, folks. It’s all ephemeral (😉).

Find me @ashrising

#selfcare #selfcarethreads #selfcaresunday #ephimeral #imhigh #shitmyspiritguidesays #lightworkersofinstagram #spiritualmeme #spirituality #spiritual #spiritualgrowth #spiritualjourney #wellness #wellnessjourney

<img alt="Self care is whatever you make of it. You can totally smoke weed and dance your ass off to Slow Ride and Free Bird back-to-back in your kitchen (but fair warning, it’s a workout). Don’t take yourselves too seriously, folks. It’s all ephemeral (😉). Find me @ashrising #selfcare #selfcarethreads #selfcaresunday #ephimeral #imhigh #shitmyspiritguidesays #lightworkersofinstagram #spiritualmeme #spirituality #spiritual #spiritualgrowth #spiritualjourney #wellness #wellnessjourney" data-recalc-dims="1" data-src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" class="lazyload" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw=="><noscript><img src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" alt="Self care is whatever you make of it. You can totally smoke weed and dance your ass off to Slow Ride and Free Bird back-to-back in your kitchen (but fair warning, it’s a workout). Don’t take yourselves too seriously, folks. It’s all ephemeral (😉). Find me @ashrising #selfcare #selfcarethreads #selfcaresunday #ephimeral #imhigh #shitmyspiritguidesays #lightworkersofinstagram #spiritualmeme #spirituality #spiritual #spiritualgrowth #spiritualjourney #wellness #wellnessjourney" data-recalc-dims="1">

I’ve been seeing this one pop up recently and th

I’ve been seeing this one pop up recently and thought it necessary to tackle the nuances in a blog post.

#Victimconsciousness does exist, but it’s often applied to the wrong people as a means of undermining their experiences.

The real #victimmentalities are actually self-preservation mechanisms present in narcissistic abusers, and it’s one of the things that causes a victim of abuse to shift into being a perpetrator of abuse.

Learn about the difference between victim-shaming and REAL victim mentalities over on my blog, and how to evaluate whether or not you have one:

inmysacredspace.com/victim-consciousness

#narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissistsurvivor #victimmentality #narcissistrecovery #covertnarcissism #narcissisticabuseawareness #gaslighting #codependencyrecovery #codependent #codependentnomore #traumainformed
#spirituality #spiritualawakening #spiritualjourney #spiritualgrowth #spiritual #personalgrowth #lightworkersofinstagram #lightworkersofinstagram #lightworker #spiritualnarcissism #spiritualabuse #traumainformedspirituality

<img alt="I’ve been seeing this one pop up recently and thought it necessary to tackle the nuances in a blog post. #Victimconsciousness does exist, but it’s often applied to the wrong people as a means of undermining their experiences. The real #victimmentalities are actually self-preservation mechanisms present in narcissistic abusers, and it’s one of the things that causes a victim of abuse to shift into being a perpetrator of abuse. Learn about the difference between victim-shaming and REAL victim mentalities over on my blog, and how to evaluate whether or not you have one: inmysacredspace.com/victim-consciousness #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissistsurvivor #victimmentality #narcissistrecovery #covertnarcissism #narcissisticabuseawareness #gaslighting #codependencyrecovery #codependent #codependentnomore #traumainformed #spirituality #spiritualawakening #spiritualjourney #spiritualgrowth #spiritual #personalgrowth #lightworkersofinstagram #lightworkersofinstagram #lightworker #spiritualnarcissism #spiritualabuse #traumainformedspirituality" data-recalc-dims="1" data-src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" class="lazyload" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw=="><noscript><img src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" alt="I’ve been seeing this one pop up recently and thought it necessary to tackle the nuances in a blog post. #Victimconsciousness does exist, but it’s often applied to the wrong people as a means of undermining their experiences. The real #victimmentalities are actually self-preservation mechanisms present in narcissistic abusers, and it’s one of the things that causes a victim of abuse to shift into being a perpetrator of abuse. Learn about the difference between victim-shaming and REAL victim mentalities over on my blog, and how to evaluate whether or not you have one: inmysacredspace.com/victim-consciousness #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissistsurvivor #victimmentality #narcissistrecovery #covertnarcissism #narcissisticabuseawareness #gaslighting #codependencyrecovery #codependent #codependentnomore #traumainformed #spirituality #spiritualawakening #spiritualjourney #spiritualgrowth #spiritual #personalgrowth #lightworkersofinstagram #lightworkersofinstagram #lightworker #spiritualnarcissism #spiritualabuse #traumainformedspirituality" data-recalc-dims="1">

