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It’s always great to find really cool, unique new shops that sell really awesome stuff, especially when they’re upcycled, earth friendly, all natural, charitable or just plain amazeballs. I follow several on Instagram that are to die for and today, I’m sharing them with you, just in case you need a last minute gift idea for Christmas!

Crystal Bar Soap – Canada

@crystalbarsoap
www.crystalbarsoap.com

100% vegan & cruelty free handmade crystal soaps and bath bombs. Each one of these lovelies comes with a crystal tucked inside.

Nectar & Bumble – UK

@nectarandbumble
www.nectarandbumble.co.uk

Gifts, homeware, and natural skincare. Nectar & Bumble donates 10% of its profits to bee charities to help save the bees.

Lonesome Hobo Glass – Wisconsin, USA

@lonesomehoboglass
www.lonesomehobo.com

Hand crafted terrariums from recycled window glass.

The Sacred Dimension – California, USA

@thesacreddimension
www.thesacreddimension.com

Spiritual treasures for the body and mind.

ShowMe Orgonite – Missouri, USA

@showmeorgonite
Orgonite artists and reiki masters. Each piece is reiki infused.

Poison Apple Print Shop – Pennsylvania, USA

@poisonappleprintshop
www.poisonappleprintshop.com

One person print shop. Handmade illustrations and prints.

Sisters of the Black Moon – Sweden

@sistersoftheblackmoon
www.sistersoftheblackmoon.com

Eccentricities for the shadows of your soul. Clothing, jewelry and accessories.

Becca Douglas Art – Virginia, USA

@beccadouglasart
http://www.designbyhumans.com/shop/BeccaDouglasArt/

Dream paintings, tattoo design, and personal portraits.

Get creative this holiday season and support conscious local businesses and artisans with your gift giving!

Xo,

Ash

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There are certain species of pyrophytic wildflower

There are certain species of pyrophytic wildflowers whose seeds are only capable of germination after being exposed to extreme heat. They literally require the destructive force of a forest fire to crack open and begin to grow.

From the ash of everything that has burned down around them, they are catalyzed, transformed, and set on a path to blossom.

You’re going to burn through many versions of yourself on this journey.

The growth is in the forgiving.

— Notes to Self

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I’ve been seeing this one pop up recently and th

I’ve been seeing this one pop up recently and thought it necessary to tackle the nuances in a blog post.

#Victimconsciousness does exist, but it’s often applied to the wrong people as a means of undermining their experiences.

The real #victimmentalities are actually self-preservation mechanisms present in narcissistic abusers, and it’s one of the things that causes a victim of abuse to shift into being a perpetrator of abuse.

Learn about the difference between victim-shaming and REAL victim mentalities over on my blog, and how to evaluate whether or not you have one:

inmysacredspace.com/victim-consciousness

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A lot of people tend to associate shadow work only

A lot of people tend to associate shadow work only with stripping away things about themselves that they or society might deem “negative.” But real shadow work doesn’t exactly look at the self as being positive or negative, it merely views it as conscious or unconscious. That can be literally anything.

It’s dualistic new age belief systems that shadow = negative that have created these misconceptions about shadow work.

The term “shadow” refers to Jung’s label for the unconscious mind.

Check out these common misconceptions about shadow work and learn more at inmysacredspace.com/shadow-work

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<img alt="A lot of people tend to associate shadow work only with stripping away things about themselves that they or society might deem “negative.” But real shadow work doesn’t exactly look at the self as being positive or negative, it merely views it as conscious or unconscious. That can be literally anything. It’s dualistic new age belief systems that shadow = negative that have created these misconceptions about shadow work. The term “shadow” refers to Jung’s label for the unconscious mind. Check out these common misconceptions about shadow work and learn more at inmysacredspace.com/shadow-work #speakyourtruth #spiritualcoach #spiritualcoaching #spiritualteacher #spirituality #spiritualawakening #spiritualjourney #spiritualgrowth #spiritual #spiritualquotes #personalgrowth #highervibes #lightworkersofinstagram #wellnesscoach #wellnessinfluencer #lightworkersofinstagram #lightworker #shadowwork #shadow #shadowworker" data-recalc-dims="1" data-src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" class="lazyload" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw=="><noscript><img src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" alt="A lot of people tend to associate shadow work only with stripping away things about themselves that they or society might deem “negative.” But real shadow work doesn’t exactly look at the self as being positive or negative, it merely views it as conscious or unconscious. That can be literally anything. It’s dualistic new age belief systems that shadow = negative that have created these misconceptions about shadow work. The term “shadow” refers to Jung’s label for the unconscious mind. Check out these common misconceptions about shadow work and learn more at inmysacredspace.com/shadow-work #speakyourtruth #spiritualcoach #spiritualcoaching #spiritualteacher #spirituality #spiritualawakening #spiritualjourney #spiritualgrowth #spiritual #spiritualquotes #personalgrowth #highervibes #lightworkersofinstagram #wellnesscoach #wellnessinfluencer #lightworkersofinstagram #lightworker #shadowwork #shadow #shadowworker" data-recalc-dims="1">

I reflect out loud a lot, and this is just an exte

I reflect out loud a lot, and this is just an external thought experiment: for those who don’t know, I’m a nondualist. That means, in respect to this post, I recognize that the binary way that we perceive existence (black and white, good and evil, this and that) are not just merely two sides of the same coin, but in many cases are what Neale Donald Walsch termed “divine dichotomies,” where two seemingly opposing things can both be true, simultaneously – or – they cancel one other and neither are true.

