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Conversations With God Trilogy

Conversations With God

by Neale Donald Walsch

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The Power of Now

The Power of Now

By Eckhart Tolle

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Journey of Souls

By Michael Newton

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Glynnis Has your Number

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by Glynnis McCants

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The Electric Jesus

by Jonathan Talat Phillips

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Destiny of Souls

by Michael Newton

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by Naomi Ozaniek

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Many Lives, Many Masters

By Brian Weiss

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Fuck It: The Ultimate Spiritual Way

by John C. Parkin

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The Custodians

by Dolores Cannon

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Some people pride themselves on getting out of the

Some people pride themselves on getting out of their comfort zones, and certainly, if you do what you always did, get you'll get what you've always gotten. But like anything, this all depends on context.

If you're talking about doing something you've never done before, like move across the country, and that scares you, that's an opportunity you might miss because of your comfort zone. It might be worth the risk.

If you're talking about doing something you've never done before that might actually violate your personal values, and expose you to harmful relationship dynamics, that's a whole other ballgame. That's risky behavior because you don't recognize risk when you see it.

Sometimes our comfort zones exist because we've been severely traumatized, and pushing ourselves out of them too fast, too soon is just like the trauma that created them in the first place. This is harmful.

Sometimes, because of abuse, we don't actually fully understand what our comfort level is. We ignore our discomfort because that's what our abusers taught us to do, and when we come up against some similar, subtle, but potentially harmful experiences, we stick around too long, not realizing what's happening until it's too late.

Those with people-pleasing or codependent tendencies are not great at recognizing risk or when their boundaries are being violated, and a lot of folks think that pushing through this is somehow conquering their fear in the name of spirituality. If you're a recovering people pleaser, or have a history of trauma and abuse, I urge you to ignore the comfort zone messaging on Instagram when it comes to really personal things like relationships, sex, and things which are directly tied to your physical and emotional well-being.

Honor your process and allow everyone to feel. Le

Honor your process and allow everyone to feel.

Learn more about bypassing and gaslighting: https://inmysacredspace.com/project/spiritual-bypassing/

#spiritualbypassing #spiritualgaslighting #spirituality #wellness #wellnessthatworks #wellnessjourney #spiritualawakening #spiritualgrowth

There are certain species of pyrophytic wildflower

There are certain species of pyrophytic wildflowers whose seeds are only capable of germination after being exposed to extreme heat. They literally require the destructive force of a forest fire to crack open and begin to grow.

From the ash of everything that has burned down around them, they are catalyzed, transformed, and set on a path to blossom.

You’re going to burn through many versions of yourself on this journey.

The growth is in the forgiving.

— Notes to Self

#healing #spirituality #personaldevelopment #writingtoheal #personalgrowth #instadaily #motivation #words #honestlyworded #thoughtoftheday #lifequotes #soul #wordsthatheal #instagood #lifeadvice #spilledink #wordsofwisdom #highervibes #writer #healer #lightworker #awakening #quoteoftheday #lifequotes #reflectingoutloud

I once had a conversation with a man who told me t

I once had a conversation with a man who told me that legacy was very important to him. But what he really meant by legacy wasn’t to be remembered for his impact on the world, it was simply that he be remembered.

That’s not a legacy, that’s just fame, and it’s hollow.

In contrast, I couldn’t give three flying fucks if anyone remembers my name when I’m dead (I’d honestly prefer not to be known even while I’m alive).

I care about the change I initiate while I’m here and it’s exponential growth after I’m gone. I’d be content to be like one of those people who contributes a household item we use every single day that’s completely changed how we live, but nobody knows who the fuck came up with it. Like the guy who invented the wheel—the innovators that history forgot.

I don’t want to create inventions, of course. I just want to help people heal in some small way, and make the world generally more aware of itself. Nobody needs to know who did it, just that it needed to be done—and it was.

That’s true purpose. It doesn’t ask for the spotlight. Just the result.

You don't have to stop loving the narcissist. Ther

You don't have to stop loving the narcissist. There's nothing wrong with loving someone! Love isn’t something you can turn off and on light a switch, and anyone telling you that you can—or that you need to—does not have a healthy understanding of the complexity of human emotion and behavior.

Your ability to love someone that damaged makes you a goddamn earth angel, not a broken human being. Your empathy is your superpower. Don’t ever let anyone try to take that away from you.