Heeeeey so I got a whole bunch of new followers ov

Heeeeey so I got a whole bunch of new followers over the last three months and I see people do these “please allow me to re-introduce myself” posts when that happens and I’ve never done one and tbh I feel like a complete tool doing one now but whateversss.... embrace your majestic social awkwardness, I guess? 😂

My name is Ashley. You can call me Ash (yes, precisely like Ash from Army of Darkness. Hail to the king, baby) and I’m not here to sell you anything at all. No seriously. I have zero services for sale at the moment. I’m still figuring out what to do and how to do that in a way that’s in integrity with my personal values.

What I DO do here is talk a lot about my own personal experiences with abuse and trauma as well as the personal insights I’ve gleaned from them, as well as pose hard questions about the world we live in.

The biggest issue that I write about? Oh, its a lot of things really but it falls into a few buckets/themes. The intersection between narcissism, individualism, and western spirituality and all things that this umbrella encompasses, mostly, and how that's entirely connected to the fact that we live in a culture of normalized abuse and unhealed trauma. And I relate a lot of that back to spirituality, but not the fluffy sort of love and light spirituality that a lot of people are pedaling these days—more so the really dark, uncomfortable parts of spirituality—which includes a critique of mainstream spirituality itself.

I advocate for self-awareness and socially responsible, trauma-informed, science-based spirituality rooted in integrity and authenticity.

You can check out my long-form content on my website, inmysacredspace.com.

I also try to make sure that I don’t take myself too seriously. You shouldn’t take me too seriously, either. 💁🏻‍♀️

<img alt="Heeeeey so I got a whole bunch of new followers over the last three months and I see people do these “please allow me to re-introduce myself” posts when that happens and I’ve never done one and tbh I feel like a complete tool doing one now but whateversss.... embrace your majestic social awkwardness, I guess? 😂 My name is Ashley. You can call me Ash (yes, precisely like Ash from Army of Darkness. Hail to the king, baby) and I’m not here to sell you anything at all. No seriously. I have zero services for sale at the moment. I’m still figuring out what to do and how to do that in a way that’s in integrity with my personal values. What I DO do here is talk a lot about my own personal experiences with abuse and trauma as well as the personal insights I’ve gleaned from them, as well as pose hard questions about the world we live in. The biggest issue that I write about? Oh, its a lot of things really but it falls into a few buckets/themes. The intersection between narcissism, individualism, and western spirituality and all things that this umbrella encompasses, mostly, and how that's entirely connected to the fact that we live in a culture of normalized abuse and unhealed trauma. And I relate a lot of that back to spirituality, but not the fluffy sort of love and light spirituality that a lot of people are pedaling these days—more so the really dark, uncomfortable parts of spirituality—which includes a critique of mainstream spirituality itself. I advocate for self-awareness and socially responsible, trauma-informed, science-based spirituality rooted in integrity and authenticity. You can check out my long-form content on my website, inmysacredspace.com. I also try to make sure that I don’t take myself too seriously. You shouldn’t take me too seriously, either. 💁🏻‍♀️" data-recalc-dims="1" data-src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" class="lazyload" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw=="><noscript><img src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" alt="Heeeeey so I got a whole bunch of new followers over the last three months and I see people do these “please allow me to re-introduce myself” posts when that happens and I’ve never done one and tbh I feel like a complete tool doing one now but whateversss.... embrace your majestic social awkwardness, I guess? 😂 My name is Ashley. You can call me Ash (yes, precisely like Ash from Army of Darkness. Hail to the king, baby) and I’m not here to sell you anything at all. No seriously. I have zero services for sale at the moment. I’m still figuring out what to do and how to do that in a way that’s in integrity with my personal values. What I DO do here is talk a lot about my own personal experiences with abuse and trauma as well as the personal insights I’ve gleaned from them, as well as pose hard questions about the world we live in. The biggest issue that I write about? Oh, its a lot of things really but it falls into a few buckets/themes. The intersection between narcissism, individualism, and western spirituality and all things that this umbrella encompasses, mostly, and how that's entirely connected to the fact that we live in a culture of normalized abuse and unhealed trauma. And I relate a lot of that back to spirituality, but not the fluffy sort of love and light spirituality that a lot of people are pedaling these days—more so the really dark, uncomfortable parts of spirituality—which includes a critique of mainstream spirituality itself. I advocate for self-awareness and socially responsible, trauma-informed, science-based spirituality rooted in integrity and authenticity. You can check out my long-form content on my website, inmysacredspace.com. I also try to make sure that I don’t take myself too seriously. You shouldn’t take me too seriously, either. 💁🏻‍♀️" data-recalc-dims="1">

Let’s talk about this whole “women support wom

Let’s talk about this whole “women support women, not tear each other down” concept that a lot of girl boss cheerleaders like to rah rah about.