Example: either EVERYONE is special, or NO ONE is special. Both are simultaneously true. It’s a matter of perspective. If everyone is, in fact, special, then it means that by definition, no one is. This is a divine dichotomy.

We live in a reality that favors either/or… but what if it’s a yes/and?

I saw an Instagram post a while back that was tackling toxic positivity and shaming of negative emotions that said, “Don’t look on the bright side. Don’t focus on the positive. Don’t see the good in everything. Don’t look at the silver lining.” etc. with the implication of “just be with where you are.” And then I saw another that argued there’s no need to “reframe” failure as an opportunity or learn something from it and instead, we can just be ok with failing.

I thought about it for a bit, and I thought, why not do both?

Why does acknowledging a shadow mean you can’t look at the silver lining? Why does seeing the good in everything mean you have to ignore the negative? Why does acknowledging a person’s awfulness mean that you can’t also acknowledge their inherent humanness? Why does sitting with our own emotions mean we can’t acknowledge those of the person who hurt us? It is, after all, a sign of emotional intelligence to recognize that other people have feelings, too. Even shitty people.

(Continues in comments 👇🏻)

<img alt="I reflect out loud a lot, and this is just an external thought experiment: for those who don’t know, I’m a nondualist. That means, in respect to this post, I recognize that the binary way that we perceive existence (black and white, good and evil, this and that) are not just merely two sides of the same coin, but in many cases are what Neale Donald Walsch termed “divine dichotomies,” where two seemingly opposing things can both be true, simultaneously – or – they cancel one other and neither are true. Example: either EVERYONE is special, or NO ONE is special. Both are simultaneously true. It’s a matter of perspective. If everyone is, in fact, special, then it means that by definition, no one is. This is a divine dichotomy. We live in a reality that favors either/or… but what if it’s a yes/and? I saw an Instagram post a while back that was tackling toxic positivity and shaming of negative emotions that said, “Don’t look on the bright side. Don’t focus on the positive. Don’t see the good in everything. Don’t look at the silver lining.” etc. with the implication of “just be with where you are.” And then I saw another that argued there’s no need to “reframe” failure as an opportunity or learn something from it and instead, we can just be ok with failing. I thought about it for a bit, and I thought, why not do both? Why does acknowledging a shadow mean you can’t look at the silver lining? Why does seeing the good in everything mean you have to ignore the negative? Why does acknowledging a person’s awfulness mean that you can’t also acknowledge their inherent humanness? Why does sitting with our own emotions mean we can’t acknowledge those of the person who hurt us? It is, after all, a sign of emotional intelligence to recognize that other people have feelings, too. Even shitty people. (Continues in comments 👇🏻)" data-recalc-dims="1" data-src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" class="lazyload" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw=="><noscript><img src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" alt="I reflect out loud a lot, and this is just an external thought experiment: for those who don’t know, I’m a nondualist. That means, in respect to this post, I recognize that the binary way that we perceive existence (black and white, good and evil, this and that) are not just merely two sides of the same coin, but in many cases are what Neale Donald Walsch termed “divine dichotomies,” where two seemingly opposing things can both be true, simultaneously – or – they cancel one other and neither are true. Example: either EVERYONE is special, or NO ONE is special. Both are simultaneously true. It’s a matter of perspective. If everyone is, in fact, special, then it means that by definition, no one is. This is a divine dichotomy. We live in a reality that favors either/or… but what if it’s a yes/and? I saw an Instagram post a while back that was tackling toxic positivity and shaming of negative emotions that said, “Don’t look on the bright side. Don’t focus on the positive. Don’t see the good in everything. Don’t look at the silver lining.” etc. with the implication of “just be with where you are.” And then I saw another that argued there’s no need to “reframe” failure as an opportunity or learn something from it and instead, we can just be ok with failing. I thought about it for a bit, and I thought, why not do both? Why does acknowledging a shadow mean you can’t look at the silver lining? Why does seeing the good in everything mean you have to ignore the negative? Why does acknowledging a person’s awfulness mean that you can’t also acknowledge their inherent humanness? Why does sitting with our own emotions mean we can’t acknowledge those of the person who hurt us? It is, after all, a sign of emotional intelligence to recognize that other people have feelings, too. Even shitty people. (Continues in comments 👇🏻)" data-recalc-dims="1">

If you've seen my stories over the last few days,

If you've seen my stories over the last few days, you know I've been harping on this topic a bit.

I see a lot of talk on Instagram about what "real" love is and how to identify it.

"Real love looks like ____." "Real love does x, y, and z." "Real love doesn't blah blah blah."

But here's the rub: love is always real.

Love is not a thing that exists outside of you. It is an EMOTION inside of you. And your emotions and how you feel is ALWAYS REAL. Your emotions. Are. Real.

This idea that we can't trust our own emotions is more damaging than helpful. It just results in self-gaslighting.

Unpopular opinion alert: Someone who feels love for you can still treat you like shit. And it doesn't have a damn thing to do with you. It has everything to do with their own trauma.

I've loved people and treated them like shit. People who I know love me have also treated me like shit. People can act from a place of love, but it isn't always that simple. Especially when that person has suffered great trauma.

I understand that all of these discussions are attempting to help teach people what healthy relationships look like, but what they don't realize is that they are inadvertently causing a lot of people to gaslight themselves into believing their feelings weren't real, or worse, making trauma survivors feel like assholes for having a trauma response and self-sabotaging instead of "acting from love."

