I find that it’s a commonality for many – myself included – to criticize things that they don’t fully understand. The more surface-level the understanding of the subject matter, the harsher the criticisms tend to be.
It provoked me to such serious thought on the matters that I thought it would make for interesting blog fodder at the very least.
Many of the assumptions in articles such as these tend to take an outside-in approach to viewing spirituality . What I mean by that is, it is looking more so at how spirituality affects the outside world rather than the inside world, and that is a valid point, however, you have to take the two in context together in order to see the full picture, otherwise, you’ll miss the connection between them.
Ignore the Negative?
A quote from the article:
“Many people have been mislead to believe that you “give power” to something that is harmful simply by putting your attention upon it and becoming aware of it. Therefore, you should never pay attention to, or talk about anything that is “negative”.
CORRECTION: Seeing the negative for what it is creates the ability to prepare oneself against its harmful affects, and possibly even avert those affects entirely. Refusing to look at critical information just because it makes you feel scared or uncomfortable is willfully choosing to remain in a state of ignorance, and therefore to remain un-conscious.”
I agree with this one, for the most part. I see these kinds of articles everywhere within the new age community. Here’s one on Positive Thinking Tips, and another I saw accompanying a post about 12 Critical Things You Should Never Tolerate with this saying:
“Once you learn how to be happy, you won’t tolerate being around people who make you feel anything less.”
The problem with this is – if you had truly learned how to be happy, you would know that no one can make you feel anything less but YOU.
And if people are making you unhappy, they are merely triggering something within you that already exists. They serve a purpose, and cutting those people out of your life is not doing you any favors on learning how to be happy. It’s merely building a wall around yourself and creating resistance. And, as they say, that which you resist, persists.
I know, I know. In some instances, getting the heck out of dodge is just about all you can do because people are intentionally using you as an emotional punching bag – this is a boundaries issue. You have to find a healthy balance between upholding your boundaries (i.e. not letting people run over you) and finding acceptance for others.
But, as I said, I believe the author is focusing more on outside events – things that they perceive to happen to them, rather than looking at it from an emotional level. This is fine, but it ignores the fact that everything that happens “to” us is a reflection of what is “within” us.
If I could boil all of this down to one simple, easy-to-remember philosophy, it would be:
Do not attempt to banish negative people and situations. Do not ignore or resist negative emotions. Instead, turn inward to examine your reaction, find the source of it within you, look at it lovingly, and release it.
Cutting negative people out of your life and avoiding negative situations like the plague will do you absolutely no good in the long run, because the “negative” energy (I don’t even like the connotations that has) which brought them into your life in the first place is still within you, and it follows you for as long as you refuse to acknowledge it.
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My first reaction to the reading was WOW. Your words captured a theme woven into my life right now. The reading has emboldened me to take back my power and inspired me to research some books, get back to meditating and provided a focus.Dina