>>>>But you have to bring that same level of compassion to YOURSELF (and once you do, you won’t tolerate this treatment any longer).<<<<

What you need to do is DETACH from this person. The source of your pain is not your love, it’s unhealthy attachment and seeking validation from someone who is incapable of giving it to you in a healthy way.

A narcissist doesn't understand healthy attachment behavior, and neither does a codependent. Just because someone’s behavior isn't healthy doesn't mean their emotions aren't real. It's just buried in projected toxic shame and self-destructive coping mechanisms in both parties.

You have to realize that your worthiness is not reflected in a traumatized person's ability (or lack thereof) to treat you with kindness. They behave from their trauma.

1) Shift your perspective of your abuser. They are not an emotionally mature adult who can offer you a healthy relationship—they have the emotional maturity of a wounded child/teenager, and that’s not someone anyone would want to be in a relationship with.

2 ) Recognize that a wounded child/teenager does not know how to be in a healthy relationship (and you might not, either). Your own shame may come from believing they don't love you or that you're not worthy of being loved, or that if this person truly loved you, they would change. But the problem isn't you, or the love. The problem is that they have a severely wounded inner-child, they don't even know where to begin healing, and they may never know. Sometimes their pain is too great for them to repair, but yours does not have to be. You have to know when to let go.

(Continued 👇🏻)

Every money-thirsty business coach on Instagram ha

Every money-thirsty business coach on Instagram has attempted to exploit fear of failure in potential clients and capitalize on triggering insecurities by writing posts about how you just need to overcome your imposter syndrome.

But we don't need to pour any more energy into the myth that there's a bunch of budding wunderkinds out there who are just too humble to step into their true power. The real deals? Those people know who they are and they don't give a rat’s ass about sales. They care about their mission, not money.

What we actually need to do is start holding the assholes who have prematurely declared themselves experts accountable for the smoke and mirrors tactics they've used to create the illusion of business success–like buying 200,000 fake social media followers, for instance–solely so that they can fake it until they make it.

The Dunning-Kruger effect is the tendency for novices to overestimate their mastery of a subject. This overestimation leads people who have absolutely no moral compass declaring themselves bastions of woke business leadership. But at the end of the day, they’re all just cheap imitations of the real thing, and as a result, they harm people while claiming to help them.

The true hallmark of a conscious leader is Integrity. That's the healed, balanced masculine archetype at work. Without integrity, you have no backbone.

If you REALLY want to be successful, then tell your business coach to fuck off and get to work understanding your real motivation for why you do what you do. If you're truly a mission driven, conscious entrepreneur, SALES WON'T MATTER TO YOU. Impact will.

Capitalism is so old paradigm.

Real conscious leadership looks like:

Mission > $$$
Purpose > Profit
Impact > Sales
Integrity > Marketing
Community > Self

Conscious entrepreneurs don’t measure success in dollar signs and social media metrics. They measure it by how much they are able to change the world, or at least one person’s experience of it—for the better. If you’re not there, you’re not ready.

There’s no call to action here, other than do better and be better. I don’t have shit to sell you. Just good advice. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Time to talk about another coaching industry ethic

Time to talk about another coaching industry ethics issue—and a life lesson that could generally apply to everybody, tbh.

I know a lot of marketing coaches will tell you to always attempt to position yourself as an expert and to only present your best, most professional self, and a lot of wellness gurus want to use their personal lives as examples to their social media followers (and business coaches will also tell you that is the kind of “authenticity” the audience wants), but this combo is problematic.

Let’s say you’re in the midst of a personal life lesson that you are clearly still learning, but instead of relating that to your audience in the first person and being transparent about where you actually are, you write the post as a directive about how to deal with the situation detached from your personal experience, or on the flip side, use yourself as the example of how to conquer said thing.

For example, the body positivity influencer who tells people, "You don't have to compare your body to other people's bodies. You can love your body, cellulite and all!" when they’re actually still attempting to convince themselves of the same thing. They never talk about how they still struggle with it, only about how they “used to.”

It's never, "Hey everybody, I learned something new about myself today." It's always projected to the client from a voice of (false) authority.

In reality, these are things most of us will ALWAYS struggle with.

This a major ethical issue particularly for a coach or a spiritual practitioner because it gives a false impression of having conquered your demons when in fact, you're still facing them, which creates a false sense of authority, and misguided expectations from clients. You’ve put yourself on a pedestal.