Can people lie about loving you? Or use their trauma as an excuse for their behavior and to avoid personal accountability? You bet your ass they can. Not all of them do, though, and it's perhaps unfair to inadvertently categorize all trauma survivors with narcissists and
sociopaths (who are also trauma survivors, by the way).

The problem for survivors of complex trauma, especially in a familial environment, is that love was not openly expressed through caring actions or was otherwise mixed in with abusive behavior (which doesn't mean it wasn't there, or that we are unworthy of it, as much as our trauma brain wants to tell us so) which leaves the trauma survivor with a very fucked up concept of what relationships should look like.

(Continued in comments👇🏻)

<img alt="If you've seen my stories over the last few days, you know I've been harping on this topic a bit. I see a lot of talk on Instagram about what "real" love is and how to identify it. "Real love looks like ____." "Real love does x, y, and z." "Real love doesn't blah blah blah." But here's the rub: love is always real. Love is not a thing that exists outside of you. It is an EMOTION inside of you. And your emotions and how you feel is ALWAYS REAL. Your emotions. Are. Real. This idea that we can't trust our own emotions is more damaging than helpful. It just results in self-gaslighting. Unpopular opinion alert: Someone who feels love for you can still treat you like shit. And it doesn't have a damn thing to do with you. It has everything to do with their own trauma. I've loved people and treated them like shit. People who I know love me have also treated me like shit. People can act from a place of love, but it isn't always that simple. Especially when that person has suffered great trauma. I understand that all of these discussions are attempting to help teach people what healthy relationships look like, but what they don't realize is that they are inadvertently causing a lot of people to gaslight themselves into believing their feelings weren't real, or worse, making trauma survivors feel like assholes for having a trauma response and self-sabotaging instead of "acting from love." Can people lie about loving you? Or use their trauma as an excuse for their behavior and to avoid personal accountability? You bet your ass they can. Not all of them do, though, and it's perhaps unfair to inadvertently categorize all trauma survivors with narcissists and sociopaths (who are also trauma survivors, by the way). The problem for survivors of complex trauma, especially in a familial environment, is that love was not openly expressed through caring actions or was otherwise mixed in with abusive behavior (which doesn't mean it wasn't there, or that we are unworthy of it, as much as our trauma brain wants to tell us so) which leaves the trauma survivor with a very fucked up concept of what relationships should look like. (Continued in comments👇🏻)" data-recalc-dims="1" data-src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" class="lazyload" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw=="><noscript><img src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" alt="If you've seen my stories over the last few days, you know I've been harping on this topic a bit. I see a lot of talk on Instagram about what "real" love is and how to identify it. "Real love looks like ____." "Real love does x, y, and z." "Real love doesn't blah blah blah." But here's the rub: love is always real. Love is not a thing that exists outside of you. It is an EMOTION inside of you. And your emotions and how you feel is ALWAYS REAL. Your emotions. Are. Real. This idea that we can't trust our own emotions is more damaging than helpful. It just results in self-gaslighting. Unpopular opinion alert: Someone who feels love for you can still treat you like shit. And it doesn't have a damn thing to do with you. It has everything to do with their own trauma. I've loved people and treated them like shit. People who I know love me have also treated me like shit. People can act from a place of love, but it isn't always that simple. Especially when that person has suffered great trauma. I understand that all of these discussions are attempting to help teach people what healthy relationships look like, but what they don't realize is that they are inadvertently causing a lot of people to gaslight themselves into believing their feelings weren't real, or worse, making trauma survivors feel like assholes for having a trauma response and self-sabotaging instead of "acting from love." Can people lie about loving you? Or use their trauma as an excuse for their behavior and to avoid personal accountability? You bet your ass they can. Not all of them do, though, and it's perhaps unfair to inadvertently categorize all trauma survivors with narcissists and sociopaths (who are also trauma survivors, by the way). The problem for survivors of complex trauma, especially in a familial environment, is that love was not openly expressed through caring actions or was otherwise mixed in with abusive behavior (which doesn't mean it wasn't there, or that we are unworthy of it, as much as our trauma brain wants to tell us so) which leaves the trauma survivor with a very fucked up concept of what relationships should look like. (Continued in comments👇🏻)" data-recalc-dims="1">

Self care is whatever you make of it. You can tota

Self care is whatever you make of it. You can totally smoke weed and dance your ass off to Slow Ride and Free Bird back-to-back in your kitchen (but fair warning, it’s a workout).

Don’t take yourselves too seriously, folks. It’s all ephemeral (😉).

Find me @ashrising

#selfcare #selfcarethreads #selfcaresunday #ephimeral #imhigh #shitmyspiritguidesays #lightworkersofinstagram #spiritualmeme #spirituality #spiritual #spiritualgrowth #spiritualjourney #wellness #wellnessjourney

