How to Know If You’re On the Right Path

Question from a reader:

“Here’s a good one for the blog and one I ponder frequently. Spiritual teachings from my past have guided that if doors open easily for you on your intended path and the task/mission/goal arrives unimpeded, you are on the right path. If doors keep closing for one reason or another and the path is difficult, it is “not meant to be” or you are traveling the wrong path for you. How does that fit with the law of attraction teachings and creating your own future? How do you know when to re-direct your path or your intentions?”

Let me just start out by clearing up one big fat misconception: THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A WRONG PATH. All paths lead to the same destination, some just take the scenic route and others take shortcuts.

If we were to have the mentality that when things get difficult, they’re just not meant to be, then we’d skirt through life attempting to take the path of least resistance and subsequently, we’d never be catalyzed to growth by the discomfort provided by those challenging experiences. Things are only challenging, according to the Law of Attraction, because you are resisting.

Something my guides once said to me was, “Without challenges, there would be no growth.” The real challenge lies in overcoming our own resistance. That’s how we grow.

The notion that we shouldn’t pursue difficult or challenging paths because they “aren’t meant to be” teaches us to run away from challenging situations that may call us to a higher version of ourselves. 

There is no need to redirect your path or your intentions. Instead, seek to understand what these situations are showing you about yourself. Find that thing, study it, understand it, release it, and then the doors will open because you have stopped resisting it.

How do you know you’re on the right path? If it is so good that it scares the living fuck out of you, you’re on the right path.

There’s always exceptions. Learn when to listen to your comfort zone.

I doubt most people find the path that scares the living fuck out of them to be the ‘easy’ route. It’s going to call you to rise up and be the best version of yourself, and it’s going to trigger a shitload of self-sabotage in the process.

Let me give you an example from my own life.

When I graduated from college, I entered the workforce and I worked at five consecutive miserable jobs. For a while, I wondered if it was just me, but then I realized that everyone around me was just as miserable, so it had to be the place. I worked for horrible bosses who were emotionally and verbally abusive, arrogant, dishonest, manipulative, passive aggressive, toxic tyrants. And every time I left a job, I would hope and pray that the next place would be better, and it would be exactly the same.

The thing was, though, I never respected myself, my own emotional well being, and my own sanity enough to tell those people to take their job and shove it. I willingly subjected myself to abusive environment after abusive environment because I needed the money and I was afraid that I wasn’t good enough and didn’t deserve better. Until one day I decided I did. And shortly after that, I got fired–on the very day I was going to turn in my two weeks notice. And it was the best thing that ever happened to me.

I started my own business, worked from home half the amount of hours I used to and made $30,000 more last year than I ever did working for someone else. I came and went when I wanted, I travelled when I wanted, and I worked when I wanted.

I had recruiters practically banging down my door and clients begging to hire me full time. I got to the point, in less than two years, where I could turn away projects I didn’t like because I didn’t need it. I wasn’t afraid anymore.

Running away and trying to take different paths didn’t work. Every one of those jobs was difficult, and I kept leaving them. But I kept finding myself right back in the same situation, because I hadn’t yet seen what it was that I needed to see about myself. Until I did. And then the doors opened… and it became easy.



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  1. Thank you for this beautiful post! I’m going through a similar situation to the one you describe in this post. It’s so great to hear what happened when you trusted yourself and believed in your worth! 🙂


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