An authentic coach/pracitioner will teach you through their struggles in real-time. They'll be emotionally transparent, and never pretend to have "arrived." They know that healing and personal development is an ongoing process, not a destination, and they're going to remind you that they're still down in the trenches with you, not sitting above you by positioning themselves as a guru.

Some people pride themselves on getting out of the

Some people pride themselves on getting out of their comfort zones, and certainly, if you do what you always did, get you'll get what you've always gotten. But like anything, this all depends on context.

If you're talking about doing something you've never done before, like move across the country, and that scares you, that's an opportunity you might miss because of your comfort zone. It might be worth the risk.

If you're talking about doing something you've never done before that might actually violate your personal values, and expose you to harmful relationship dynamics, that's a whole other ballgame. That's risky behavior because you don't recognize risk when you see it.

Sometimes our comfort zones exist because we've been severely traumatized, and pushing ourselves out of them too fast, too soon is just like the trauma that created them in the first place. This is harmful.

Sometimes, because of abuse, we don't actually fully understand what our comfort level is. We ignore our discomfort because that's what our abusers taught us to do, and when we come up against some similar, subtle, but potentially harmful experiences, we stick around too long, not realizing what's happening until it's too late.

Those with people-pleasing or codependent tendencies are not great at recognizing risk or when their boundaries are being violated, and a lot of folks think that pushing through this is somehow conquering their fear in the name of spirituality. If you're a recovering people pleaser, or have a history of trauma and abuse, I urge you to ignore the comfort zone messaging on Instagram when it comes to really personal things like relationships, sex, and things which are directly tied to your physical and emotional well-being.

Honor your process and allow everyone to feel. Le

Honor your process and allow everyone to feel.

Learn more about bypassing and gaslighting: https://inmysacredspace.com/project/spiritual-bypassing/

#spiritualbypassing #spiritualgaslighting #spirituality #wellness #wellnessthatworks #wellnessjourney #spiritualawakening #spiritualgrowth

There are certain species of pyrophytic wildflower

There are certain species of pyrophytic wildflowers whose seeds are only capable of germination after being exposed to extreme heat. They literally require the destructive force of a forest fire to crack open and begin to grow.

From the ash of everything that has burned down around them, they are catalyzed, transformed, and set on a path to blossom.

You’re going to burn through many versions of yourself on this journey.

The growth is in the forgiving.

— Notes to Self

#healing #spirituality #personaldevelopment #writingtoheal #personalgrowth #instadaily #motivation #words #honestlyworded #thoughtoftheday #lifequotes #soul #wordsthatheal #instagood #lifeadvice #spilledink #wordsofwisdom #highervibes #writer #healer #lightworker #awakening #quoteoftheday #lifequotes #reflectingoutloud

I once had a conversation with a man who told me t

I once had a conversation with a man who told me that legacy was very important to him. But what he really meant by legacy wasn’t to be remembered for his impact on the world, it was simply that he be remembered.

That’s not a legacy, that’s just fame, and it’s hollow.

In contrast, I couldn’t give three flying fucks if anyone remembers my name when I’m dead (I’d honestly prefer not to be known even while I’m alive).

I care about the change I initiate while I’m here and it’s exponential growth after I’m gone. I’d be content to be like one of those people who contributes a household item we use every single day that’s completely changed how we live, but nobody knows who the fuck came up with it. Like the guy who invented the wheel—the innovators that history forgot.

I don’t want to create inventions, of course. I just want to help people heal in some small way, and make the world generally more aware of itself. Nobody needs to know who did it, just that it needed to be done—and it was.

That’s true purpose. It doesn’t ask for the spotlight. Just the result.

You don't have to stop loving the narcissist. Ther

You don't have to stop loving the narcissist. There's nothing wrong with loving someone! Love isn’t something you can turn off and on light a switch, and anyone telling you that you can—or that you need to—does not have a healthy understanding of the complexity of human emotion and behavior.

Your ability to love someone that damaged makes you a goddamn earth angel, not a broken human being. Your empathy is your superpower. Don’t ever let anyone try to take that away from you.

>>>>But you have to bring that same level of compassion to YOURSELF (and once you do, you won’t tolerate this treatment any longer).<<<<

What you need to do is DETACH from this person. The source of your pain is not your love, it’s unhealthy attachment and seeking validation from someone who is incapable of giving it to you in a healthy way.