<img alt="Self care is whatever you make of it. You can totally smoke weed and dance your ass off to Slow Ride and Free Bird back-to-back in your kitchen (but fair warning, it’s a workout). Don’t take yourselves too seriously, folks. It’s all ephemeral (😉). Find me @ashrising #selfcare #selfcarethreads #selfcaresunday #ephimeral #imhigh #shitmyspiritguidesays #lightworkersofinstagram #spiritualmeme #spirituality #spiritual #spiritualgrowth #spiritualjourney #wellness #wellnessjourney" data-recalc-dims="1" data-src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" class="lazyload" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw=="><noscript><img src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" alt="Self care is whatever you make of it. You can totally smoke weed and dance your ass off to Slow Ride and Free Bird back-to-back in your kitchen (but fair warning, it’s a workout). Don’t take yourselves too seriously, folks. It’s all ephemeral (😉). Find me @ashrising #selfcare #selfcarethreads #selfcaresunday #ephimeral #imhigh #shitmyspiritguidesays #lightworkersofinstagram #spiritualmeme #spirituality #spiritual #spiritualgrowth #spiritualjourney #wellness #wellnessjourney" data-recalc-dims="1">

People talk all the time about how you'll never be

<img alt="People talk all the time about how you'll never be able to find a healthy relationship until you heal, how we have to learn to be alone, how we have to learn to not need anyone. You'll rarely see them talk about how healing being in a healthy relationship can be, how we also have to learn how to be together, and how human beings are actually biologically wired to need each other. A year ago today I swiped right on a Tinder profile that was so simple, yet stood out among a sea of people who didn’t give a shit. One simple sentence was all it took: "I believe in connection and kindness." Men who look like him never say such things. Especially not on Tinder. I never expected to find love during a pandemic – and with someone who was 777 miles away in another country. The airport there was closed for the first month and a half we were talking, so we spent hours upon hours on FaceTime. Never less than two-three hours. Our record was 7 hours. And we talked about everything under the sun, counting down the days, hours, and minutes until we'd actually get to see one another in person. This short year with him has been one of the most healing experiences I've ever had. It's made me starkly realize how unvalued I was by the previous men in my life, and so grateful for what I have now. He never made me guess when it came to how he felt about me. He never made me wonder about his intentions. Three days in he told me, with no hesitancy, "l want to date you." He was clear, certain, and ever reassuring. I'd rarely experienced that, but that level of integrity and presence was everything I'd always wanted and needed. Up until this point I'd been dealing with men who wouldn't even cross a river to see me (god forbid anyone leave Manhattan...). And here was one who was willing to cross an ocean. I'd said I was willing to fly to China for the right person. As fate would have it, it was Bermuda. I’m counting my blessings today. I’ve never felt so beautiful and loved in another person’s presence." data-recalc-dims="1" data-src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" class="lazyload" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw=="><noscript><img src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" alt="People talk all the time about how you'll never be able to find a healthy relationship until you heal, how we have to learn to be alone, how we have to learn to not need anyone. You'll rarely see them talk about how healing being in a healthy relationship can be, how we also have to learn how to be together, and how human beings are actually biologically wired to need each other. A year ago today I swiped right on a Tinder profile that was so simple, yet stood out among a sea of people who didn’t give a shit. One simple sentence was all it took: "I believe in connection and kindness." Men who look like him never say such things. Especially not on Tinder. I never expected to find love during a pandemic – and with someone who was 777 miles away in another country. The airport there was closed for the first month and a half we were talking, so we spent hours upon hours on FaceTime. Never less than two-three hours. Our record was 7 hours. And we talked about everything under the sun, counting down the days, hours, and minutes until we'd actually get to see one another in person. This short year with him has been one of the most healing experiences I've ever had. It's made me starkly realize how unvalued I was by the previous men in my life, and so grateful for what I have now. He never made me guess when it came to how he felt about me. He never made me wonder about his intentions. Three days in he told me, with no hesitancy, "l want to date you." He was clear, certain, and ever reassuring. I'd rarely experienced that, but that level of integrity and presence was everything I'd always wanted and needed. Up until this point I'd been dealing with men who wouldn't even cross a river to see me (god forbid anyone leave Manhattan...). And here was one who was willing to cross an ocean. I'd said I was willing to fly to China for the right person. As fate would have it, it was Bermuda. I’m counting my blessings today. I’ve never felt so beautiful and loved in another person’s presence." data-recalc-dims="1">

There are certain species of pyrophytic wildflower

There are certain species of pyrophytic wildflowers whose seeds are only capable of germination after being exposed to extreme heat. They literally require the destructive force of a forest fire to crack open and begin to grow.

From the ash of everything that has burned down around them, they are catalyzed, transformed, and set on a path to blossom.

You’re going to burn through many versions of yourself on this journey.

The growth is in the forgiving.

— Notes to Self

#healing #spirituality #personaldevelopment #writingtoheal #personalgrowth #instadaily #motivation #words #honestlyworded #thoughtoftheday #lifequotes #soul #wordsthatheal #instagood #lifeadvice #spilledink #wordsofwisdom #highervibes #writer #healer #lightworker #awakening #quoteoftheday #lifequotes #reflectingoutloud

