Be the Change: Practicing Self-Awareness
You react to a person, they react to your reaction, others react to both of your reactions – this is the chain of events.
If you find yourself reacting strongly, especially in a negative way, that’s an automatic alarm that you need to start searching internally for the reason behind that reaction.
It may boil down to something as simple as learning acceptance for other human beings and reacting from a place of unconditional love, no matter how much you disagree with with the subject.
Your reaction to that subject puts more energy out into the world – will it be good energy or will it be negative energy? That energy will either perpetuate the cycle of negative energy, or it will shift course to something more positive.
So what is it exactly that we are supposed to change about ourselves that will affect change in the world?
I used the following article as an exercise in self-awareness. The results were intriguing! Try it out for yourself:
Read the following article. Instead of immediately coming to a conclusion about whether it is right or wrong, simply feel what you feel and become aware of that feeling. Is it a positive reaction? A negative reaction? Or are you neutral?
Especially if your reaction is negative, study that reaction. Think about why you are reacting that way, what is the underlying belief (NOT the rationality, the BELIEF) that caused it and what would your reaction be if it weren’t for those causes.
If you need a refresher on the difference between a belief and an opinion, see my last post.
Feel free to comment with your self-observations. How you reacted initially, how you questioned that reaction, and what you learned through the process of questioning it.
Here’s the article:
Now that you’ve read the article and followed the directions above – you can comment with your observations. Feel free to do this before you read the rest of the post, so as not to forget. And if you find yourself talking about what you think about the article itself, or any of the people involved, you’re doing it wrong!
Only focus on yourself, what you feel, and the belief behind what you feel – not your rationale.
Through my observation of the comments on the article as well as the comments and sentiments found within the article, I found this to be an interesting example of – well, a lot of things, really.
1 – Of how we’re conditioned by society to think.
2 – Of how different people can view something and see it completely differently depending on their own frame of reference.
3 – Of how people automatically assume the worst (in essence, fear has seeped into our lives and colored our view of many things).
4 – Of how we’re quick to judge a person and their character based on our own interpretation without even remotely examining said person’s motives or view (which are the primary determining factors of whether or not they believe something is right or wrong).
5 – Of how morality is fluid and utterly dependent on the individual.
6 – Of how society and culture influence our view of our natural state.
This exercise is a demonstration of HOW to go about sorting out your beliefs, pinpointing them, examining them, being able to recognize them and see how they are affecting your view of the world and your life as a whole, and then determining whether or not those beliefs serve the definition of who you really are or who want to be.
It’s also about recognizing that the attitude and beliefs you have about others are really beliefs you have about yourself.
Your primary mission for being here is “the creation and the expression of WHO YOU REALLY ARE.” according to Conversations with God.
Everything we do is an opportunity to decide who we are or who we are not in relation to other people. Those beliefs that we are projecting out onto others are really beliefs that we have about ourselves. In that action, we are making a statement about who we are.
When we become self-aware, we are able to more consciously decide who we are by getting rid of those unserving beliefs that aren’t really us.
“Decide who you are- who you want to be-and then do everything in your power to be that.”
Once you master this – you can be anything you want to be, because there will be no more self-limiting barriers. You’ll be able to to touch those walls of ego you built with your fingertips and watch them crumble before your eyes.
In addition, you will have learned to be the master of your emotions rather than letting your emotions master you, which will allow you to react calmly in the face of any situation. When you react calmly and from a place of unconditional love, it will change the way people react to YOU, thereby changing your daily interaction with the world around you.
It changes the very foundation upon which your worldview is built, and subsequently, how you see the world. You’ve become the change you wished to see, and now you are seeing it.
My first reaction to the reading was WOW. Your words captured a theme woven into my life right now. The reading has emboldened me to take back my power and inspired me to research some books, get back to meditating and provided a focus.Dina