A narcissist doesn't understand healthy attachment behavior, and neither does a codependent. Just because someone’s behavior isn't healthy doesn't mean their emotions aren't real. It's just buried in projected toxic shame and self-destructive coping mechanisms in both parties.

You have to realize that your worthiness is not reflected in a traumatized person's ability (or lack thereof) to treat you with kindness. They behave from their trauma.

1) Shift your perspective of your abuser. They are not an emotionally mature adult who can offer you a healthy relationship—they have the emotional maturity of a wounded child/teenager, and that’s not someone anyone would want to be in a relationship with.

2 ) Recognize that a wounded child/teenager does not know how to be in a healthy relationship (and you might not, either). Your own shame may come from believing they don't love you or that you're not worthy of being loved, or that if this person truly loved you, they would change. But the problem isn't you, or the love. The problem is that they have a severely wounded inner-child, they don't even know where to begin healing, and they may never know. Sometimes their pain is too great for them to repair, but yours does not have to be. You have to know when to let go.

(Continued 👇🏻)

Every money-thirsty business coach on Instagram ha

Every money-thirsty business coach on Instagram has attempted to exploit fear of failure in potential clients and capitalize on triggering insecurities by writing posts about how you just need to overcome your imposter syndrome.

But we don't need to pour any more energy into the myth that there's a bunch of budding wunderkinds out there who are just too humble to step into their true power. The real deals? Those people know who they are and they don't give a rat’s ass about sales. They care about their mission, not money.

What we actually need to do is start holding the assholes who have prematurely declared themselves experts accountable for the smoke and mirrors tactics they've used to create the illusion of business success–like buying 200,000 fake social media followers, for instance–solely so that they can fake it until they make it.

The Dunning-Kruger effect is the tendency for novices to overestimate their mastery of a subject. This overestimation leads people who have absolutely no moral compass declaring themselves bastions of woke business leadership. But at the end of the day, they’re all just cheap imitations of the real thing, and as a result, they harm people while claiming to help them.

The true hallmark of a conscious leader is Integrity. That's the healed, balanced masculine archetype at work. Without integrity, you have no backbone.

If you REALLY want to be successful, then tell your business coach to fuck off and get to work understanding your real motivation for why you do what you do. If you're truly a mission driven, conscious entrepreneur, SALES WON'T MATTER TO YOU. Impact will.

Capitalism is so old paradigm.

Real conscious leadership looks like:

Mission > $$$
Purpose > Profit
Impact > Sales
Integrity > Marketing
Community > Self

Conscious entrepreneurs don’t measure success in dollar signs and social media metrics. They measure it by how much they are able to change the world, or at least one person’s experience of it—for the better. If you’re not there, you’re not ready.

There’s no call to action here, other than do better and be better. I don’t have shit to sell you. Just good advice. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Time to talk about another coaching industry ethic

Time to talk about another coaching industry ethics issue—and a life lesson that could generally apply to everybody, tbh.

I know a lot of marketing coaches will tell you to always attempt to position yourself as an expert and to only present your best, most professional self, and a lot of wellness gurus want to use their personal lives as examples to their social media followers (and business coaches will also tell you that is the kind of “authenticity” the audience wants), but this combo is problematic.

Let’s say you’re in the midst of a personal life lesson that you are clearly still learning, but instead of relating that to your audience in the first person and being transparent about where you actually are, you write the post as a directive about how to deal with the situation detached from your personal experience, or on the flip side, use yourself as the example of how to conquer said thing.

For example, the body positivity influencer who tells people, "You don't have to compare your body to other people's bodies. You can love your body, cellulite and all!" when they’re actually still attempting to convince themselves of the same thing. They never talk about how they still struggle with it, only about how they “used to.”

It's never, "Hey everybody, I learned something new about myself today." It's always projected to the client from a voice of (false) authority.

In reality, these are things most of us will ALWAYS struggle with.

This a major ethical issue particularly for a coach or a spiritual practitioner because it gives a false impression of having conquered your demons when in fact, you're still facing them, which creates a false sense of authority, and misguided expectations from clients. You’ve put yourself on a pedestal.

An authentic coach/pracitioner will teach you through their struggles in real-time. They'll be emotionally transparent, and never pretend to have "arrived." They know that healing and personal development is an ongoing process, not a destination, and they're going to remind you that they're still down in the trenches with you, not sitting above you by positioning themselves as a guru.

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