<img alt="There are certain species of pyrophytic wildflowers whose seeds are only capable of germination after being exposed to extreme heat. They literally require the destructive force of a forest fire to crack open and begin to grow. From the ash of everything that has burned down around them, they are catalyzed, transformed, and set on a path to blossom. You’re going to burn through many versions of yourself on this journey. The growth is in the forgiving. — Notes to Self #healing #spirituality #personaldevelopment #writingtoheal #personalgrowth #instadaily #motivation #words #honestlyworded #thoughtoftheday #lifequotes #soul #wordsthatheal #instagood #lifeadvice #spilledink #wordsofwisdom #highervibes #writer #healer #lightworker #awakening #quoteoftheday #lifequotes #reflectingoutloud" data-recalc-dims="1" data-src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" class="lazyload" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw=="><noscript><img src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" alt="There are certain species of pyrophytic wildflowers whose seeds are only capable of germination after being exposed to extreme heat. They literally require the destructive force of a forest fire to crack open and begin to grow. From the ash of everything that has burned down around them, they are catalyzed, transformed, and set on a path to blossom. You’re going to burn through many versions of yourself on this journey. The growth is in the forgiving. — Notes to Self #healing #spirituality #personaldevelopment #writingtoheal #personalgrowth #instadaily #motivation #words #honestlyworded #thoughtoftheday #lifequotes #soul #wordsthatheal #instagood #lifeadvice #spilledink #wordsofwisdom #highervibes #writer #healer #lightworker #awakening #quoteoftheday #lifequotes #reflectingoutloud" data-recalc-dims="1">

I’ve been seeing this one pop up recently and th

I’ve been seeing this one pop up recently and thought it necessary to tackle the nuances in a blog post.

#Victimconsciousness does exist, but it’s often applied to the wrong people as a means of undermining their experiences.

The real #victimmentalities are actually self-preservation mechanisms present in narcissistic abusers, and it’s one of the things that causes a victim of abuse to shift into being a perpetrator of abuse.

Learn about the difference between victim-shaming and REAL victim mentalities over on my blog, and how to evaluate whether or not you have one:

inmysacredspace.com/victim-consciousness

#narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissistsurvivor #victimmentality #narcissistrecovery #covertnarcissism #narcissisticabuseawareness #gaslighting #codependencyrecovery #codependent #codependentnomore #traumainformed
#spirituality #spiritualawakening #spiritualjourney #spiritualgrowth #spiritual #personalgrowth #lightworkersofinstagram #lightworkersofinstagram #lightworker #spiritualnarcissism #spiritualabuse #traumainformedspirituality

<img alt="I’ve been seeing this one pop up recently and thought it necessary to tackle the nuances in a blog post. #Victimconsciousness does exist, but it’s often applied to the wrong people as a means of undermining their experiences. The real #victimmentalities are actually self-preservation mechanisms present in narcissistic abusers, and it’s one of the things that causes a victim of abuse to shift into being a perpetrator of abuse. Learn about the difference between victim-shaming and REAL victim mentalities over on my blog, and how to evaluate whether or not you have one: inmysacredspace.com/victim-consciousness #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissistsurvivor #victimmentality #narcissistrecovery #covertnarcissism #narcissisticabuseawareness #gaslighting #codependencyrecovery #codependent #codependentnomore #traumainformed #spirituality #spiritualawakening #spiritualjourney #spiritualgrowth #spiritual #personalgrowth #lightworkersofinstagram #lightworkersofinstagram #lightworker #spiritualnarcissism #spiritualabuse #traumainformedspirituality" data-recalc-dims="1" data-src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" class="lazyload" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw=="><noscript><img src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" alt="I’ve been seeing this one pop up recently and thought it necessary to tackle the nuances in a blog post. #Victimconsciousness does exist, but it’s often applied to the wrong people as a means of undermining their experiences. The real #victimmentalities are actually self-preservation mechanisms present in narcissistic abusers, and it’s one of the things that causes a victim of abuse to shift into being a perpetrator of abuse. Learn about the difference between victim-shaming and REAL victim mentalities over on my blog, and how to evaluate whether or not you have one: inmysacredspace.com/victim-consciousness #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissistsurvivor #victimmentality #narcissistrecovery #covertnarcissism #narcissisticabuseawareness #gaslighting #codependencyrecovery #codependent #codependentnomore #traumainformed #spirituality #spiritualawakening #spiritualjourney #spiritualgrowth #spiritual #personalgrowth #lightworkersofinstagram #lightworkersofinstagram #lightworker #spiritualnarcissism #spiritualabuse #traumainformedspirituality" data-recalc-dims="1">

A lot of people tend to associate shadow work only

A lot of people tend to associate shadow work only with stripping away things about themselves that they or society might deem “negative.” But real shadow work doesn’t exactly look at the self as being positive or negative, it merely views it as conscious or unconscious. That can be literally anything.

It’s dualistic new age belief systems that shadow = negative that have created these misconceptions about shadow work.

The term “shadow” refers to Jung’s label for the unconscious mind.

Check out these common misconceptions about shadow work and learn more at inmysacredspace.com/shadow-work

#speakyourtruth #spiritualcoach #spiritualcoaching #spiritualteacher #spirituality #spiritualawakening #spiritualjourney #spiritualgrowth #spiritual #spiritualquotes #personalgrowth #highervibes #lightworkersofinstagram #wellnesscoach #wellnessinfluencer #lightworkersofinstagram #lightworker #shadowwork #shadow #shadowworker