Just so we’re clear: some of the most guilty parties of engaging in and upholding patriarchy and misogyny are women themselves.

Not every woman should be celebrated. History is full of women who aided and abetted racists, misogynists, homophobes, etc.

Women are just as capable of engaging in toxic behavior and spreading toxic ideas as men.

We need to be able to have constructive critical conversations among ourselves about what benefits us as a group and what does not.

Don’t confuse manufactured jealousy with with intellectual discourse.

Anyone trying to hide behind “women don’t tear each other down,” especially if and when the ideas they are perpetuating are mired in patriarchy, transphobia, or racism, is just perpetuating existing systems of oppression rather than helping to tear them down.

Many women are still engulfed in patriarchal ideology. Some of them have tried to label it feminism.

Girl Boss feminism is just patriarchy and capitalism in a pantsuit.

<img alt="Let’s talk about this whole “women support women, not tear each other down” concept that a lot of girl boss cheerleaders like to rah rah about. Just so we’re clear: some of the most guilty parties of engaging in and upholding patriarchy and misogyny are women themselves. Not every woman should be celebrated. History is full of women who aided and abetted racists, misogynists, homophobes, etc. Women are just as capable of engaging in toxic behavior and spreading toxic ideas as men. We need to be able to have constructive critical conversations among ourselves about what benefits us as a group and what does not. Don’t confuse manufactured jealousy with with intellectual discourse. Anyone trying to hide behind “women don’t tear each other down,” especially if and when the ideas they are perpetuating are mired in patriarchy, transphobia, or racism, is just perpetuating existing systems of oppression rather than helping to tear them down. Many women are still engulfed in patriarchal ideology. Some of them have tried to label it feminism. Girl Boss feminism is just patriarchy and capitalism in a pantsuit." data-recalc-dims="1" data-src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" class="lazyload" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw=="><noscript><img src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" alt="Let’s talk about this whole “women support women, not tear each other down” concept that a lot of girl boss cheerleaders like to rah rah about. Just so we’re clear: some of the most guilty parties of engaging in and upholding patriarchy and misogyny are women themselves. Not every woman should be celebrated. History is full of women who aided and abetted racists, misogynists, homophobes, etc. Women are just as capable of engaging in toxic behavior and spreading toxic ideas as men. We need to be able to have constructive critical conversations among ourselves about what benefits us as a group and what does not. Don’t confuse manufactured jealousy with with intellectual discourse. Anyone trying to hide behind “women don’t tear each other down,” especially if and when the ideas they are perpetuating are mired in patriarchy, transphobia, or racism, is just perpetuating existing systems of oppression rather than helping to tear them down. Many women are still engulfed in patriarchal ideology. Some of them have tried to label it feminism. Girl Boss feminism is just patriarchy and capitalism in a pantsuit." data-recalc-dims="1">

I’ve never been the type to fish for compliments

I’ve never been the type to fish for compliments. In fact, I’m the type who has always been incredibly uncomfortable with compliments.

I was so deep in the unconscious belief that love was an exchange—that people gave to get—that receiving an unsolicited compliment subconsciously felt like an ask. A request for their own validation. My immediate internal reaction was, “What do you want from me?”

They would make me feel awkward and uncomfortable. I wouldn’t know what to say. I felt like I was obligated to give them something in return, but I didn’t know what to give, so instead, I would dismiss or minimize the compliment.

“Here. Take your energy back. I don’t need it.”

Only very lately in life have I have gotten more comfortable with receiving, but I’m still modest AF in that regard.

I never want to be the person fishing for compliments and ego validation with an Instagram post (as happens so often).

The idea of having hundreds of people placing me on a pedestal is actually terrifying, specifically since I spent most of my childhood being placed on one for the explicit purpose of being knocked off of it, living up to expectations of perfection only to be lambasted for it.

