How Does Love Show Up In The New Paradigm?

As this arrives in your inbox, I’ll have just landed at the airport on my way to my new apartment, and my new life. I suppose it’s an appropriate post for the day, because the day itself marks my transition into my own embodiment of New Paradigm. But just like the person who submitted the question, I’m just trying to keep my head above water with all the changes. I’ve been trying to keep my head above water for a year and a half. I really hope that today is the day the I start to find solid ground. I could use some reprieve, a chance to catch my breath and just rest for a minute.

My moving POD arrives tomorrow and I’ll be spending the rest of the week unpacking and putting my life back together. If I have any readers in the NYC/North Jersey area, I’d love to know who you are. I’m thinking of perhaps planning a meet up for this fall. It would be great to get to know some new people.

Question from a reader:

“With everything going on energetically, there is a lot written about LOVE–higher love, heart-lead love, unconditional love, spiritual love, etc…. Yet I am not really feeling the love and I don’t think I’m alone in this. I’m just trying to keep my head above water with all the damn changes going on with getting clear, releasing, releasing, then getting more clear, and then releasing again of course, and so on and so forth.

I totally get the higher vibe love but I don’t know how that is supposed to present itself to some of us. It certainly is not love n’ fluff (or hell, maybe it is), but I believe it has more to do with being in our truth and power. And I may have had some flavors or glimpses of what that feels like but in general I just have no clue.

How does that show up? I am honestly not feeling it and of course that is bothering me. I’m wondering what the heck is wrong. And I appease that thought with the idea that maybe I just need more time.”

Love, real love, presents itself to us unconditionally. When most people think of love, they just think of warm fuzzies and fluffy bunnies. They’re only thinking of the positive side of duality, and yet we know that everything we experience and everything in existence is love, including the darkness. Unconditional love means having an acceptance for all things, even the darkness within us. That’s integration of the shadow.

Now the funny thing about it is that duality is created from us not knowing that everything is love. When we don’t understand something from a loving, accepting place, we react and we resist, which creates fear and manifests it into the world. Once we start to recognize our oneness with Love, we begin to act from that place of unconditional acceptance, which means we no longer resist or react. The longer we do this, the less fear is manifested out into the world, until eventually it totally disappears. Make sense?

And you’re right–it does have to do with us being in our truth and power. Because unconditional love is the Truth and the Power. It shows up as understanding, empathy, acceptance, forgiveness, vulnerability, and eventually, fearlessness (I don’t mean that you don’t feel fear, but rather, you no longer allow fear to make your decisions for you). Those may be concepts that you’re more familiar with feeling on a regular basis. And I promise you, once you’re fully embracing all of those things, you’re going to feel that warm fuzzy crazy kind of fluffy bunny love for yourself, even in the face of things that other people would view as completely shitty, and while you’re still going to be hurt, you’re not going to get stuck there.

For more on New Paradigm, be sure to check out the video and blog post I did a couple of weeks ago with my friend Susan. You can catch it by clicking here. 

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