<img alt="A lot of people tend to associate shadow work only with stripping away things about themselves that they or society might deem “negative.” But real shadow work doesn’t exactly look at the self as being positive or negative, it merely views it as conscious or unconscious. That can be literally anything. It’s dualistic new age belief systems that shadow = negative that have created these misconceptions about shadow work. The term “shadow” refers to Jung’s label for the unconscious mind. Check out these common misconceptions about shadow work and learn more at inmysacredspace.com/shadow-work #speakyourtruth #spiritualcoach #spiritualcoaching #spiritualteacher #spirituality #spiritualawakening #spiritualjourney #spiritualgrowth #spiritual #spiritualquotes #personalgrowth #highervibes #lightworkersofinstagram #wellnesscoach #wellnessinfluencer #lightworkersofinstagram #lightworker #shadowwork #shadow #shadowworker" data-recalc-dims="1" data-src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" class="lazyload" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw=="><noscript><img src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" alt="A lot of people tend to associate shadow work only with stripping away things about themselves that they or society might deem “negative.” But real shadow work doesn’t exactly look at the self as being positive or negative, it merely views it as conscious or unconscious. That can be literally anything. It’s dualistic new age belief systems that shadow = negative that have created these misconceptions about shadow work. The term “shadow” refers to Jung’s label for the unconscious mind. Check out these common misconceptions about shadow work and learn more at inmysacredspace.com/shadow-work #speakyourtruth #spiritualcoach #spiritualcoaching #spiritualteacher #spirituality #spiritualawakening #spiritualjourney #spiritualgrowth #spiritual #spiritualquotes #personalgrowth #highervibes #lightworkersofinstagram #wellnesscoach #wellnessinfluencer #lightworkersofinstagram #lightworker #shadowwork #shadow #shadowworker" data-recalc-dims="1">

I reflect out loud a lot, and this is just an exte

I reflect out loud a lot, and this is just an external thought experiment: for those who don’t know, I’m a nondualist. That means, in respect to this post, I recognize that the binary way that we perceive existence (black and white, good and evil, this and that) are not just merely two sides of the same coin, but in many cases are what Neale Donald Walsch termed “divine dichotomies,” where two seemingly opposing things can both be true, simultaneously – or – they cancel one other and neither are true.

Example: either EVERYONE is special, or NO ONE is special. Both are simultaneously true. It’s a matter of perspective. If everyone is, in fact, special, then it means that by definition, no one is. This is a divine dichotomy.

We live in a reality that favors either/or… but what if it’s a yes/and?

I saw an Instagram post a while back that was tackling toxic positivity and shaming of negative emotions that said, “Don’t look on the bright side. Don’t focus on the positive. Don’t see the good in everything. Don’t look at the silver lining.” etc. with the implication of “just be with where you are.” And then I saw another that argued there’s no need to “reframe” failure as an opportunity or learn something from it and instead, we can just be ok with failing.

I thought about it for a bit, and I thought, why not do both?

Why does acknowledging a shadow mean you can’t look at the silver lining? Why does seeing the good in everything mean you have to ignore the negative? Why does acknowledging a person’s awfulness mean that you can’t also acknowledge their inherent humanness? Why does sitting with our own emotions mean we can’t acknowledge those of the person who hurt us? It is, after all, a sign of emotional intelligence to recognize that other people have feelings, too. Even shitty people.

(Continues in comments 👇🏻)

<img alt="I reflect out loud a lot, and this is just an external thought experiment: for those who don’t know, I’m a nondualist. That means, in respect to this post, I recognize that the binary way that we perceive existence (black and white, good and evil, this and that) are not just merely two sides of the same coin, but in many cases are what Neale Donald Walsch termed “divine dichotomies,” where two seemingly opposing things can both be true, simultaneously – or – they cancel one other and neither are true. Example: either EVERYONE is special, or NO ONE is special. Both are simultaneously true. It’s a matter of perspective. If everyone is, in fact, special, then it means that by definition, no one is. This is a divine dichotomy. We live in a reality that favors either/or… but what if it’s a yes/and? I saw an Instagram post a while back that was tackling toxic positivity and shaming of negative emotions that said, “Don’t look on the bright side. Don’t focus on the positive. Don’t see the good in everything. Don’t look at the silver lining.” etc. with the implication of “just be with where you are.” And then I saw another that argued there’s no need to “reframe” failure as an opportunity or learn something from it and instead, we can just be ok with failing. I thought about it for a bit, and I thought, why not do both? Why does acknowledging a shadow mean you can’t look at the silver lining? Why does seeing the good in everything mean you have to ignore the negative? Why does acknowledging a person’s awfulness mean that you can’t also acknowledge their inherent humanness? Why does sitting with our own emotions mean we can’t acknowledge those of the person who hurt us? It is, after all, a sign of emotional intelligence to recognize that other people have feelings, too. Even shitty people. (Continues in comments 👇🏻)" data-recalc-dims="1" data-src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" class="lazyload" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw=="><noscript><img src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" alt="I reflect out loud a lot, and this is just an external thought experiment: for those who don’t know, I’m a nondualist. That means, in respect to this post, I recognize that the binary way that we perceive existence (black and white, good and evil, this and that) are not just merely two sides of the same coin, but in many cases are what Neale Donald Walsch termed “divine dichotomies,” where two seemingly opposing things can both be true, simultaneously – or – they cancel one other and neither are true. Example: either EVERYONE is special, or NO ONE is special. Both are simultaneously true. It’s a matter of perspective. If everyone is, in fact, special, then it means that by definition, no one is. This is a divine dichotomy. We live in a reality that favors either/or… but what if it’s a yes/and? I saw an Instagram post a while back that was tackling toxic positivity and shaming of negative emotions that said, “Don’t look on the bright side. Don’t focus on the positive. Don’t see the good in everything. Don’t look at the silver lining.” etc. with the implication of “just be with where you are.” And then I saw another that argued there’s no need to “reframe” failure as an opportunity or learn something from it and instead, we can just be ok with failing. I thought about it for a bit, and I thought, why not do both? Why does acknowledging a shadow mean you can’t look at the silver lining? Why does seeing the good in everything mean you have to ignore the negative? Why does acknowledging a person’s awfulness mean that you can’t also acknowledge their inherent humanness? Why does sitting with our own emotions mean we can’t acknowledge those of the person who hurt us? It is, after all, a sign of emotional intelligence to recognize that other people have feelings, too. Even shitty people. (Continues in comments 👇🏻)" data-recalc-dims="1">

If you've seen my stories over the last few days,

If you've seen my stories over the last few days, you know I've been harping on this topic a bit.