I find more fulfillment in receiving praise that I didn’t fish for. At least then I know it’s genuine and doesn’t come with an unspoken expectation of getting something in return.

It’s 7:45. I should probably get out of bed and make coffee.

— waking thoughts

<img alt="I’ve never been the type to fish for compliments. In fact, I’m the type who has always been incredibly uncomfortable with compliments. I was so deep in the unconscious belief that love was an exchange—that people gave to get—that receiving an unsolicited compliment subconsciously felt like an ask. A request for their own validation. My immediate internal reaction was, “What do you want from me?” They would make me feel awkward and uncomfortable. I wouldn’t know what to say. I felt like I was obligated to give them something in return, but I didn’t know what to give, so instead, I would dismiss or minimize the compliment. “Here. Take your energy back. I don’t need it.” Only very lately in life have I have gotten more comfortable with receiving, but I’m still modest AF in that regard. I never want to be the person fishing for compliments and ego validation with an Instagram post (as happens so often). The idea of having hundreds of people placing me on a pedestal is actually terrifying, specifically since I spent most of my childhood being placed on one for the explicit purpose of being knocked off of it, living up to expectations of perfection only to be lambasted for it. I find more fulfillment in receiving praise that I didn’t fish for. At least then I know it’s genuine and doesn’t come with an unspoken expectation of getting something in return. It’s 7:45. I should probably get out of bed and make coffee. — waking thoughts" data-recalc-dims="1" data-src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" class="lazyload" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw=="><noscript><img src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" alt="I’ve never been the type to fish for compliments. In fact, I’m the type who has always been incredibly uncomfortable with compliments. I was so deep in the unconscious belief that love was an exchange—that people gave to get—that receiving an unsolicited compliment subconsciously felt like an ask. A request for their own validation. My immediate internal reaction was, “What do you want from me?” They would make me feel awkward and uncomfortable. I wouldn’t know what to say. I felt like I was obligated to give them something in return, but I didn’t know what to give, so instead, I would dismiss or minimize the compliment. “Here. Take your energy back. I don’t need it.” Only very lately in life have I have gotten more comfortable with receiving, but I’m still modest AF in that regard. I never want to be the person fishing for compliments and ego validation with an Instagram post (as happens so often). The idea of having hundreds of people placing me on a pedestal is actually terrifying, specifically since I spent most of my childhood being placed on one for the explicit purpose of being knocked off of it, living up to expectations of perfection only to be lambasted for it. I find more fulfillment in receiving praise that I didn’t fish for. At least then I know it’s genuine and doesn’t come with an unspoken expectation of getting something in return. It’s 7:45. I should probably get out of bed and make coffee. — waking thoughts" data-recalc-dims="1">

I reflect out loud a lot, and this is just an exte

I reflect out loud a lot, and this is just an external thought experiment: for those who don’t know, I’m a nondualist. That means, in respect to this post, I recognize that the binary way that we perceive existence (black and white, good and evil, this and that) are not just merely two sides of the same coin, but in many cases are what Neale Donald Walsch termed “divine dichotomies,” where two seemingly opposing things can both be true, simultaneously – or – they cancel one other and neither are true.

Example: either EVERYONE is special, or NO ONE is special. Both are simultaneously true. It’s a matter of perspective. If everyone is, in fact, special, then it means that by definition, no one is. This is a divine dichotomy.

We live in a reality that favors either/or… but what if it’s a yes/and?

I saw an Instagram post a while back that was tackling toxic positivity and shaming of negative emotions that said, “Don’t look on the bright side. Don’t focus on the positive. Don’t see the good in everything. Don’t look at the silver lining.” etc. with the implication of “just be with where you are.” And then I saw another that argued there’s no need to “reframe” failure as an opportunity or learn something from it and instead, we can just be ok with failing.

I thought about it for a bit, and I thought, why not do both?

Why does acknowledging a shadow mean you can’t look at the silver lining? Why does seeing the good in everything mean you have to ignore the negative? Why does acknowledging a person’s awfulness mean that you can’t also acknowledge their inherent humanness? Why does sitting with our own emotions mean we can’t acknowledge those of the person who hurt us? It is, after all, a sign of emotional intelligence to recognize that other people have feelings, too. Even shitty people.

(Continues in comments 👇🏻)

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