I see a lot of talk on Instagram about what "real" love is and how to identify it.

"Real love looks like ____." "Real love does x, y, and z." "Real love doesn't blah blah blah."

But here's the rub: love is always real.

Love is not a thing that exists outside of you. It is an EMOTION inside of you. And your emotions and how you feel is ALWAYS REAL. Your emotions. Are. Real.

This idea that we can't trust our own emotions is more damaging than helpful. It just results in self-gaslighting.

Unpopular opinion alert: Someone who feels love for you can still treat you like shit. And it doesn't have a damn thing to do with you. It has everything to do with their own trauma.

I've loved people and treated them like shit. People who I know love me have also treated me like shit. People can act from a place of love, but it isn't always that simple. Especially when that person has suffered great trauma.

I understand that all of these discussions are attempting to help teach people what healthy relationships look like, but what they don't realize is that they are inadvertently causing a lot of people to gaslight themselves into believing their feelings weren't real, or worse, making trauma survivors feel like assholes for having a trauma response and self-sabotaging instead of "acting from love."

Can people lie about loving you? Or use their trauma as an excuse for their behavior and to avoid personal accountability? You bet your ass they can. Not all of them do, though, and it's perhaps unfair to inadvertently categorize all trauma survivors with narcissists and
sociopaths (who are also trauma survivors, by the way).

The problem for survivors of complex trauma, especially in a familial environment, is that love was not openly expressed through caring actions or was otherwise mixed in with abusive behavior (which doesn't mean it wasn't there, or that we are unworthy of it, as much as our trauma brain wants to tell us so) which leaves the trauma survivor with a very fucked up concept of what relationships should look like.

(Continued in comments👇🏻)

<img alt="If you've seen my stories over the last few days, you know I've been harping on this topic a bit. I see a lot of talk on Instagram about what "real" love is and how to identify it. "Real love looks like ____." "Real love does x, y, and z." "Real love doesn't blah blah blah." But here's the rub: love is always real. Love is not a thing that exists outside of you. It is an EMOTION inside of you. And your emotions and how you feel is ALWAYS REAL. Your emotions. Are. Real. This idea that we can't trust our own emotions is more damaging than helpful. It just results in self-gaslighting. Unpopular opinion alert: Someone who feels love for you can still treat you like shit. And it doesn't have a damn thing to do with you. It has everything to do with their own trauma. I've loved people and treated them like shit. People who I know love me have also treated me like shit. People can act from a place of love, but it isn't always that simple. Especially when that person has suffered great trauma. I understand that all of these discussions are attempting to help teach people what healthy relationships look like, but what they don't realize is that they are inadvertently causing a lot of people to gaslight themselves into believing their feelings weren't real, or worse, making trauma survivors feel like assholes for having a trauma response and self-sabotaging instead of "acting from love." Can people lie about loving you? Or use their trauma as an excuse for their behavior and to avoid personal accountability? You bet your ass they can. Not all of them do, though, and it's perhaps unfair to inadvertently categorize all trauma survivors with narcissists and sociopaths (who are also trauma survivors, by the way). The problem for survivors of complex trauma, especially in a familial environment, is that love was not openly expressed through caring actions or was otherwise mixed in with abusive behavior (which doesn't mean it wasn't there, or that we are unworthy of it, as much as our trauma brain wants to tell us so) which leaves the trauma survivor with a very fucked up concept of what relationships should look like. (Continued in comments👇🏻)" data-recalc-dims="1" data-src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" class="lazyload" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw=="><noscript><img src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" alt="If you've seen my stories over the last few days, you know I've been harping on this topic a bit. I see a lot of talk on Instagram about what "real" love is and how to identify it. "Real love looks like ____." "Real love does x, y, and z." "Real love doesn't blah blah blah." But here's the rub: love is always real. Love is not a thing that exists outside of you. It is an EMOTION inside of you. And your emotions and how you feel is ALWAYS REAL. Your emotions. Are. Real. This idea that we can't trust our own emotions is more damaging than helpful. It just results in self-gaslighting. Unpopular opinion alert: Someone who feels love for you can still treat you like shit. And it doesn't have a damn thing to do with you. It has everything to do with their own trauma. I've loved people and treated them like shit. People who I know love me have also treated me like shit. People can act from a place of love, but it isn't always that simple. Especially when that person has suffered great trauma. I understand that all of these discussions are attempting to help teach people what healthy relationships look like, but what they don't realize is that they are inadvertently causing a lot of people to gaslight themselves into believing their feelings weren't real, or worse, making trauma survivors feel like assholes for having a trauma response and self-sabotaging instead of "acting from love." Can people lie about loving you? Or use their trauma as an excuse for their behavior and to avoid personal accountability? You bet your ass they can. Not all of them do, though, and it's perhaps unfair to inadvertently categorize all trauma survivors with narcissists and sociopaths (who are also trauma survivors, by the way). The problem for survivors of complex trauma, especially in a familial environment, is that love was not openly expressed through caring actions or was otherwise mixed in with abusive behavior (which doesn't mean it wasn't there, or that we are unworthy of it, as much as our trauma brain wants to tell us so) which leaves the trauma survivor with a very fucked up concept of what relationships should look like. (Continued in comments👇🏻)" data-recalc-dims="1">

Self care is whatever you make of it. You can tota

Self care is whatever you make of it. You can totally smoke weed and dance your ass off to Slow Ride and Free Bird back-to-back in your kitchen (but fair warning, it’s a workout).

Don’t take yourselves too seriously, folks. It’s all ephemeral (😉).

Find me @ashrising

#selfcare #selfcarethreads #selfcaresunday #ephimeral #imhigh #shitmyspiritguidesays #lightworkersofinstagram #spiritualmeme #spirituality #spiritual #spiritualgrowth #spiritualjourney #wellness #wellnessjourney

<img alt="Self care is whatever you make of it. You can totally smoke weed and dance your ass off to Slow Ride and Free Bird back-to-back in your kitchen (but fair warning, it’s a workout). Don’t take yourselves too seriously, folks. It’s all ephemeral (😉). Find me @ashrising #selfcare #selfcarethreads #selfcaresunday #ephimeral #imhigh #shitmyspiritguidesays #lightworkersofinstagram #spiritualmeme #spirituality #spiritual #spiritualgrowth #spiritualjourney #wellness #wellnessjourney" data-recalc-dims="1" data-src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" class="lazyload" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw=="><noscript><img src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" alt="Self care is whatever you make of it. You can totally smoke weed and dance your ass off to Slow Ride and Free Bird back-to-back in your kitchen (but fair warning, it’s a workout). Don’t take yourselves too seriously, folks. It’s all ephemeral (😉). Find me @ashrising #selfcare #selfcarethreads #selfcaresunday #ephimeral #imhigh #shitmyspiritguidesays #lightworkersofinstagram #spiritualmeme #spirituality #spiritual #spiritualgrowth #spiritualjourney #wellness #wellnessjourney" data-recalc-dims="1">

People talk all the time about how you'll never be

<img alt="People talk all the time about how you'll never be able to find a healthy relationship until you heal, how we have to learn to be alone, how we have to learn to not need anyone. You'll rarely see them talk about how healing being in a healthy relationship can be, how we also have to learn how to be together, and how human beings are actually biologically wired to need each other. A year ago today I swiped right on a Tinder profile that was so simple, yet stood out among a sea of people who didn’t give a shit. One simple sentence was all it took: "I believe in connection and kindness." Men who look like him never say such things. Especially not on Tinder. I never expected to find love during a pandemic – and with someone who was 777 miles away in another country. The airport there was closed for the first month and a half we were talking, so we spent hours upon hours on FaceTime. Never less than two-three hours. Our record was 7 hours. And we talked about everything under the sun, counting down the days, hours, and minutes until we'd actually get to see one another in person. This short year with him has been one of the most healing experiences I've ever had. It's made me starkly realize how unvalued I was by the previous men in my life, and so grateful for what I have now. He never made me guess when it came to how he felt about me. He never made me wonder about his intentions. Three days in he told me, with no hesitancy, "l want to date you." He was clear, certain, and ever reassuring. I'd rarely experienced that, but that level of integrity and presence was everything I'd always wanted and needed. Up until this point I'd been dealing with men who wouldn't even cross a river to see me (god forbid anyone leave Manhattan...). And here was one who was willing to cross an ocean. I'd said I was willing to fly to China for the right person. As fate would have it, it was Bermuda. I’m counting my blessings today. I’ve never felt so beautiful and loved in another person’s presence." data-recalc-dims="1" data-src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" class="lazyload" src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw=="><noscript><img src="https://i2.wp.com/inmysacredspace.com/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png?w=1080&ssl=1" alt="People talk all the time about how you'll never be able to find a healthy relationship until you heal, how we have to learn to be alone, how we have to learn to not need anyone. You'll rarely see them talk about how healing being in a healthy relationship can be, how we also have to learn how to be together, and how human beings are actually biologically wired to need each other. A year ago today I swiped right on a Tinder profile that was so simple, yet stood out among a sea of people who didn’t give a shit. One simple sentence was all it took: "I believe in connection and kindness." Men who look like him never say such things. Especially not on Tinder. I never expected to find love during a pandemic – and with someone who was 777 miles away in another country. The airport there was closed for the first month and a half we were talking, so we spent hours upon hours on FaceTime. Never less than two-three hours. Our record was 7 hours. And we talked about everything under the sun, counting down the days, hours, and minutes until we'd actually get to see one another in person. This short year with him has been one of the most healing experiences I've ever had. It's made me starkly realize how unvalued I was by the previous men in my life, and so grateful for what I have now. He never made me guess when it came to how he felt about me. He never made me wonder about his intentions. Three days in he told me, with no hesitancy, "l want to date you." He was clear, certain, and ever reassuring. I'd rarely experienced that, but that level of integrity and presence was everything I'd always wanted and needed. Up until this point I'd been dealing with men who wouldn't even cross a river to see me (god forbid anyone leave Manhattan...). And here was one who was willing to cross an ocean. I'd said I was willing to fly to China for the right person. As fate would have it, it was Bermuda. I’m counting my blessings today. I’ve never felt so beautiful and loved in another person’s presence." data-recalc-dims="1">